Dirty Little Things Vulva Owners Want in the Sheets (Do These and Drive Them Wild!)

These bedroom moves will unlock their wild side tonight and level up your sex life like never before!

Imagine you and your partner are in the heat of the moment, and just when things start to heat up, something feels suddenly… off.

Your partner isn’t losing themself like you know they could, so what if the secret to unlocking their wildest moans is these naughty little tricks?

And we’re talking about moves here that go beyond vanilla, so think of teasing touches, power play, and sensory surprises tailored to their anatomy to drive them absolutely wild (and coming back for more).

You’d better stick around, because doing these tips will surely transform you from a generic lover to a legend.

The Secrets Your Vulva Owning Partner Wants in Bed

Vulva owners may want a lot of things, but here are the most common ones they wanna experience with you in bed.

They Want You to Surprise Them With a Toy

Showing them some random toy that looks intense might be a bit too much, so if you’re both new to this, try to keep the pressure low. 

First, you can show them a picture of the toy of your choice and ask them if you can both try it. Watch how they react, and if they see you as a partner full of concern and always putting their needs first, they’ll feel safer and more open with you, and might ask for more later. 

Go for cute and user-friendly types like toys from BeYourLover that are made from safe and easy-to-clean materials, and you can just display these items out in the open, and no one can tell.  

Give Them Some Dirty Talk

Communication and asking for consent before the deed is great, but dirty talk can also help create that vibe to change your dynamics and make things kinkier.

Giving them dirty phrases can surely turn them on, but only if you do it right, so carefully choose your words, give it some trial and error, and gauge their reactions.

You can also use some derogatory sentences, but only if it’s consensual, because some vulva owners loved being called naughty, while some recoiled at the idea.

Before you guys get wild in the sheets, it's best to talk it out first about what's gonna happen, so you won't shock each other and kill the vibe.

They’d Love Some Bondage and Blindfolds

If you guys haven’t played with bondage yet, then you’re missing out on the fun!

Because bondage can be a super liberating thing, and they just put themselves in their partner's hands and let them be in charge.

The best part? It’s the sensory high. When you cover their eyes, they get more aroused, and every touch you give them can feel ten times more intense. They can also be on edge because they have no clue about what you're going to do next, which is usually the fastest way to get them begging for more.

Related: Setting Up a Safe and Fun BDSM Scene at Your Own Home

And try not to put too much pressure, talk about everything first, and remember that the whole point is to turn up the heat for your partner.

Also, make sure to use quality toys, like this Green BDSM bondage kit, to prevent any mishaps or injuries while you’re both playing.

They Want You to Desire Them (As Much as They Crave You)

Showing your partner how much you really want them, or just by saying that you can’t stop thinking about them the entire day, can be the most arousing thing ever for vulva owners. 

It turns them on, too, when you say these things when they least expect it. So don’t be vague, and you can be as naughty as you can. 

For example, you can send them messages (when you’re not yet together) about how you can’t stop thinking about them when they came out of the shower this morning. Or tell them that you can’t just wait to touch and smell them tonight.

You can be touchy when you’re together, or carry them to the bedroom when they’re home, and these little things will go a long way.

Giving gestures like these can also help relationships through gratitude, as stated by One Plus One UK. 

They Need You to Help Them Release Their Inner Baddie

Let’s be real: every society has a way of making vulva owners feel like they have to hide their wild sides. Or wanting anything more than "vanilla" is bad or somehow wrong.

Please... that’s totally outdated. Because having intense play is often exactly what they're craving, and it'll be a blast for both of you once you try it.

Go for powerplay! Pull their hair gently to show some dominance and make things red hot. Or you can pull your partner with a vulva on their hips while they're riding you on top to let them know you're really into it.

And another sneaky move is to go behind them, then wrap an arm around their torso to cup their breast and kiss their nape. 

But if you wanna add more kink in your relationship, you can use this Red BDSM bondage kit. And while you're at it, you might wanna add these NOIR vibrating nipple clamps for that extra nipple play. 

Related: How to Have a Nipple Orgasm: Your Simple Guide to Pleasure

They Want You to Master Oral

Forget the idea that an erect, huge, and hard penis will always be the star of the show, because if you really wanna blow your partner’s mind, you need to look after their pleasure first. 

And if you have a partner who is also a vulva owner, you might have an idea that for the majority of them, oral sex is the real secret to reach those toe-curling orgasms, so putting your tongue to work will always give you the best results, rather than just focusing on penetration.

It’s also not always about the stamina or size; it’s about the technique and paying attention to their reactions, and if you’re a total noob, don’t sweat it, because this BeYourLover Heart can help you to give your partner a licking sensation like a pro.

Related: Why My Girlfriend Refuses Oral Sex and What to Do About It

They’re Super Into Toe Worship

First, you don't need a foot fetish to appreciate their feet, and although toes aren't usually seen as a "sexy" part, once you turn them into something erotic, it can be a huge power move.

If you get so carried away that you start kissing and sucking on their toes, you’re showing them that you’re so obsessed with every inch of their body.

Nothing is off-limits here, and it's a great way to show how much you just crave them.

But if toe sucking isn't really your vibe, no worries, you can likely get the same reaction by sucking their fingers instead and work your way up. It’s not really about the body part, but the message that you’re totally consumed by your partner.

They Secretly Want You to Play With Their Backside

Look, anal play will always be a "chat about it first" kind of move, so always make sure you've had a real conversation and have their full, "hell yes" consent before you even think about going there.

And once both of you are on the same page, playing with their (or your) backside can be a total game-changer, so whether you’re just messing around with your fingers or using anal toys, it can be a great way to break the routine.

Just keep it clean, and a quick shower beforehand is a must, and please don't skip the lube, and if you take it slow and keep the vibe cool, anal play can add serious excitement in the sheets.

You can also always start with the easiest toys to use, like this Azul butt plug or this Strawberry-shaped one.

They’re Down for Public Fun

We know some couples are totally cool with a little PDA, like hand-holding, a quick kiss, or whatever. 

Start small. You can put a hand on their lower back, and slip it much lower when no one’s looking, or you can ask them to run an errand on a dress while wearing a toy like this BeYourLover Squeeze Me, and the thrill will always lie in the secret between the two of you.

The key is trying things and seeing what you both like, so chat about it, and if an idea sounds fun, go for it, but if it doesn’t work, no big deal, and to give you an idea, as per Alyssa Girdwain of Women’s Health, the most creative places to have sex would be your car, balcony, a wooded area, or rooftop to keep it safe for now. 

Get a Mirror and Watch It Together

The next time you’re hooking up, get close by using a mirror and tell your partner how freaking hot they look, then you can also suggest some angles to give you both a better view.

Pull over a large mirror before you guys start, and stand in front of it, then take your vulva owner from behind, or they can also reach and touch you while you both watch. It can be a hot thing to see everything, your face, their face, all of it.

Watch yourselves go at it and turn the whole thing into a show, and trust us, watching yourselves doing the action can make everything feel more intense.

Get Icy With It

Next time, when things start to heat up, you can grab an ice cube and run it slowly over your partner’s skin, neck, thighs, chest, and tummy, so the shock from the cold will drive them wild.

Your partner will love it once you trace shapes or write words on their body during temperature play, as it contrasts the feeling of hotness they feel, and seriously, ice cubes are so cheap, simple, yet effective.

As always, pay attention to how they react, and if they flinch or laugh, maybe try to ease up, but if they moan or pull you closer instead, then you’re on the right track.

They Wanna See You Masturbate

Yes, this one can take some guts, but it’s seriously worth it, so next time you’re in the mood, tell your partner to just sit back and watch.

Get comfortable by leaning back against a pillow, and don't hide, show them how you like to be touched, and keep your eyes locked on the whole time. 

Let them see everything, from your face to your body, and how you like it when getting yourself off, and it can feel so empowering as heck, and it will surely drive them absolutely crazy, and usually, they won’t sit too long and watch, because they’ll be begging you to join in.

If you wanna add more fire, you can use strokers like these BeYourLover M1 or Skull Man to show your partner what it looks like once you release those fireworks.

Let’s Wrap Up These Naughty Tips (But Not Too Tight)

Alright, there you have it, a whole bunch of ways to turn the heat way up in your sexy space.

Sex shouldn’t be a guessing game for you guys, but it’s about trying stuff. So laugh it off if it gets awkward, or high-five if it's hot.

Go be a legend and check BeYourLover’s collection of toys, because the goal isn’t to totally follow anyone’s guide, but it’s to write your own.