Do you feel you’re more like roommates than lovers? It’s time to bring back that spark in your relationship.
It’s common for long-term couples to lose what they used to have back then when they were on a honeymoon phase or just dating. But because life happens when responsibilities and bills make you realize that it’s not all unicorns and rainbows in a relationship, that spark gets lost as time goes.
One of the best ways to bring back that spark is to revamp what you do in the bedroom, and kama sutra provides some helpful guide to spice things up.
No, you don’t need to have circus-level sex. What you need is to rebuild intimacy, confidence, and connection with simple, realistic positions you can actually enjoy. After all, that’s what kama sutra is for.
Don’t wait for passion to magically return. Start with the basic kama sutra positions you can do tonight and start falling in love with each other again, night after night.
What Is Kama Sutra?
Kama sutra is a pretty popular term. Once you hear it, you can imagine it to be a bible of several sex positions. Many assume that these positions require you to become Simone Biles or have the kind of flexibility that will qualify you to a circus troupe.
That mental image is exactly why so many couples never touch it.
What most people don’t realize is that the original Kama Sutra describes roughly 64 different sexual positions or acts, but they’re not created to be just a guide for sex positions. According to the Bad Girls Bible, it also contains texts on finding and sustaining love and knowing whether this love is good or bad.
It doesn’t stop at intercourse, which is what most people think it is. The text talks about foreplay, oral techniques, kissing, touching, and emotional connection as important parts of pleasure.
The real heart of it includes intimacy, play, and variety.
What Makes the Best Kama Sutra Positions
Let’s strip out the dense, boring history and give you what you actually came for: positions that feel good, explained in a way you can try tonight.
A massive study by Lucie Krejkova of National Institute of Mental Health looked at how 9000 Czech and Slovak heterosexual adults often used 13 common sex positions, and how those positions related to orgasm, especially for women.
Here’s what the data showed:
- Face‑to‑face with the vulva owner on top and sitting face‑to‑face were strongly linked to more frequent female orgasms during intercourse.
- Kneeling rear-entry (classic doggy style) was actually negatively associated with female orgasm when used on its own.
- Men and women use positions at similar frequencies, so who chooses them isn’t the real issue.
- What did differ? How pleasurable each position felt to each gender. In other words, the mechanics matter more than the tradition.
In other words, the positions that look hottest on camera aren’t always the ones that reliably get her off in real life.
The best Kama Sutra positions are the ones that:
- Align your bodies for clitoral and G‑spot contact
- Allow fine control over angle, depth, and rhythm
- Keep you emotionally and physically connected
The 4 Hidden Pleasure Mechanics Inside Kama Sutra Positions
Here are the four key techniques that make penetrative sex more pleasurable for many vulva owners.
1. Angling
Instead of straight in-and-out, you change the angle of penetration so the penis (or toy) nudges the front wall of the vagina, where the G‑spot area and the clitoral nerves are. You can do it by tilting her hips up or down, propping her pelvis on a pillow, and letting her control the tilt when she’s on top.
2. Rocking
Think grinding more than thrusting. Your bodies stay close, and instead of hammering her in and out, you do a smooth, rubbing motion that makes their clitoris in contact with your skin.This can be possible if you are in a seated or face-to-face kama sutra position.
Plus, it feels more intimate and easier to sustain.
3. Shallowing
Not everyone can get off being deep inside your partner. If we say shallowing, it means keeping penetration closer to the areas where there are tons of sensitive nerve endings. You can do it by doing short and teasing thrusts.
4. Pairing
If you want a sure-fire way to make your partner with a vulva moan in pleasure, try combining penetration with direct clitoral stimulation by using fingers, vibrator, or her own hand.
Consider this if you’re doing positions that don’t naturally rub the clitoris. Once you know these, kama sutra positions will be more effective.
15 Best Kama Sutra Positions for Everyone
If you’re trying to reconnect after kids, stress, or the “roommate phase,” start here. Face‑to‑face positions are the best if you want to increase intimacy, eye contact, kissing, and full‑body closeness.
1. Janukurpara (Supported Standing Passion)
One partner is lifted off the ground and cradled in the other’s arms in a standing embrace. The receiving partner wraps their arms around the giver’s neck, while the giving partner supports under the legs and butt. This position offers incredible eye contact, deep penetration, and a rush of adrenaline that feels cinematic.
How to make it better:
- Whisper what you love about your partner while you’re wrapped around them.
- Use a mirror if available, because looking at yourself in the mirror while having sex can stimulate you both.
- If you’re the giver, do this position if you are confident enough that you can carry and support your partner all throughout..
Safety tips:
- Do this near a sturdy wall so the lifting partner can lean.
- If full lifts are tough, rest the receiving partner’s butt on a table or do the tripadam (ballet dancer) instead. We’ll discuss more about this later.
2. Kakila (69)
Kakila is your classic 69, where one partner lies on their back while the other positions themselves on top in the opposite direction so each partner’s mouth is aligned with the other’s genitals. It’s a powerful way to explore mutual pleasure and feel like teammates in bed.
How to make it better:
- Do not hesitate to guide each other on what feels good for each of you. This will allow you to learn each other’s bodies so sex can feel better each time.
- Alternate who’s on top to find which angle and pressure feel best for both of you.
- Use this opportunity to be creative on how you stimulate your partner by using a vibrator.
3. Shankha (Pretzel Dip)
One giver lies comfortably on their side while the other kneels, straddling the partner’s bottom leg. The giver curls the receiver’s other leg across their body.
How to make it better:
- Use your hands to stimulate your partner.
Safety tips:
- Place a pillow between the receiver’s knees if hips are tight.
- Move slowly at first to find the best angle for comfort and pleasure.
4. Sammukha (Standing Wall)
The receiving partner leans their back against a wall, spreading their legs while the penetrating partner stands in front and enters from the front. This gives a strong feeling of being held and pinned, making it hotter and more erotic.
How to make it better:
- Use eye contact.
- Talk dirt.
- Use your hands to stimulate your partner.
- Try a variation that uses restraints, such as handcuffs.
Safety tips:
- If there’s a height difference, place the receiver on a sturdy step or low piece of furniture.
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5. Virsha (Reverse Cowgirl)
The penetrating partner lies on their back while the receiving partner straddles them, facing away. The receiver can sit or kneel, leaning forward and often holding the giver’s legs or ankles for balance. This angle can hit the G‑spot or prostate, which can blow your minds.
How to make it better:
- The receiver can guide the giver’s hands to their hips, butt, or breasts for enhanced stimulation.
- The receiver can use a wand for added stimulation.
Safety tips:
- Move slowly when experimenting with depth to protect the penetrating partner from bending or slipping out at dangerous angles.
- Use a pillow under the giver’s hips for better alignment.
6. Tripadam (The Ballet Dancer)
As you can remember, this was the one I suggested when for some reason you can’t do the janukurpara.
In Tripadam, both partners stand facing each other. The receiving partner lifts one leg, while the giving partner supports under the lifted knee and enters. With three legs on the ground, you create a tripod (thus, the term), which is more stable than janukurpara, but still intimate.
How to make it better:
- Hold each other close at the waist or shoulders for intimacy and balance.
- Move hips in grinding movements instead of thrusting.
Safety tips:
- Use a wall or furniture for additional support.
- Keep the lifted leg only as high as feels comfortably sustainable.
7. Ghattita (Face-Off)
The giving partner sits on a chair or the edge of a bed while the receiving partner straddles them, facing them. Penetration is possible, but even simple grinding of bodies and pelvises can be intensely pleasurable and emotionally intimate.
How to make it better:
- Kiss torridly, and make out like it’s the first time you’ve met.
- Share fantasies while maintaining eye contact.
Safety tips:
- Choose a sturdy chair or bed.
- If knees get sore for the receiving partner, place a cushion under them.
8. Bhamara (Cowgirl’s Helper)
Bhamara is a cousin of classic cowgirl. The receiver kneels on top of the giver, using their partner’s chest or shoulders for support and sliding along the thighs. The giver assists by holding the receiver’s hips or thighs and gently thrusting upward to share the workload.
How to make it better:
- The receiver can tune in to their own pleasure while the giver follows their lead.
Safety tip:
- Place a pillow under the giver’s lower back for comfort.
9. Indrani (Knees-to-Chest)
The receiving partner lies on their back, drawing their knees toward their chest. The giving partner kneels in front, penetrating while having full access to the receiver’s chest, clitoris, or other erogenous zones with their hands.
How to make it better:
- Use a cock ring that also stimulates your partner’s ass or clit.
Safety tips:
- If pulling knees to the chest is hard, place your hands behind the receiver’s thighs for support.
- If there’s any pain, do not force it. Resort to Uttana Samputa, also known as the missionary if this position can’t be done.
10. Padmasana (Lotus)
The giving partner sits cross-legged while the receiving partner sits in their lap, facing them, often wrapping their legs around. This position focuses on intimacy, so it’s more about rocking, grinding, and kissing, rather than thrusting.
How to make it better:
- Look into each other’s eyes and breathe in sync.
- Whisper one thing you adore or appreciate about your partner.
Safety tips:
- If full cross-legged sitting is uncomfortable, the giver can sit with legs slightly bent or supported by pillows.
- The giver can cushion their back if they want to last longer in this position.
11. Uttana Samputa (Missionary)
Uttana Samputa is the classic face-to-face position, where the receiver lies on their back, and the penetrating partner lies on top. Don’t underestimate it, as this good old pose is versatile for various variations and intimacy.
How to make it better:
- Talk during sex by asking what makes each other feel good.
- Alternate between just simply holding each other still and thrusting.
Safety tips:
- If breathing feels a bit hard for the receiver, the giver can support some weight on their forearms.
- Use a pillow under the receiver’s hips to change the angle and relieve lower back tension.
- You can also use a vibrating cock ring that stimulates both partners.
12. Vijhrimbitaka (G‑Whiz)
The receiver lies on their back while the giver kneels and lifts the receiver’s legs so each rests on a shoulder. This opens the pelvis and allows for a more direct, upward angle of penetration that many find intensely pleasurable.
How to make it better
- This position can feel overwhelming for the receiver, so always check in.
- Use your hands to stimulate your partner.
- If you want it to be more kinky, use an butt plug.
Safety tip:
- Support the receiver’s hips with a pillow if lower back pressure builds.
- The giver should avoid slamming or thrusting all of the sudden. If you want to do it, start slowly.
13. Parshva Samputa (Side-by-Side)
In Parshva Samputa, both partners lie on their sides, facing each other.
How to make this better:
- Talk dirty while thrusting or grinding.
- Start slow.
Safety tip:
- Use pillows to support necks and between knees for proper alignment.
- If penetration angle is tricky, the penetrating partner can slightly shift their hips forward or backward.
14. Utphallaka (Pinball Wizard)
The receiver lies on their back with knees bent and hips raised in a bridge. The giver kneels between their legs and penetrates from the front. This lifts the pelvis, often bringing the G‑spot or prostate into a more accessible position.
How to make this better:
- Vary hip height to explore different sensations.
Safety tips:
- Use a wedge pillow under the lower back or hips so the receiver doesn’t have to hold the bridge entirely on muscle strength.
- Stop if there’s strain in the lower back, if it can’t be resolved by just lowering the hips or adjusting the position.
15. Nagabandha (The Snake)
The receiver lies face down with legs extended, lifting their hips slightly to create a small space beneath their pelvis. The giver enters from behind, supporting themselves with straight arms and adjusting alignment for comfort and pleasure.
How to make this better:
- The giver can whisper into the receiver’s ear, kiss their neck, or run hands down their back.
- The receiver can use verbal cues or hand signals to adjust speed or depth.
Safety tips:
- Place a pillow under the hips to reduce pressure and refine the angle.
- If there’s numbness in knees or hips, use a different position or take a break.
Frequently Asked Questions on Kama Sutra Positions
How many sex positions are actually in the Original Kama Sutra?
Kama Sutra outlines around 64 sexual positions or acts. But remember, each one is more like a base recipe, meant to be tweaked, combined, and adapted to what you and your partner can actually do.
Which Kama Sutra position is best for those with a vulva?
Based on modern studies, positions that are both face‑to‑face and female‑above, like the lotus and the cowgirl are linked to a higher likelihood of orgasm for women, especially when combined with rocking, angling, and clitoral stimulation.
Is the Kama Sutra just about sex positions?
No. The original text is actually a broader guide to love, attraction, social life, and virtuous living. The sex positions are one (very famous) part of a much bigger picture that prioritizes connection, respect, and mutual pleasure.
Do we need to be flexible or super fit to try Kama Sutra positions?
Absolutely not. The most useful modern interpretations, including the guide this article is based on, are for everyone.
Special Thanks To:
Adriana - Author - Bad Girls Bible
Lucie Krejkova - National Institute of Mental Health
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