You’re in the mood. But you’re not quite sure of what to do. Come on in and make sex hotter with these positions!
Spicing Up Intimacy With Different Positions
There’s something wonderful about this. Keeping that fire of excitement alive in your sexual connection. Sometimes, you need a shift. Shifting angles or maybe finding a new rhythm. Your adventurous energy. Yup it makes things feel so fresh again.
Nah. you don’t need to turn your bedroom action into some kind of… circus performance for you to have amazing sex. The best sex positions? Not always wild. But they do make you moan and giggle mid-kiss. Pull each other closer to build anticipation.
Sex positions can give you those elusive wow moments. Moments that you can’t stop thinking about afterward. This guide will help you explore. Different positions, cozy options, favorites and delightfully unusual stuff.
For the adventurous, naughty person in you. Think of this as your friendly, slightly cheeky roadmap. Getting better intimacy without the weight of pressure. No olympic-level flexibility required. Just your curiosity, hot chemistry and aha! A pillow or two.
You think the angles you choose don’t make an impact in your encounters. Many would beg to differ though. Because the truth is, angles can make a difference. But what if you’re a first-timer? That shouldn’t stress you out at all.
No one gets it perfect the first time. And besides, sex is not about performance. No need to approach it like you’re a seasoned adult sexy star. For beginner-friendly stuff, give this video a watch…
Ways to Enjoy the Missionary Position
Missionary. It gets unfairly labelled, dismissed as basic or boring. But come on, It’s one of the most intimate sex positions you can do. Eye contact. Kissing. Closeness and synchronized breathing.
There’s a reason couples (including you) keep coming back to it. To keep that bedroom excitement alive. The secret is in the variations. Let’s look at ‘em.
Pillow Lift
Place a pillow underneath your hips (as the receiving partner). While the giver stays on top of you to penetrate. Doing the classic missionary sex. While your body’s slightly elevated. This tiny adjustment can do wonders.
The angle opens you up for a deeper, smoother and sometimes, more intense contact. Without requiring much extra effort. It’s incredibly comfortable. Perfect for slow and connected, very intimate sex.
And as a bonus, the pillow lift is so beginner-friendly. It’s like a wedge that lifts you up. No tedious, special preparation needed. It works beautifully if you’re aiming for longer make-out sessions. To gradually heat things up.
Leg Wrap
While doing the missionary sex position, let the receiving partner wrap their legs. Around the giver’s waist or lower back. This creates a tighter, closer feeling. Naturally pulling your bodies together.
As a receiver, you get more control over your rhythm and level of closeness. The leg wrap can make you feel emotional. In the best way of course. You know, it’s your physical way of saying: Don’t go anywhere.
It’s like your legs are embracing their waist. While your genitals are making some steamy, pleasurable contact. Even looks like you’re wrestling or something. But you’re actually getting naughty with them.
Lazy Missionary
How to do the lazy missionary position? Here, your partner (the giver) would lower their chest. Instead of holding themselves up with their arms. Chest completely against yours. This is what you can call cozy sex.
Warm and affectionate. Ideal for slow pacing. Tangled sheets, sleepy kisses and soft laughs. A sexual bond that builds organically. Perfect for mornings. When neither of you wants to leave the bed just yet. But you still want to get intimate.
Deep Angle
If you’re the giver here, let your partner raise their legs. Place them on your shoulders for support. This changes the angle dramatically. Leading to stronger sensations while you penetrate them. Deeply.
This deep angle variation still retains the face-to-face nature of the classic missionary. The room to connect with your partner intimately. Still open. Enjoy deeper thrusts because of your partner’s elevated angle.
With a little help and support from your shoulders. Serving as a warm wedge for their legs to lift the receiver up. But a pillow below their waist can make this more optimal. A fair warning though, flexibility helps here. Do some stretching first.
Sideways Missionary
Here, you and your partner would be slightly tilted. Sideways. Rather than staying flat. This is also a great option if you’re going for a more relaxed type of missionary. Taking the pressure from your arms and hips.
Sideways missionary is fantastic for slower pacing. Prolonged intimacy. Natural and surprisingly sensual. As you’re enjoying the waves of an erotic-themed ocean. Not too shabby for a good missionary time isn’t it?
With a few tweaks in your angle, refreshing sensations usually follow.
Standing Sex Positions to Try
Standing sex positions bring you that spontaneous element. Letting you have that can’t keep your hands off each other kinda vibe. Immediately exciting. They’re playful. They’re passionate. Ideal picks if you enjoy movement and variety.
Wall Press
One of you would lean against a steady wall for support. While your giving partner stands in front of you. Once you're facing each other, you can raise a leg (low or high) to open yourself up. For their entry and proceed to penetration.
Take advantage of your interesting, visually appealing angle. Feel each thrust. Do some kissing. Heavy breathing. Whispered moans and words that turn you on. Ooh, so naughty. Fondle and squeeze sweet, sensitive spots like you can’t get enough.
An incredibly hot and thrilling position. Almost cinematic. The urgency of it, the standing up setting. It feels passionate and very adventurous. Without you having to do complicated stuff. Walls deserve more appreciation in your sex life.
Standing Lift
Need to get your balance in check here. Especially if you’re the giver. In standing lift position, you’re basically going to carry your partner. Their legs aren’t touching the ground. While their arms are around your shoulders/neck/upper body.
What makes this great is this also creates intense closeness. Excitement too. A very energetic and playful way to have sex. This is great if you have comfortable strength and balance. A quick tip, do this before leg day. Not after.
So your legs wouldn’t be too tired for the balancing act. In the middle of your fun coital activity. Mild stretches would help before you begin. Some hydration and breaks too. To avoid cramps and other disruptive stuff.
Bent-Over Counter Position
As a receiver, you’ll be slightly bent over a sturdy counter or table top. Opening yourself to your partner. Who will enter you from behind. This position offers stability. Even if you’re both standing. The support comes from your kitchen counter/table.
Keeping things exciting. Still intimate despite not being a face to face position. Works well if you want extra leverage and rhythm. Kitchen counters and tables, silent witnesses to their owners’ naughty moments. Wink!
Shower Stand
You like sex when it gets wet and wild? We hear you. This position would be a great pick. Doing the deed while standing. Something is so irresistible about it eh? You’ll be facing your partner on this one.
Or maybe while slightly turned away in the shower. You can do it with the shower on or off. But yeah. Feeling those drops of water on your skin? Very appealing. Refreshing yet steamy. Set it to warm if the option’s there.
The steam adds another layer of sexiness. This atmosphere adds a lot. The key here is slow movement and balance (so you won’t slip). Less about acrobatics. But more about teasing and touching. Savoring the moment.
Press your back against the wall. You can lift a leg as they enter you in front. Pretty similar to wall press but with a watery twist. Your bath mats. Underrated heroes here.
One Leg Hook
In one leg hook position, you need to lift one leg. Wrap it around your partner’s thigh or hip. Find the right angle for seamless penetration. You can also put your arms around them. For better balance and better support.
What makes it great? This creates deeper closeness. With a very sexy visual dynamic. While keeping things very manageable for both of you. It’s very spontaneous without calling your chiropractor afterward.
Variations of the Doggy Style
Doggy style is a beloved one for a reason. It offers you a strong rhythm. Plus flexibility and endless room for variation. Beyond its physical side, many folks love it. Because it’s playful and expressive. Deeply exciting as well.
Classic Doggy Style
Simple. Effective. Iconic. Doing the doggy style requires you to kneel and be on all fours. If you’re the receiver. Your partner would mount and enter you from behind. You know like doggies do.
This position allows easy movement and pretty adjustable pacing. You can also try multiple angles here. Leaving plenty of room for you to touch and tease. Giving you freedom to change intensity. Naturally.
Positions become classics for a very good reason right. Looks hot, feels hotter. Very pleasurable.
Pillow-Supported Variation
Place a pillow/wedge under your partner’s chest, tummy or abdomen. If you’re the giver this time. This gives them a more relaxed option to enjoy the doggy. Instead of relying on their arms and knees. In supporting their weight.
Pillows reduce that awful strain. Creating a softer and more comfy angle. This version is perfect for a slower doggy style session and extended intimacy. Comfort. Pleasure. Very underrated combo.
Flat Doggy
Another relaxed variation. Instead of supporting yourself with hands and knees, you’ll be lowering yourself. In a way that your chest and tummy are touching the bed’s surface you’re lying on.
A flatter pose. Your partner (the giver) will be on top of you. Penetrating you from behind. Flat or lazy doggy is a more laid-back but still intimate version. Without losing the angle that you love about the classic doggy style.
Less athletic performance and flexibility. More like you malting into your mattress together.
Standing Doggy
Wanna do the doggy style while standing up? You can! In standing doggy, the giver and receiver are both standing. The giver stands straight up while supporting the receiver’s weight with hands. The receiving partner bends slightly forward. Align your bodies where entry/penetration gets easy.
Once angled/posed properly, mind-blowing coitus can begin. Doggy style. Standing up. This one’s a spontaneous and energetic twist. Good position if you enjoy quicker, more passionate encounters. Props to your sturdy furniture, your walls and your partner’s hands (they give extra support).
Side Doggy
Side doggy. You’re gonna lay on your sides. Giver (behind) and receiver (front) slightly bent. Similar to spooning. Another cozy, less intense version. Side doggy is excellent for slow-paced sex. There’s also room for some caressing, fondling and squeezing.
You can do this during lazy weekend mornings. Or during late night intimacy. After a hard day’s work. When none of you wants to do cardio-fueled sex, pick this version. Your bed will take care of supporting your weight.
Get closeness and rhythm without, you know… exhausting yourselves.
Having Fun with Oral Sex Positions
Up next, oral sex positions. You’re going crazy on each other’s privates. As if you can’t get enough of a delicious, super sexy snack. It highlights attention, anticipation and playfulness.
Giving you an opportunity to experience teasing and connection. Orally.
Edge of the Bed
In this position, one of you would lie down. With hips near the edge of your bed. The giving partner kneels down. Putting their face in front of the receiver’s genitals. To give cunnilingus or fellatio. Suck or lick with varying speed and intensities.
This position is comfortable, accessible. Allowing both of you to relax. Because a relaxed state matters more than you think. When your bodies’ aren’t cramping or awkwardly bent, everyone can have a good time. Here, you can switch roles as well.
Face Sitting
Also known as queening. You can sit at the top of your partner’s face. So you can get oral stimulation on your genital or anal area. Plenty of ways to do this. You can face forward, away or sideways.
As long as you give your partner room to catch their breath. What do you get from this? Intense closeness. As the receiver, you gain control over pressure and movement. You can also switch roles here.
A friendly note. Communication is very important on this one. Comfort and balance (yours and theirs) always come first. Before any of you comes/orgasms in a royal, erotic fashion.
Chair/Couch Position
A seated position. With more emphasis on oral sex. One of you would sit comfortably in a chair or couch. Meanwhile, the other kneels to give a blowjob or eat pussy. A pretty simple, straightforward setup. That very reason is what makes it great.
Easy access. Strong visual connection. Oh yeah. You can have eye contact while giving/receiving oral stimulation. Both of you in a comfortable pose. Get a pillow or two for some cushioning for your butt or knees.
This position will make your confidence levels skyrocket. Something’s so empowering when someone you care about and fancy looks at you. Like you’re the main character in a smutty story you’re creating.
69
Yep. Another classic in the gallery of oral pleasure. Simultaneous stimulation. You give and receive delightful sensations. At the same time. In 69, one of you is positioned on top of the other.Your genital area is in your partner’s face.
And vice versa. One lies comfortably. The other’s slightly crouched. Supported by elbows and knees. Once in position and the angles are right, you can start the oral sex party. Fellatio, cunnilingus and some ass worship. You’re good to go.
The 69 position is playful and adventurous. Deeply interactive too. The laughter and adjustments? All part of the fun. Like tiny charming details. Making your shared experience more enjoyable.
Sideways 69
Same concept. With a slightly different angle. Instead of you being on top or below the other, you lay on your sides. Your face on their crotch and vice versa. Pick a comfy surface so you can avoid friction. Get busy licking, sucking, blowing.
Even though the classic is pretty relaxed already, this one’s even more comfortable. No strain and pressure on your knees or elbows. A lazier but still satisfying version. If you want to get cozy while having oral sex, sideways 69 is fantastic.
Treat’s right in your face… Enjoy!
A Joyride with Cowgirl Positions
The cowgirl position is just… Fantastic! Because it encourages these 3 C’s. Confidence. Control. Creativity. Allowing you (if you’re the receiving partner) to… Hey, another C! Control the depth, speed and rhythm of coitus. Naturally.
With those elements, you level up pleasure and your attractiveness. So let’s look at these fabulous variations of the beloved cowgirl position.
Classic Cowgirl
As the receiver, you’re going to be on top of your partner. They’d be lying down. You’re gonna straddle them. While facing forward. Rock back and forth. Maybe up and down. Or be creative by doing some grinding.
Get face to face with your partner. You can lean back a little. Or maybe just stay in the middle. Your hands, resting comfortably on the giver’s chest. See what works with a few angle adjustments.
Let them play with your nipples. For another layer of pleasure. Something’s so incredibly sexy, so orgasm-inducing about that. This classic gives you more control as a receiver. You take over the movement and pacing.
What a sweet deal! Classic cowgirl also creates lovely eye contact opportunities. Being fully in charge of your sexual rhythm? That’s undeniably powerful. Ride your way to sexual bliss.
Reverse Cowgirl
Same as the classic cowgirl position. But instead of you facing each other, the receiver's gonna face away. This change gives you a different angle and sensation. Adding a dose of visual excitement in the process.
Instead of holding the giver’s chest or tummy, you’ll be holding on their thighs or knees. This feels playful too. The confidence factor, still there. But the adjustment makes your sexual encounter look more daring.
Squatting Cowgirl
As a partner on top here, you raise your thighs and spread a little wider. Squatting instead of sitting fully with your knees down. What makes this variation hot? This opens you up for more energetic movement.
Control is still present. You can still enjoy the rocking and grinding. But don’t stay in a squatted pose for too long. If you don’t want your thighs saying ouch later on.
Sitting and Kneeling Sex Positions
Sitting and kneeling. They create intimacy without asking you to be some kind of contortionist. Or someone with an athlete’s level of stamina. These sex positions are ideal if you like control and closeness. Without compromising your comfort.
Lap Dance
If you’re the giver, find a comfortable chair. Or sit at the edge of your bed. Then let your partner ride you. While they’re facing the other way. Surprisingly, the lap dance still feels intimate. Even if you’re not facing each other.
You can turn this act into a more exciting one. How? With a prelude. Like a super playful striptease. Maybe a hot, hot, hot dance number. Once in position, touching would feel natural. Your movements can be slow and sensual.
But you can turn the intensity up when your sexual engines get hot enough. Grinding, rocking and some fooling around will be your tickets to sensual paradise. This one’s great if you want a nice dose of entertainment. Before and during (even after) intercourse.
Lotus
Also called yab-yum. The lotus is a very intimate, face to face position you can try. If you're the giver, you’ll be sitting cross legged. Your receiving partner would be on top. To straddle. Their legs, wrapped around your waist.Contact you say? A very close one?
This position is a great choice for you. Close enough to feel each other’s breathing. Eye contact gets more intimate here. Sounds cheesy but don’t knock it until you try it.When you experience the lotus, you’ll understand the poetic side of sex.
Hugs, kisses, eye contact while grinding or rocking. All possible with the lotus. This position sends a message that you can’t get enough of each other. Without looking desperate and awkward.
Book Ends
Given that you don’t have knee problems and all that. This is a great position. If you enjoy some sexy action while you’re facing your partner. While you’re both kneeling. Another passionate and very intimate thing to try.
The closeness, the flexibility, the ease in adjustment. Those things make you and them stay actively involved in this close, satisfying ride. You can hug and kiss. You can touch each other’s butts. While your naughty bits down there are making contact.
Backseat Driver
A seated sex position for another wild ride. Both of you would be seated. The receiver is slightly kneeling in some settings. While the giver’s on a sturdy chair or edge. You can even do this inside your car.
The receiver straddles while facing the other way. This position lets you create a relaxed rhythm. With plenty of full-body contact. Even in a limited space. You can hold your partner’s legs, thighs or waist.
For a more relaxed rhythm, try stretching your legs. If they lean their back on you, there’s more chance for closer contact. Like kissing and whispering. They can also lean forward if they want to focus on vaginal/anal penetration.
The combination of closeness, playfulness, trust and control. Those elements make this sex position a favorite among couples. While keeping things affectionate, comforting and emotionally connected.
A Few Unusual and Adventurous Sex Positions
You want to shake things up. With novelty and experimentation. A few laughs here and there to add excitement. Not every position needs to become your favorite. But you know… Trying things together is the most fun part.
Pretzel
One of you would lie on your side. While the other kneels to position themselves between the other’s legs. Don’t be intimidated by the name. You won’t go twisting around here. But it’s pretty unique to be honest.
The angle’s kinda sweet looking right? And what makes this a nice and quirky choice for you? It adds a visual element that is so creative. Without having to sacrifice the intimate closeness between you two.
Again, no need to feel scared by this. No requirement for athletic level of flexibility. The pretzel’s going to make sex feel surprisingly natural.
Spider
No. No. Don’t call Peter Parker just yet. But you can play your own version of spider here. The naughtier kind. Looks complicated at first. But when you get the hang of it, once you settle, it’s more playful.
In the spider position, you’ll face each other. While you’re leaning back. Supporting yourselves with your arms/elbows. Your legs intertwined. Your movements, more on the slower, controlled lane.
Slower movement makes the shift in rhythm more noticeable for you. What makes this great is intense visual connection. You can see each other’s reaction. That POV thing is super arousing. Teamwork? You’ll need that here.
Every smile, every glance. Tiny fragments that make this position more intimate. Less performative as well. Part flirtation, part position. Totally erotic good time.
Wheelbarrow
You want to get even more playful. Do the wheelbarrow. It’s an adventurous one that gives a spike of energy in your sex life. If you’re the receiver, you need to support yourself with your hands.
In the meantime, your partner stands up and supports your lower half. By holding your hips. Your legs lifted and partially spread in the air. When you get the right angle and balance, you can start anal or vaginal contact.
The wheelbarrow needs you to have strength, balance and communication. Trust matters a lot. If you are playful and experimental and you have the stamina to be, this is an awesome position. Bold, energetic, still intimate.
Things to Keep in Mind Before Trying These Positions
Physical Comfort and Limitations
Not every position’s going to work for you. Our bodies, built differently. Varying sizes, shapes and conditions. Before experimenting, consider these: Comfort. Trust. Communication. Overall safety. Start with easier variations first. Before attempting the more advanced stuff.
Consent
By communicating and consenting, your intimate activities get smoother. Check in with each other during sex. Without breaking your rhythm or momentum. Make each other feel safe, heard, connected. Enthusiastic consent. Mutual comfort. Prioritize them.
Emotional Connection
Trying something new. It’s exciting. Sometimes, you feel vulnerable and shy about certain things. So please keep that warm, playful attitude going. To diffuse awkwardness. Keeping intimacy fun instead of performative. Focus on connection. Not perfection.
Patience and Flexibility
Some positions may instantly become your favorites. While the others, yeah. They simply won’t work. It’s okay. So don’t beat yourselves up over those. Don’t take the harmless fumbles too seriously. Laughter and staying relaxed lead to better chemistry anyway.
Enhancing Your Experience While Doing These Sex Positions
With the right environment, practices and accessories, trying different sex positions feels safer. Smoother and more enjoyable. With the almighty lube, you reduce discomfort and improve your movements.
Lubrication becomes even more vital in your deeper, longer sessions. What about protection? It adds peace of mind. Allowing both of you to just relax. Staying present in the moment. You’re trying to make these positions more playful.
Best way to achieve that playfulness? Toys! They give extra and convenient stimulation and teasing. Some variety too. Without overshadowing your intimate connection. Good hygiene. Comfortable surroundings.
Yes. They matter too. By having those, you make each position easier, safer to do. Giving you more confidence even when things get super steamy. Sex positions become more fun, less stressful.
Looking for a great collection of sex toys can be daunting sometimes. But hey, don’t worry about it. Let these lovely and naughty companions make your sex positions escapade super thrilling!
While You’re Busy Finding the Right Angle
Don’t let your sex life turn stale like an old biscuit. The best sex positions for you. They don’t have to be so bizarre. You pick the ones that give you comfort and connection. Making you feel seen and desired.
Some positions will instantly work and be your instant favorites. Some will end in laughter because of a few harmless fumbles. Either way, both outcomes are dope. As long as you’re having that sweet and mutual enjoyment, you’re doing it right!
Special Thanks:
Casey Tanner - The Expansive Group founder
