Spoiler: the real thrill of a foursome isn’t the number of bodies, find out what is.
Let’s be honest, you’ve thought about it too. Groupsex, such as foursome fantasies can be thrilling. Imagine more hands, more mouths, more cocks and pussies, are equal to more pleasure. But every time you try to learn more, the internet gives you a full list of porn videos or a boring TED talk on sexual sociology.
So, where’s the middle ground if you’re just a curious individual, who just wants to experience it for yourself or wants to spice up your sex life?
Here’s something for a vote of confidence: according to Times of India, 31% of New York residents have experienced it, and many say groupsex (foursomes, included) opened the door to deeper connection, confidence, and pleasure.
But still, it’s normal to have questions like, what if it’s awkward, what if someone feels left out, what if it destroys my relationship?
As long as you’re not cheating, you’ve established boundaries, and have the right mindset, foursomes should not destroy your relationship. Here are some important things you need to know when engaging in foursome sex. Top 10 foursome sex positions, included.
Preparations & Mindset You Should Have
Before tangling your bodies together, make sure that you are prepared all the way. As much as it is exciting and hot, it can also be mental and emotional. It’s important you’re sure what to expect before jumping into it.
Here are some things you need to consider:
Communication
The gateway for a hot foursome is communication. Have an open and honest talk before any clothes come off. Talk about comfort zones, curiosities, and boundaries.
Discuss what’s on the table, what’s off limits and every participant should have full control over what happens to their body, or if you’re gonna incorporate some BDSM, at least the sub is aware what you’ll do to their body.
Use a safeword or signals that will tell you that you need to take a break, pause, or slow down.
Discussing expectations is also helpful, because it will let everyone know if everyone will be having an oral, a blowjob, a double penetration, triple, whatever.
Comfort and Space
As for pleasure, you won’t have a problem with that for a foursome, but to make this possible, make sure that it won’t turn into chaos.
So, choose your location. Choose the place where four people can freely move without breaking or shattering anything, or elbowing someone. Also, prepare the necessary props like toys, pillows, and supports.
Set the mood by using soft lighting, music, and set the right temperature.
Safety and Hygiene
According to Mensxp, group sex can be linked to desires for sexual competence, excitement, and erotic novelty but comes with risks including sexually transmitted infections and emotional challenges.
So, make sure that all the participants are free from STI, and to add protection, use condoms and dental dams. Changing condoms between partners is a must-do to protect yourself from STI.
Also, the more bodies, the more movement and friction, so make sure you have a lubricant within reach.
Be prepared by showering and shaving. If you’ll be the host of your sex party, make sure that the sheets and the surroundings are clean and fragrant, though you’re gonna mess it up later.
Prepare Your Mind
Aside from the essentials like the condoms and lubes, you also need to have the right mindset. If you’re married, and it’s your first time swinging, make sure that both of you are really up for it, that sex will just be sex, unless of course you’re in a polyamorous relationship.
Sometimes, you might encounter someone who still feels awkward about this or still hesitant. Be patient and do not force someone to do things they’re not willing or ready to do. Instead, be supportive. Who knows, you might end up changing their minds.
Also, stay open. Regularly check in. If you’re the giver, ask your partner if they are okay. If you feel that things are getting a little boring, you can suggest switching things up.
Foursome-Friendly Positioning Tips
The downside of foursome is that, things can get deliciously complicated. What looks hot in fantasy, usually doesn’t happen in real-life. Remember that this isn’t porn. There’s no choreography or training here.
So here are some positioning tips to make sure that everyone will feel comfortable and the experience will be inclusive.
Coordinating Four Bodies
Think of this as the art of human geometry. When everyone’s limbs and hips are in motion, spacing becomes your best friend. Everyone should be able to touch and be touched. It’s no fun if someone’s stuck watching from the sidelines, unless it’s the part of the foursome position.
Role Rotation & Inclusivity
It’s best to talk about roles beforehand. Talk about who’s on top, who's behind, who’s teasing, who’s being pleasured. This helps prevent everyone from feeling like a wallpaper in the corner. Also, it can also be hot to reverse roles and give each person a chance to lead and surrender to build trust and pleasure and to experience both being the giver and the receiver.
Top 10 Foursome Sex Positions to Try
Now, here’s the meaty part. Try these foursome sex positions you can try on your next sexcapade:
1. Group Sex for Beginners
How: Start simple. Person 1 and Person 3 can lie on their backs while Person 2 and Person 4 can position themselves on top in a face-to-face position with their partners. Imagine it as a dual classic missionary position.
Protip: Keep close to the other pair. Close enough so everyone can make eye contact, touch, or caresses across the group. It’s a great way to ease into the foursome experience, especially if it’s your first time to be in a groupsex rendezvous, while ensuring an intimate experience.
Don’t force yourself to act like pro if you don’t feel like it. Take it slow. You may feel awkward having sex with other couple present, but focus on the sensation. If you want added spark, you can use a toy like Rosalia, it provides shared vibration for a couple with a penis and a vulva.
2. The Royal Treatment
How: Person 1 is in the center while Persons 2, 3, and 4 explore their body using every tool of pleasure, such as the hands, lips, tongues, chest, genitals, or sex toys. The goal is simple; just give Person 1 full sensory attention while they receive and just surrender to the sensation completely.
Protip: The givers can focus on stimulating Person 1’s different erogenous zones, such as the neck, chest, thighs, back, breasts, genital, and nipples. You can add the Cloud IPO into the mix. A giver can use it to stimulate the different ooh-la-la zones of the royalty.
3. The Carousel
How: Person 1 lies comfortably on their back while Person 2 kneels over their face. Person 3 and 4 each straddle one of Person 1’s legs by grinding and moving at their own pace. This creates a sensual chain of pleasure where everyone is connected and fully immersed.
Protip: Person 1 can choose to be active by using their hands to stroke the closest partner’s thighs or if they can, they can also stroke or rub the genitals. You can also add a toy into the mix, such as the Rosey. This toy is a good addition as it can be used in different ways you can imagine.
4. The Oral Exchange
How: This sex position is perfect for swinging couples. Person 1 and Person 2 sit side by side. Person 1’s real-life partner, Person 3, kneels between Person 2’s legs to perform oral sex, and the same goes for Person 2’s real-life partner. This setup is ideal for couples who are turned on by watching their partner pleasure or be pleasured by someone else.
Protip: Partners can switch roles anytime to keep everyone engaged. This sex position also provides the opportunity for easy eye contact, shared touch, teasing, and kissing. You can even add Tara for hands-free clitoral bliss while the mouth stays busy.
5. Watch the Ride
How: Person 1 lies comfortably on their back while Person 2 straddles and rides them. Meanwhile, Person 3 joins in from behind, offering the delicious double penetration. Person 4 will take the best seat, pleasuring themselves as they watch the others in action.
Protip: If you want to level up your voyeurism, you can use a sex toy to stimulate yourself. U use the Angela to reach the highest point of pleasure, while matching it to the every thrust and moan of your partners.
6. The Oral Train
How: Person 1 lies on their back while Person 2 settles between their legs to give oral sex. Above person 1, Person 3 positions themselves on all fours, straddling Person 1’s mouth. Finally, Person 4 kneels or stands in front of Person 3 to receive oral sex.
Protip: Person 2 is the only one who doesn’t receive an oral pleasure, but it doesn’t mean they can’t touch themselves. Take time to find the right angle, so the “train” will run smoothly.
7. The Crossfire
How: Person 1 and Person 2 lie on their backs with their feet touching and legs spread to form a diamond shape. Person 3 and 4 straddle them, sitting back-to-back while facing their respective partners. This is a hot foursome sex position as it creates a mirror of movement and eye contact.
Protip: Use your free hand to stimulate your partner. You can also add the Kiala to the mix. These nipple massagers can take pleasure to the next level.
8. The Pleasure Loop
How: The Pleasure Loop is almost the same as the Oral Train, except that the Person 2 now straddles Person 1, not giving him an oral. Person 1 lies comfortably on their back as Person 2 straddles them in a classic cowgirl position. Person 3 positions themselves on hands and knees over Person 1’s face, while Person 4 stands or kneels in front of Person 3 to enjoy some oral attention.
Protip: Connect with the others through eye contact and subtle touches. Use varying paces and angles to provide different sensation.
9. The Chain Reaction
How: All four partners line up on their feet or knees, one behind the other, creating a chain of connection where each person penetrates or pleasures the one in front.
Protip: This foursome sex position frees up the hands, so you can use it to stimulate the partner or partners. You can also kiss your partner at the front on the lips or neck. You can also choose to switch it up so the person leading the train can also experience being penetrated or pleasured while also giving it to the one at their front.
10. Mirrored Spoon
How: To receivers lie on their sides, facing each other, while their partners spoon them from behind. Each pair mirrors each other.
Protip: If you’re the receiver, you can use your hands to stimulate yourself by rubbing your clit or stroking your cock. You can use some help with toys. If you have a vulva, the Magic Cane is perfect for a straightforward way to stimulate your clit with vibration. And if you have a penis, you can use the skullman, a thrusting and vibrating masturbator.
Aftercare and Reflection
After the main course, it doesn’t mean that everyone can leave at the drop of the hat. What happens next is just as important. It’s important that everyone will leave the room feeling respected and not used.
Here are some things you need to do after sex:
Physical Aftercare
Bodies work hard during a foursome, imagine stretching, thrusting, holding, bending, and angling. Because this can be like a fun workout, make sure to drink water afterwards. If it feels right, cuddle your partner or if you’re swinging, check out your real-life partner if they’re okay.
Check for soreness, tightness, possible injuries.
Emotional Assurance
Take a few minutes to talk, touch, or stay close. Whether you debrief as a group or in pairs or with your own partner. Share what felt amazing and be honest about anything that made you feel awkward or confused.
Discussing Future Interest and Boundaries
Aftercare also open space for clarity. How did everyone feel about the setup? Ask what would you do or not do again, or if there are things that you need to change.
Ask about comfort levels, roles, or specific positions. Keep everything transparent and consensual as desires can change.
Closure & Gratitude
Finally, seal the experience with appreciation. Thank each other for showing up with openness, respect, and consent. This will make everyone feel valued and not used. This also ensures that you have someone who will be down for it if you want another session.
The Real Magic
Foursome seems fascinating and is a common fantasy. When four people come together, real magic happens when these fantasies are explored with respect and consent.
Communication, comfort, and care are the basic must-haves. The positions, sensations, pleasure will all happen if everyone feels safe and seen.
You can also enhance your experience by incorporating props and tools like lubes, pillows, and sex toys. And if you need one, just visit Beyourlover.com, a perfect place for real people exploring real pleasure.
