There are many preconceptions about lesbian sex, or any kind of sex between two people with vulvas. People seem to believe that vulvas are incredibly complex and that pleasing them is difficult, often treating finding the G-spot as a treasure-seeking quest worthy of Indiana Jones.
But lesbians (and people with vulvas of other sexual orientations) know that sex with a partner who also has a vulva isn’t a strange or mysterious process, but it also isn’t simple and limited only to scissoring, like some people online seem to think.
We’re here to demystify lesbian sex and sex between two people with vulvas in general with our guide to the 20 Best Lesbian Sex Positions that we’ve discovered.
Trust us, you’re gonna love each and every one of them!
First Things First!
Before engaging in any sex act with your partner, especially a new sex position that you’ve never tried before, you have to remember that expressed consent and clear communication should be the foundation of every sexual encounter.
It doesn’t matter if you and your partner have had sex a hundred times, you have to get consent every single time, and communicate with them clearly before every sex act.
Remember, people’s preferences, moods, comfort and discomfort zones can change over time, so communication is always key.
1. Doggy Style
Let's start things off with one of the most classic sex positions. Doggy style may have become famous as a sex position between a person with a penis and a person with a vulva, but it’s just as viable for two people with vulvas.
To start, one person must get on the floor or a bed on their elbows and knees, and the other person must kneel behind them. Then the person on their knees must stimulate or penetrate the other person’s vulva from behind.
They can use a strap on, a sex toy, or even just their hand. To make things enjoyable for both parties simultaneously, the person on their elbows and knees can then rock back and forth, bouncing and grinding their butt on the person behind them, stimulating them with sexy grinding or twerking!
One of the best ways to make the most of this position is to use a sex toy. Sex toys have a wide range of features that most strap ons can’t match.
2. The Goddess
This position gets its name from the fact that here, one partner gets all the attention. Here, one partner can sit on the edge of a bed, sofa, or even kitchen counter (but make sure to check if it can support a person’s full weight!). Next, the partner who will be doing the stimulating must get on their knees facing their partner, and put their partner’s legs on their shoulders, taking some of their weight.
The partner on their knees then stimulates their “goddess” using their mouth, hands, or a sex toy! The idea here is to maximize the pleasure for the person who has their legs on the other person’s shoulders, with the other roleplaying an act of submission or “worship.”
This can also be done while standing, with the “goddess” using one leg to stand and placing the other above her partner’s shoulder.
3. Assisted 69
69 is another famous sex position that can be enjoyed by partners with all kinds of body types.
However, this sexual position can be challenging. In the traditional method, one partner must lie on top of the other, facing down while their partner faces us. Each partner’s head must be above the other partner’s vulva.
Some people online report some difficulty with this, as the partner on their back has to take their partner’s full weight, and move their neck to bob their head up and down as they lick, suck, and tease their partner’s vulva.
Assisted 69 is much easier for both parties. Here, both partners lie on their sides on a bed or floor, each facing the other’s vulva. Because both partners have more range of motion and aren’t fighting gravity, sex toys can be employed easily in assisted 69.
4. Scissoring
Scissoring is the sex position most people think of when thinking about lesbian sex, or sex between two people with vulvas.
To do it, both partners should sit in front of each other on a bed or floor, spread their legs open, then scoot forward so that their vulvas touch. The key here is for the partner’s legs to interlock, with each partner’s right leg above their partner’s left leg.
In classic scissoring, the only stimulation is from both vulvas touching and rubbing together.
But we want to teach you a way to breathe some new life into this old sex position!
5. Spooning
You probably associate spooning with “afterplay,” the opposite of foreplay and something you do after sex to cool things off while keeping the intimacy alive.
But there’s such a thing as spooning sex. Here, two people lie together, each facing the same direction and one behind the other. The person in front is the receiving partner, while the person behind them penetrates or stimulates them, with a sex toy or strapon. This can be done vaginally or anally.
The great thing about this position is that, when using a sex toy, the partner who is doing the stimulating can use their free hand to use the sex toy to stimulate either the front or back.
6. Queening
Like the “Goddess Position,” the Queening Position is a fun way to incorporate a little domination into your lesbian sex.
Also known as face sitting, this position starts with one partner lying on their backs on a bed, while their partner assumes a kneeling position, with their legs on either side of their partner’s head.
The on their knees will then lower their vagina until it's directly on their partner’s face and mouth, then bounce up and down as the partner lying down pleases them.
Like the Goddess, this positioning does provide pleasure for both parties, but the person doing the “sitting” is undeniably in control.
Remember! Don’t actually sit with your full weight on your partner’s face, as this can cause harm to their head and neck. Instead, remember to always use your knees to support most of your weight.
We’ve discovered a great way to make this position even better. See on the image how the person lying down has one arm straight up? Forget that. Use that free arm to hold a sex toy and put it on your partner’s breasts, teasing their nipples!
7. Vibe Time
This position is relatively simple, but it really shines if you’ve got a great sex toy at hand.
The partner on the receiving end must lie on their back on a bed with their legs spread open, supporting their upper body with one or more pillows for maximum comfort.
The stimulating partner will kneel in front of them with a sex toy in their hand and use it to stimulate their partner’s vulva.
The quality of the sex toy you’re using, and how well you know how to use it, affect this position’s effectiveness. So do some research and pick the very best!
8. Kneeling
This position might look simple at first, but it actually offers a lot of versatility.
Here, the both partners get on their knees on a bed or on the floor. If you get creative, the partner in the rear can use a sex toy that can stimulate two partners at once, or wear nipple clamps or another wearable vibrator.
The partner in the back has free reign to use a sex toy to please their partner’s vulva from the front, and also to use a teaser on their nipples and clit.
9. The DJ
Like its name suggests, this position is all about controlling a wide range of areas. Here, the partner on the receiving end lies on their back with their legs spread open, knees up. The partner doing the stimulation lies on top of them, supporting their weight with one hand and their knees.
Like a DJ, the stimulating partner will have full control of a wide range of areas, each one producing a moaning sound! The stimulating partner can play with their partner’s erogenous zones freely, whether it's the nipples, clit, vulva, and even anus.
This position can also be taken to the next level with the use of sex toys!
10. The Hot & Cold
In this position, the receiving partner lies on their stomach, preferably on a comfortable surface like a comforter.
The stimulating partner sits next to them. From here, they have access to their partner’s vagina from the back, as well as their buttocks, back, and shoulders. This position works best as part of foreplay, or as a good way to cool things down a bit between intense rounds!
The stimulating partner can use a warm washcloth and a cold ice cube on their partner's back and buttocks, stimulating them with contrasting temperature play. This is a great way to perform a pleasurable massage!
Many modern sex toys include warming features that are perfect for adding a touch of human-like wholesomeness to this position!
11. The Bermuda Triangle
Get ready to enter the triangle of unforgettable pleasure. In this position, both partners stand, one in front of the other.
The stimulating partner stands behind the receiving partner and reaches around them to caress their vulva, while the receiving partner caresses their own breasts.
This position is perfect for sex toys, as the stimulating partner can reach around and use a sex toy on their partner with ease.
12. The Plus One
This sex position is all about pleasing yourself, with a partner along for the ride!
Lie down in bed with your partner next to each other, and grab your favorite sex toy.
Now slip your arm under your partner’s head and drape it over their shoulder.
Next, you will each grab your favorite sex toy and please yourselves.
You can sync up your movements and rhythm to reach the finish line at the same time!
13. The Daily Grind
Let’s switch up the previous sex position!
For the Daily Grind, get on your knees next to your partner, grab your favorite sex toy, and reach over to stimulate your partner.
Alternating between The Plus One and the Daily Grind will be a fun way to switch things up while making sure that things keep heating up!
14. Double Trouble
Want to send your partner rocketing off the edge into all-consuming pleasure? Look no further than Double Trouble, a position engineered for maximum pleasure.
Have your partner lie on their back with their legs up, knees bent, feet flat on the ground. Now, grab two of your partner’s favorite sex toys.
Now use one toy on your partner’s vulva and the other on their rear, engaging in both vaginal and anal stimulation at the same time!
15. Lifted Missionary
The Missionary Position is known as being the most vanilla sex position of all. But that doesn’t mean you can’t breathe new life into it.
For this position, the receiving partner will lie on their back while the stimulating partner will lie on their hands and knees next to them.
The receiving partner must also lie on a firm pillow which will help lift their hips up to allow for easier access to their vulva.
From there, the stimulating partner can use a sex toy to please their vulva. The proximity also makes other kinds of stimulation and intimacy more convenient.
16. The All-Hands Meeting
This position is perfect for double stimulation!
Have the receiving partner lie on the ground on their knees and elbows, lifting their butt, while the stimulating partner kneels behind them.
The stimulating partner can use their hands, or two sex toys, to stimulate their partner both anally and vaginally, heating things up to the stratosphere!
17. Standing Shower Sex
If you’ve never had shower sex, you’re missing out!
Shower sex doesn’t just shake things up by taking things out of the bedroom, it promotes intimacy, incorporates elements of temperature and water play.
This is another position that can be greatly improved by using sex toys, especially now that many sex toys include a waterproof feature.
Here, the stimulating partner stands behind the receiving partner in the shower, and reaches around them to please them with their hands or a sex toy.
There’s a wealth of incredible water proof sex toys that can really take things to the next level.
18. Strap-on Hoorah
Strap-ons take sex between two people with vulvas to another dimension. With one, partners can engage in penetrative sex and perform a wide range of the positions for partners with a penis.
One of the great things about this position is that, in addition to a strap-on, you can also perform it by holding a sex toy (like a dildo) underneath the receiving partner. The receiving partner can bounce up and down on the sex toy, enjoying penetration without the need for a strap-on.
19. The Olympic Gymnast
This fun position might be a little advanced, as it requires a bit of flexibility. It can also put some pressure on the receiving partner’s lower back, so it isn’t recommended for people who experience back pain.
Here, the receiving partner will lie on their back on a bed or floor, with their legs lifted straight up. The stimulating partner will hold the legs in place with one arm and, with the other, either penetrate with a strap-on or by holding a sex toy with their hand.
This position allows for deep penetration, and creates new sensations by incorporating the tingling rush of circulation as the receiving partner keeps their legs upright.
20. Reverse Face-sitting
Like in 69, this position allows for both partners to receive pleasure simultaneously!
One partner will lie on their back while the other partner kneels with both legs on either side of their head. It’s important to remember that partners must face opposite directions, with their heads pointing in the same direction as their partner’s feet.
Like with any kind of face sitting, it’s also important not to put the full weight of your body on your partner’s face and head, use your legs and knees to hold yourself up.
Now, the partner on top can ride and grind gently on their partner’s face while they please them orally.
But how can the partner on top please the one below them?
By using their hands, or a sex toy, to reach down and stimulate the vulva!
This is a great, versatile, and engaging sex position that lends itself to a wide combination of sex toys!
Sex Toys We Recommend
FATIMA - 2 IN 1 Detachable Suction, Thrusting and Heating Vibrator
Fatima seems tailor-made for the positions on this list. As a 2-in-1 sex toy for women, it splits into two perfectly standalone stimulators, one a suction-based clit-teaser, the other an innovative thrusting vibrator perfectly angled to reach the hottest spots.
This combo will absolutely rock both of your worlds. With 7 thrusting modes and 10 vibration modes, the vibrator will take whoever prefers penetration to a new realm of pleasure. If one of you craves oral sex more, you’ll find 5 suction modes in the clit-teaser for 5 ways to reach the big O. Both of the toys also include heating to a human-like warmth.
With a waterproof feature, this toy can also be used in the shower, hot tub, or pool!
Find Fatima here!
ADULT CLOCK ALARM - Sucking Vibrator App Remote Control
This delightful 2-in-1 sex toy hides in plain sight as a working alarm clock!
Like Fatima, we’re talking about two sex toys in one. With 8 sucking modes in the suction-teaser and 9 vibrations in the vibrator, this hidden sex toy is perfect for some women-loving-women play!
You can enjoy it in positions 7, 15, and 16!
Find the Adult Clock Alarm here!
JECCA - Yellow Nipple Cup Massager
JECCA is perfect for partners who enjoy nipple play and nipple massages.
This gorgeous transparent toy with an elegant design doesn’t just vibrate, like most nipple massagers, it rotates while it vibrates, providing a new dimension of orgasmic pleasure for your nipples.
With 7 rotation modes and 3 vibration settings, JECCA has dozens of possible combinations to stimulate your nipples with.
JECCA is also for everyone, as it’s designed to fit various cup sizes and can even stimulate people who don’t have breasts
Made of super soft TPE, body-safe silicone, you can enjoy it to your heart’s content without worry!
Find JECCA here!
BEYOURLOVER HEART - Heart-shaped Suction & Tongue Vibrator
HEART is a delightful heart-shaped vibrator with a unique suction and licking features.
Its eye-catching design doesn’t just please your senses, it pleases your eyes as it begs to be displayed.
HEART is perfect for upping the romantic vibes, literally and figuratively! With one suction-based clit-teaser on one top of its heart, and a licking tongue teaser on the other, you’ll be able to experience all the joys of oral stimulation without ever having to move your tongue!
Find HEART here!
FAQ
How difficult are these positions?
Here’s an important thing to remember about sex positions: practice makes perfect. It’s okay if you stumble a bit when you’re trying out something new. Part of the fun of sex is that you’re learning together, and that each little mistake can be fun, exciting, and bring two partners together in a shared learning journey. You can look into the positions on your own too to see the ones that require more flexibility, and practice a bit to increase it. It’s also okay if you can’t try all of them, that’s why we put 20, to give everyone plenty of positions to try!
Why is it called lesbian sex? Can it be for people of any sexual orientation?
These positions fall under the label of “lesbian sex” because it was originally an easy way to categorize them as they were first discovered and shared online. That label doesn’t mean that these positions are only for lesbians, only that they were first shared in the lesbian community. Inclusivity and representation are important, and we want to make sure that everyone feels seen on their journey to pleasure!
Are sex toys necessary? Which sex toy is right for me?
Sex toys aren’t necessary for any of these positions, but they are recommended. Without sex toys, partners have to use their hands for stimulation, which could get tiresome and repetitive. Sex toys pack a ton of unique features into their designs, and hands simply can’t compete. Many sex toys can provide oral stimulation, for example, something hands can never do!
In Conclusion
Some people are under the impression that lesbian sex is limited to scissoring or 69, but we hope this article changes your perception!
Sex between two people with a vulva is varied and full of exciting new positions and opportunities, and we know you’ll love the ones we explored here!
