12 Masturbation Tips That'll Take Your Solo Sessions to the Next Level

Here are some things you need to do (or change) for better masturbation.

Here’s the truth: nobody ever taught you how to do this. No class, no talk with dad, no honest chat with your buddies. Just you, your hand, and whatever you picked up from porn.

And you’re here because what you’ve been doing feels a little stale now. It could be that you finish too fast, can't finish at all, or the experience is not enjoyable at all. And you quietly wonder if something's wrong with you.

That’s why we’re here to help you achieve the best orgasm possible during your masturbation, or make your every session better. 

Keep reading, because your me-time is about to get a serious upgrade.

Is Masturbation Even Healthy?

Short answer: yes. 

Cleveland Clinic says it is a normal, low-risk sexual activity with no known physical harm for most people. It's a safe way to experience sex and self-pleasure, with zero risk of STIs or pregnancy. In fact, it’s common at every age and physically has no consequences if done in moderation. 

If you want less stress, easier sleep, a better mood, some tension relief, and feel better, masturbation can help in this regard. 

There are claims that say that frequent ejaculation lowers prostate cancer risk, but it's just an observed pattern, not scientifically proven by trusted data.

12 Masturbation Tips Every Guy Should Know

Now, here’s the part that you’ve all been waiting for. You now know that masturbation is healthy and something that you shouldn’t feel guilty about. According to Healthline, the last thing that you want to feel to fully enjoy your “hand” experience is guilt. 

Now that guilt is out of the way, it’s time to fully embrace your me-time with your hand, and improve the experience. 

1. Lube up

If you’ve been masturbating with your dry John, it’s time to consider lubricating.

Rubbing dry skin is the top cause of soreness, chafing, and irritation. You can use either a water-based, silicone-based, or hybrid lube. 

A water-based lube is the best choice if you want an all-rounder that you can also use on your toys. It washes off fast. The only downside is you need to reapply more frequently compared to other types of lube.

You can’t also go wrong with a silicone-based lube, as it provides the best glide experience. It is also a great choice if you’re the type of guy who enjoys masturbating in the shower. However, do not use hand lotion, soap, shampoo or saliva as lube, as they can lead to irritation, pH trouble, and urethral risk.  

“Never do it with shampoo...IT CAN BURN” - Wake886

2. Loosen the grip

Use hard pressure and fast speed to your dick for years, and real sex won’t feel as enjoyable. That's the whole idea behind death grip, which can also lead to delayed ejaculation.

• Give it two weeks of lighter pressure, more lube, and a slower tempo, just enjoy the experience..
• Swap the full fist for an open palm or an "OK" ring made with your thumb and finger.

3. Switch hands or switch angles

Your non-dominant hand can be clumsy, but you can put it to good use. If you experiment masturbating with your non-dominant hand, it will provide you a new sensation, and honestly closer to being touched by someone.

You can also sandwich your cock between your hands, like placing your hand over and your other hand under. You can also try a different placement for your thumb for different angling. And notice the change if you try to palm the head and stroke it upward. 

4. Learn edging

Build your arousal, and when you experience that you are about to cum, hold back. Slow down, maybe do other stuff, you can also stop for around 30 seconds, just wait for the build up to go down. Repeat this three to five times and you will experience heaven on another level. 

5. Stop ignoring everything below the shaft

What most guys don’t know is that your erogenous zones are more than just your penis shaft. There's more real estate down there. You can:

• Press the perineum while you build up.
• Lightly tug the testicles.
• Focus strokes on the frenulum, that sensitive spot under the head.

A lot of men describe their orgasm deeper once you explore the other parts of your penis.

6. Explore prostate play

“How the hell has nobody in this thread mentioned that you should put things up your butt to stimulate the prostate, or alternatively stimulate it by pressing on the area below the balls?” - Kimcheefarts

The prostate is a pleasure center of many men. And everyone, no matter what the gender is, can enjoy prostate stimulation. To enjoy this, make sure to trim your nails and use lube. 

If you want to level-up your experience, use a prostate massager to upgrade your experience.

7. Change your position

Your pelvic floor works differently in each position, so your climax does too. Try masturbating standing, kneeling, lying face-down to simulate thrusting, propped against the shower wall, or on your back with hips raised on a pillow.

Related: Best Positions for Penis Owners to Hit Every Spot

 

8. Use a sex toy

There are a lot of sex toys for men to choose from. Here are some of your options:

• Strokers and sleeves: offers variety, plus a squeeze closer to real sex.
• Vibrating strokers: handy if you're dealing with delayed climax.
• Hands-free or automatic strokers: the fastest way to break the grip habit for good.
• Cock rings: firmer erection, fuller feeling, slower finish.

9. Allot a private session that’s only for you

Speed is a habit you picked up when privacy was short. But once a week, it wouldn’t hurt if you try stretching out your session mindfully, around 20 minutes at least. During this time, just feel the sensation. Do not watch porn or do anything, just focus on what you feel.

10. Watch porn in moderation

The issue usually isn't porn. It's narrow conditioning, where your arousal becomes dependent on it. Even though porn is fun, vary your source of stimulation. 

For example, watch porn one day, then listen to something erotic, read a Playboy magazine, or just use your wild imagination.

11. Do the breathing and pelvic floor work

Use masturbation as a form of meditation by doing mindful breathing. Also, you can try doing Kegel exercises. Many men assume that Kegel exercises are for women, but they are not. Doing it can also strengthen your pelvic floor muscles which can help improve how you do masturbation. 

12. Do not forget the aftercare

Aftercare is not just something you do to your partner after sex. You also deserve it yourself after masturbation. So, clean up, wash your paraphernalias, and check in with your body after a session.

Clean yourself up with warm water and gentle soap. If you’re uncut, pull back, rinse and dry gently.

If you used toys, clean them with warm water and a toy cleaner. After cleaning, dry and aerate them before you store them. 

If you feel sore, do not masturbate again in the next 24 to 48 hours and if you’re still sore after that, go to your doctor. 

Watch: A Urologist Breaks Down the Myths

It’s important to dispel the wrong beliefs on masturbation. So, here’s a video from a Urologist who explains myths on masturbation:

When Masturbation Becomes a Problem

Although masturbation has lots of benefits, it can also be a problem. Not the masturbation itself, but psychologically and how you do it. Here are the signs you should visit your doctor or an expert:

• Physical abnormal signs like soreness, chafing, or swelling
• Addiction where masturbating already affects your daily life

FAQs: Common Questions on Male Masturbation Answered

How often is too much?

There's no set number. Frequency varies between healthy men. What’s unhealthy, though, is if it is already causing physical irritation or getting in the way of your work, sleep, or relationships, not the number.

Does it lower testosterone or cause hair loss?

No. Neither claims are true. There's no evidence of a lasting effect on your hormone levels, and hair loss is genetic.

Can it cause erectile dysfunction?

Masturbation itself doesn't. But as we discussed a while ago. If you’re being rough with your willy it can dull your sensitivity for a while. So it’s best to lube up, loosen your grip, and use a variety of techniques.

Is edging safe?

In moderation, yes. Stop if you get pain, lasting discomfort, or swelling. Also, seek a therapist or a doctor if it’s getting in the way of your daily life. 

Can I use lotion or Vaseline?

Not a good idea. Both can irritate skin, and petroleum products break down your favorite toy and are not created to be used down there. Real lube is cheap and worth it.

Will a masturbator ruin sex with a partner?

Not if you vary the pressure and speed instead of leaning on one intense setting every time. Variety is what keeps you responsive to real touch.

Does masturbating before sex help me last longer?

Many men say yes. How long you need between rounds varies a lot by age and by person, so experiment if masturbation before sex is for you.

Is it normal to feel guilty afterward?

Extremely common, and it usually traces back to how you were raised or what you learned around you while growing up.

Does it affect sperm count or fertility?

No lasting effect. Volume can dip briefly after frequent sessions, then bounces back on its own.

Should I try NoFap?

Some men report feeling better. There's no strong clinical evidence that going without is inherently better. If you're distressed, address the distress rather than just the behavior.

Special Thanks To:

• Rachel Ajmera - Dietician and Health Writer - Healthline
• Cleveland Clinic
• Dr. Eric Tygenhof - Genitourinary Surgeon

Want to learn more? Read our guides to lasting longer in bed, choosing your first male masturbator, how to hump a pillow, cock rings 101, and how to pick the right lube.

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