See how spit play can turn "yucky" into super exciting, especially when saying who's the boss.
Ever think spit is yucky? Some couples love using it during sex, but why?
Spit play can turn that gross feeling into something super exciting and cool. Like when one spits and gets to be the dom, while the other gets the feeling from it.
Below are tips to make your next spit play safe and awesome!
For Starters, What’s a Spit Kink?
Spit play is when sharing spit gets fun and sexy in bed. You like spitting in your partner's mouth or on their body, or them spitting on you.
It's not just spit but also dominance games. The dom spits to feel big and make their partner feel small. Or their partner can also spit back.
But always talk first and pick roles so everyone's happy!
Why Some People Are Into It
How about we break down the reasons why some peeps are ready to get wild, wet, and dirty?
For Consensual D/S Play
Your spit can be straight-up kinky because it's not your basic vanilla sex. And spitting on someone is wild and outside normal play.
It fits perfectly in Dom/Sub games where the dom spits on their partner to show domination and give what their partner wants. It also gives the vibe of "I'm the boss" for doms and displays the ownership of their partner (yup, some people get turned on by that).
Getting Intimate
Swapping spit can actually make you feel really close to your partner. Because when you spit in each other’s mouths, it feels more personal. As you’re sharing something usually kept private.
Using saliva during sex is a simple way to feel way more connected during lovemaking.
Body Fluids Are a Turn On
Yes, people get turned on by body stuff; it's given. Like spit, piss, sweat, or even blood, because we can make anything sexy if we're horny enough.
Normally, those fluids seem gross, but when you're aroused, that disgusting feeling drops way down. As a result, you'll be cool with wild acts you'd hate outside the bedroom.
Because, as stated by ABC News, sex flips our disgust switch, so bodily fluids turn hot instead of nasty. And the power and beauty of sex come only when it’s messy.
Is Spit Kink and Spit Fetish the Same?
Lots of body stuff sparks weird fetishes or paraphilias, like pee (urophilia), poop (coprophilia), blood (menophilia and clinical vampirism), or breast milk (lactophilia).
Saliva fetish folks don't overlap much with spit fetish people, since spit play ties more into sadomasochistic play.
Saliva fetishists get off on the spit qualities, like:
- Slippery and silky feeling
- Wetness
- Scent
- Donor (their partner)
Fetishists rub it on their hands, face, mouth, and genitals so they can feel those sensations and appreciate its donor's vibe.
But people with a spit kink may want something else or even more. They crave getting spat on because they want to feel degraded.
In this Reddit post, the user another-sad-gay-bich shared their experience about spit kink. The user also told others about the importance of hygiene before sharing or spitting saliva. And how your partner might like it if you open their mouth using your fingers before you spit.
How Can You Practice Spit Play In a Safe Way
The fun doesn't stop at the mouth, and some love getting spat on other spots like the face, chest, genitals, or anus because it's more thrilling for them.
Other times, it's just practical, because extra spit adds slickness right where you need it.
1. Communicate and Compliment
Spit play looks like kissing, but make sure to ask your partner if it's okay. Get a big, happy YES!
How you say it depends on whether you've already talked about fun stuff before.
After playing, tell them "I liked that!" and also ask them about things they enjoyed.
Or use Yes/No/Maybe options from your list. Mark it with yes, maybe, or no, while munching on some snacks, if you'd like.
2. Talk About the Health Stuff
Take some time to agree on who’s doing the spitting, where, when, and how intense it’ll be.
Saliva usually doesn’t spread most STIs, but that doesn’t mean it’s completely risk-free.
The biggest risk is herpes (HSV-1 or HSV-2). It spreads through skin contact during kissing or oral sex.
It’s way riskier if someone has cold sores or lip sores, so it’s best to avoid spit play when there’s an outbreak. Or if your lips are cracked or feel painful.
Also, remember that saliva can pass on colds, flu, mono, and COVID.
3. If Your Partner Doesn’t Like Spit Play, Think of Other Ideas
So, if your partner isn't into your spit kink, don't freak out, as this happens a lot, and it doesn't mean you two can't work together.
Figure out if your partner’s into spit play. But if not, even the dom-sub dynamics, you can just try other stuff.
Just like using some soft handcuffs or blindfolds that offer the same vibe. Your partner might like those better.
If you like the wet noises, you can add sounds during your sexy time. Try light spanks to create some slap sounds, too.
For the shiny wet look, go with warm lube, massage oil, sexy candles, or other wet stuff like sweat or squirt. That gives the same effect or shine, even without using saliva.
4. Try Spit Play By Yourself
If you don't have a partner right now or they say no, then do it alone!
Spit on your fingers or a toy before you use them. Or mix spit with lube for better feels.
You can use a ball gag to help you produce more spit. It keeps your mouth open so drool happens. Pick one with holes to breathe, or that doesn't close your mouth all the way. Take it off fast if breathing becomes hard.
If you like showing off, make a video of you spitting or drooling. Keep it secret, share with someone who says okay, or put it on a site suited for this type of content.
5. Don’t Force It, Just Be Honest
The best thing is to talk about spit play beforehand. Say, "I want this" or "I don't wanna try that." Ask them, "What do you like?"
Keep talking all the time.
Just like when you play a game, you should check if your friend is happy. That way, no one will feel unsafe.
If spit play is your favorite, yay! But if not, no problem. No pushing anyone ever!
Here’s How You Can Make Your Partner Happy If They Have a Spit Kink
Below are some ideas for you to keep you and your partner’s mouths watering.
Keep Them Happy By Using Fun Toys
If your partner likes spit play, there are some easy toys that can make it more fun. A small buzzing toy like this one can feel like a soft tickle, kind of like a gentle feeling.
You can also use a stroker because it works great to make things smooth and enjoyable. Or you can experiment using these toys with your spit, as they’re very easy to clean.
While some peeps may also prefer using gags to produce more spit. Most of the time, these enthusiasts are into BDSM.
Spit dries fast and can feel rough, so always clean your toys before and after you use them. You can wash them with mild soap or water, or, much better, if you have dedicated cleaners made for toys.
Talk to your partner about what feels good always. Because by doing so, you’ll both have lots of fun by keeping it safe and awesome!
Spit Play Can Be Done in Different Ways, So Ask!
Spit play can be different for everybody, so talk to your partner. Find out stuff that makes them happy, as this helps you do things right.
Some like intense, quick spit for that boss energy. Others like slow drool spit.
You don't need one spitter and one who gets spit on. As you can both spit in your mouths! Or do messy, wet kisses. That feels fun too.
Ask lots of questions. When to spit? Is swallowing okay? Where on the body? This way, everyone will surely have no bad feelings afterward.
How Do You Make More Spit?
Just put something in your mouth like a lollipop, sour candy, or fingers.
Try also to drink more water all day and skip anything salty or spicy. Because this keeps your mouth's spit-making super easy!
To Spit or Not to Spit?
Don't spit or let someone spit on you if you find it uncomfortable. Nobody should laugh at what you like, and nobody should make you do stuff you don't want.
If your partner likes to do something gross to you, find a middle ground so both of you are happy.
Is Playing With Spit Risk-Free?
Hey, quick heads-up about spit play. Yes, it's safe. But still, there might be other things you need to watch out for. If your saliva gets in someone’s eye, it can hurt a lot.
Saliva can also carry different types of germs. So, be careful.
And if you’re doing stuff like kissing or mouth-to-mouth, that has a higher risk than just spitting from a little bit of distance.
Good oral hygiene really helps, and brushing your teeth and keeping your mouth clean cuts down on bad microbes.
Just make sure to talk about what feels good and safe for both of you. And stop anytime if something doesn’t feel right.
Protips to Remember Before Engaging in Spit Play (Or You Can Treat This As Your Checklist)
Here’s a simple way to talk about how to try spit play with your partner:
- Do you even feel comfortable when you talk about it? If not, you don’t have to force yourself. Be honest and open.
- Talk about why you like spit play. Sometimes, understanding how the other feels helps you connect with them much better.
- Always get a clear “yes” from both sides. And pick a safeword to stop at any time if it feels weird or no fun.
- Talk about how you want to do it. Some like it rough, while others like it slow and sweet. Treat it like a special bond.
- If you’re new to it, take turns being the one who spits or gets spit on. Doing this, you can see what feels better for both of you.
- Remember, spit play doesn’t always need you to spit in someone else's mouth. It can be on the body or other sensitive parts, too!
- After you’re done, do some aftercare. You can give each other some cuddles and talk while taking a bath together. A great time to offer some feedback as well.
Enjoy Spit Play in a Safe Way
Yes, spit play can be wild and messy. But it’s really about trust, fun, and feeling close.
It’s not just about the spit itself. It’s about who’s in charge and how you connect when things get a little out there.
If spit play isn’t your thing, you don't have to worry. There are loads of other ways to keep things hot that you can both enjoy.
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