For most healthy pregnancies, sex is safe, but here’s how you can make it extra comfy and vibing.

Let’s clear the air first. Pregnancy doesn’t necessarily mean that there’s a “do not disturb” sign on your partner’s door for keeps.

Because if your partner has a low-risk pregnancy, then sex is usually safe for the mom and the baby. But energies can shift, and bodies can change this time, so everything’s all about tuning in.

And if your partner’s baby bump is already showing, then nothing can go wrong with steering the wheel while checking if everyone’s still okay.

So, before you type “is this normal” on Google at 2 AM, let's walk through how you can make your next sex with a pregnant partner safer than ever.

First Things First: How Safe is Pregnancy Sex?

During pregnancy, it can be common for most couples to experience the need to get laid. And it’s safe most of the time, unless your healthcare provider calls it out.

The cervix is also covered with mucus to ward off infections, while the fetus is being coated with amniotic fluid, making these factors add an extra layer of protection when having sex with a pregnant partner, according to Healthline.

But if they’re having a high-risk pregnancy, then you’d better skip that wild sex for now, especially if your partner has a:

History of premature birth or miscarriage
Broken water, bleeding, or discharge
Dilated cervix
Contact with an STD

Penis owners also shared their experience on Reddit, where some said it was fine until they felt the baby move around, while others stated that they’ve been doing it for some time, until their OB told them to stop.

Each pregnancy is different, so pregnant sex can vary for every couple. Some couples also resort to anal sex, but another user told them that it’s much better to avoid it because it’s not safe.

And as per the American Pregnancy Association, doing it anally during pregnancy can cause hemorrhoids, and once they form, they can be painful. Some even rupture, and if there’s bleeding during pregnancy, then it just makes things extra risky.

What Can Concern Penis Owners the Most?

Sex with a pregnant and non-pregnant partner can feel different for penis owners, and pregnancy can often come with challenges.

And here are some issues that they commonly encounter that you might encounter as well, so you might want to consider these aspects so you’ll have an idea of what comes next.

There are Changes, Every Trimester

Pregnancy can be a rollercoaster ride for vulva owners, and during the first trimester, this is when their hormones are crashing out.

They might be feeling less interested in sex because they feel tired most of the time and are likely to experience morning sickness. But for orgasm levels, they remain the same.

During the second trimester, this is when their sexual desire is at its peak because their pregnancy symptoms become less.

And lastly, the third trimester is when they feel less likely to have sex as their baby grows inside their tummy, while their body is getting itself ready for delivery.

Sex Can Feel Different for Penis Owners

As a penis owner, feeling anxious about hurting the fetus is valid. It’s normal for your protective instincts to kick in, especially for a soon-to-be dad like you.

But never underestimate the power of the uterus, because it’s made of stretchy and strong tissues to protect the baby, unless your pregnant partner has amniotic or placental issues.

So, penetration can be a challenge for some penis owners, but it’s fine as long as you do it gently. Also, try to skip the powerful thrusts and intense positions for now.

You Need to Adapt to Your Pregnant Partner’s Changes

You have to understand that every trimester can make your partner feel more emotional and less or more horny.

But if you feel a bit of awkwardness, fear, tiredness, or even a lack of interest, that’s normal too. And as their pregnancy progresses, the possibility of having painful sex can also increase as well.

If you have a lot of sex drive and your partner’s not ready to compensate, you can always go for strokers to meet your needs at the moment.

Each Pregnancy Has Its Own Story

For first-time dads, sex with a pregnant partner can be tough, but as your family grows, you’ll be more relaxed when doing it with your second child to the next.

There’s also less fear as you become more experienced, and after pregnancy, don’t expect your partner to just get back into sex in a flash. Their body still needs more time to recover, and they might be focused on breastfeeding and other baby duties during this stage.

What are the Perks of Having Sex With a Pregnant Partner?

Let’s chill for now, and let’s take a break from things that can likely make you anxious, because sex during pregnancy can have a lot of benefits to your partner too.

Orgasms are Fantastic

When a person is pregnant, aside from a lot of changes happening in their bodies, their hormones can also flip.

Some of these hormones can increase the flow of their blood and make them more horny, so there’s a better chance for them to reach an orgasm more easily and faster.

And because orgasms can bring pleasure, it makes them feel good, so they can manage pain better that’s often associated with pregnancy.

You can also use toys to help get them off, but you can try to skip powerful vibrators for now, and instead go for ones that can stimulate their clit, to be on the safer side.

It’s a Form of Exercise

Sex can encourage your pregnant partner to move more, so they'll have better blood circulation, keep their heart healthy, and help maintain their blood pressure at normal levels.

The levels of relaxation are also heightened, so they’re likely to sleep better and bond with their partner more.

Eases Labor Pains

Once they experience orgasms, their pelvic muscles can contract, and this serves as a workout for their bladder and muscles to prevent any leaking urination during pregnancy.

They might also have a better and quicker recovery after they give birth, and because their pelvic muscles are “trained,” they can have a much easier time during delivery, compared with people who don’t have sex during pregnancy.

Makes Them Feel Confident

Because of hormones, extra weight, and other physical changes, some vulva owners can feel unattractive during pregnancy, and having sex with them can help boost their self-worth.

The more contact you have, the more they feel you appreciate their body, and getting intimate regularly can also make them feel more open with you.

Are There Any Positions That Can Make Sex With a Pregnant Partner Much Safer?

Pregnancy equals a lot of changes, but that doesn’t mean sex should take the back seat. Here are positions that can help keep everyone safe, including the baby.

Oral Sex for Extra Comfort

If you want to go for a position that’s in the clear, then oral sex might be the safest.

Receiving and giving oral is safe, as long as you’re both free from STIs and don’t have any skin issues.

This position also keeps things comfortable for the pregnant person, since they just sit down and can add pillows for support.

Mutual Masturbation for Double Party

If you want to excite each other, but worry when it comes to penetration, then you can try using your hands or toys.

Lying side-by-side and facing each other also makes it easier for the couple to adjust. Just make sure that you’re using high-quality male and female sex toys to prevent any mishaps.

Spooning for Added Support

To do the spooning, the couple can lie on their sides while facing the same direction. This position is a great option if the pregnant person wants to relieve pressure from their belly.

They can also choose to add cushions under their tummy for support, while the partner on the back can support the other’s body using their arms.

Spooning is also awesome for thigh sex, so if you’re both not a fan of penetration during pregnancy, then this position can surely work well to reach those orgasms.

Reverse Cowgirl to Let Them Stay in Control

During reverse cowgirl, the pregnant partner can straddle the giver, which gives them much better control of the penetration.

They’re more in charge of the intensity, movement, and pressure, so they can feel more relaxed.

The giver can also use their hands to give their partner some lift by holding their hips to guide their movement.

Doggy Style for a Shallower Penetration

This works best if you both want to try penetration without overdoing things.

And during doggy style, the pregnant person can lie on all fours, so there’s less pressure on their belly. The giver can also give lighter thrusts and shallow entry in this position, so there’s less chance of hitting the cervix.

FAQs

My partner and I like to try sex during pregnancy, but is there any risk of miscarriage?

If the fetus isn’t growing the way it should and you did it before the 20th week, then there can be some risks. It’s also common to have some slight bleeding, cramping, or spotting afterward, but if it doesn’t go away, then you might want to give your doc a call.

Do I still need to wear condoms when having sex with a pregnant partner?

Yes, but only if you or your partner just had sex with other people, has a sexually transmitted disease, or has any infection that can put your baby in danger.

What are the signs to look out for that tells we need to stop having sex?

It’s quite normal for the uterus to do some contractions if a pregnant person is experiencing an orgasm. But if there is lots of vaginal bleeding or leaking amniotic fluid, then you should take a pause immediately. You should also ask your doctor for advice before doing any sexual activity if your partner has any cervical or vaginal issues.

What if there’s a time that I don’t feel like doing it?

Then that’s fine. You might be too anxious or too tired to get laid, and your pregnant partner can feel much worse at times. Just make sure you always keep each other updated by chatting about your needs. And you can also try other ways to keep connected, like cuddling, kissing, or just spending time together.

Let’s Wrap Things Up With Love

Yes, pregnancy can change the rhythm, but not necessarily the music. With some gentle openness and a few tweaks, you and your partner can still enjoy your intimate time together, as long as you know how to keep it safe.

It’s really not about the penetration, but more about connection, and hey, if things feel different down there (or your partner’s not in the mood), then that’s where BeYourLover’s male toys come to rescue.

Keep that vibe alive, no matter where you currently are in the pregnancy journey.

Special Thanks:

Sarah Bradley - Writer - Healthline

American Pregnancy Association

Like to add another layer of safety when having sex with a pregnant partner? Then you might want to check out How to Have Safe Sex, Sex Pillow Positions, and Different Types of Orgasms.