Your body has its own language. Learn its sexy dialect through masturbation.
Getting to Know Your Own Body
As a vagina owner, masturbation is a normal part of your sex life. Yet plenty of women still feel kinda awkward about it. Your body has its own rhythm and preferences. Sometimes, with unpredictable ways of responding to pleasure.
Exploring those responses on your own. That helps you become more comfortable with your own body. More confident about what feels good to you as well. No universal technique. No strict schedule or finish line.
Because your experience would be slightly different from others. So it’s okay to take your awkwardness out of the convo for a while. Let’s talk about masturbation like a normal part of your wellness.
What Is Female Masturbation?
Masturbation. Simply means stimulating your genitals (usually the vulva and clit). And your other sensitive areas (erogenous zones) for pleasure. It can involve your hands/fingers or a vibrator. While you pay attention to sweet sensations you get from ‘em.
No fixed way for you to get that big O. Your body is inconsistent at times. Your hormones or stress levels are factors there. So don’t panic. What felt amazing before, uhm… Might not be making the cut for you today .
Or what blows your mind is not bringing too much delight to someone else. But… That’s not really this life threatening problem to solve. Your body’s just being itself. Masturbation can be a dope part of your intimate routine.
Giving you an opportunity to understand these: Your preferences. Your body’s responses. Letting you notice different sensations. So you can enjoy solo play/pleasure. No performance review required.
Is It Different From Male Masturbation?
If you mean anatomically, yes it's different. Male masturbation happens when someone’s stroking their penis. Their most sensitive parts? The glans (located at the tip of the penis). And testicles.
Anatomical differences aside, the idea’s the same. Stimulating your private parts for pleasure. One of your most sensitive parts, the clit. It contains thousands of nerve endings. Making it your prime candidate for stimulation. Helping you feel sexual pleasure and reach an orgasm.
Usually you'd expect seminal discharge/ejaculate when a penis owner cums. In vaginas though… Stories vary. Some do expel liquid (squirting). Others still finish without the waterworks at all. Both types are normal so please don't feel insecure if you squirt or not.
Your vulva also possesses many sensitive areas. But you know, your vagina is not an exact copy of another person's vagina. Compared to male masturbation, your orgasms aren’t as predictable. Not as straightforward as male orgasms are.
Maybe you’re the type who needs more time to get aroused. Needing consistent stimulation. But others get off easily through quick bursts of sensations. Hormones. Sensitivity. Mental and emotional state.
Those can influence your solo play too. But please don’t fret. There’s no universal timeframe for you to follow here. Your body’s not too early. Not too late.
Related: The 15 Best Masturbation Techniques for Men (and people with penises)
Different Ways to Masturbate and Reach Climax
Don’t look for an instant or magical button that will work for everyone. But here are some common approaches you can explore.
1. Rubbing Your Clitoris
Your clit. That’s very central in your sexual pleasure as a vagina owner. Since it’s on the outer part, you can stimulate it externally. How? By touching it or rubbing the surfaces around it. Maybe with some pressure and a good rhythm.
The speed. The pressure. The time. They all depend on your preferences. That’s why getting familiar with your own body’s super important. Don’t try to copy someone’s routine. Pay attention to what your body tells you.
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2. Fingering
If you enjoy some action inside, meaning your vaginal canal, your fingers are there to help! You can also adjust speed and pressure while fingering. You’re also in control of the depth/width you prefer.
Two fingers? Nice. Three? No problem. A full fist? It’s up to you.
If you’re a fan of anal play, you can do some anal fingering as well. Just make sure there's a proper amount of lubrication there. Like external stimulation, fingering is also a great masturbation intro for you.
Look at your fingers. Think of ‘em as your pleasure assistants.
Related: How to Finger Yourself: 8 Techniques for a Toe-Curling Orgasm
3. Using a dildo/vibrator
If your hands need more masturbation assistance, you can grab a vibrator or dildo. One with the size you’re comfortable with. You can play with different settings. Warmth, vibration and suction levels/intensities.
We’re pretty high-tech now. So there’s also phone app connectivity. You’d be enjoying hands-free solo play. You love the full feeling in your v while getting your G-Spot tickled? Your vibrator will happily help you out.
Here’s a hot, feature-filled vibrator for you… Say hello to Mera!
4. Combining different sensations
Maybe you’re the type who just doesn't zero-in on a single body part. You want sensations all around. Not a problem at all. As you’re rubbing your clit, fingering or getting pleased by the vibrations, you can also stimulate your other sweet spots.
Touch your breasts. Your inner thighs. Your stomach or your neck. All your other sensitive areas that would help you climax. In this approach, you’re giving your whole nervous system a chance. A chance to participate and get aroused with you.
5. Trying different positions
Even on your own, positions can still enhance your sexual pleasure. You don’t have to remain in one static pose all the time. You can lie down, sit comfortably or be on all fours (as your toy works on pleasing you).
Positions help you alter the pressure levels and sensations. A small angular, physical adjustment. It unlocks a different feeling. Your comfort matters more than forcing yourself to be an acrobatic legend.
Unless you’re also aiming for that (tee hee!). Please don’t fret, your bed is not a sporting venue.
Related: Masturbation Positions for Women: Simple Positions for Solo Pleasure
6. Using your imagination
When you masturbate, you’re not just doing something purely physical. Your brain plays a super big role there too. It can work as your part-time sex organ. Fantasies and romantic ideas/memories.
Getting yourself psychologically stimulated Yes. That’s a thing. Your brain contributes to your arousal.
7. Anal stimulation
A part that doesn't involve your vagina. But can still lead you to an orgasmic finish. Why? Nerve endings. By inserting a finger or two there, your anal area gets a nice massage. An anal toy is also a great way to do that.
Butt play is not everyone's cup of tea. It may not be your thing. And that's alright. But if you’re looking for a fresh twist in your solo play, anal masturbation’s an excellent one. As long as you're keeping things safe and clean. Well lubricated too!
For tips on your solo play, Nadia Bokody’s happy to share this video with you!
How To Masturbate (Female Masturbation)
Why Masturbation Can Be Good For You?
It can help you learn what kind of touches you enjoy. Making communicating easier when you’re with a partner. Masturbation also helps you relax, improve your mood, and fall asleep more comfortably. After having a sweet finish.
There’s something empowering about it. About what? Understanding your own body. Because you don’t have to rely on someone else. For you to discover what feels good. You become familiar with your own preferences.
Then you decide to share ‘em with a partner. When you feel like it. That’s body literacy. Where you create your own sexy soundtrack. Wanna learn more about the health benefits you get from masturbation? Check this out!
Some Masturbation Safety and Hygiene Tips
A few wise steps goes a long way.
- Wash your hands first - Especially when you’re using your fingers. Trim your nails if possible. So you can avoid irritation. Or small scratches.
- Keep your toys clean - Follow cleaning instructions that come with your toys. Use products according to intended purposes. If you’re sharing them with your partner, clean ‘em properly. And use protection too.
- Use lubricant when needed - If there’s uncomfortable friction, bring out your lube. So you can make things more comfy. Choose the one intended for intimate use. Not a strange concoction of ingredients.
- Don’t ignore pain - Mild sensitivity. That can happen sometimes. But persistent pain, bleeding, numbness or irritation? Uhm… You don’t try to power your way through those. Get some help to get any symptoms treated.
- Give your body a break - If an area becomes sore or sensitive, stop. Let it recover. More stimulation. Not always better stimulation.
Remember, clean doesn’t mean you have to be aggressive about it. Your vulva doesn't need harsh, scented soaps or forceful scrubbing to be healthy. Gentle cleaning for a balanced pH is usually enough for your private part’s health/hygiene.
Female Masturbation FAQs
Is female masturbation normal?
Yes. Masturbation is a common form of sexual expression. Can be a part of your healthy sex life.
How often should a woman masturbate?
Frequency is not usually the issue here. If masturbating multiple times leads to soreness, interfering with your relationships and responsibilities, then you’re overdoing it. That’s worth discussing with your healthcare provider.
Can masturbation affect your sensitivity?
Temporary increased sensitivity after an orgasm. Don’t fret. That’s normal. But if you’re experiencing persistent pain, numbness and excessive sensitivity, give your body time to recover. Consider an appointment with a professional too.
Can women orgasm without penetration?
Yes. Absolutely. Penetration is just one of many ways to reach the big O. External stimulation (around the clit particularly) is an effective way to climax. Bodies vary and penetration is not a requirement to enjoy a sexual experience.
Is using a vibrator safe?
Generally, yes. When you’re using body-safe a vibrator. Using it for its intended purpose. Keep it clean. Follow instructions. Choose a compatible lube if needed.
Can masturbation affect your fertility?
Masturbating doesn’t really reduce your fertility. It doesn’t affect your ovaries or lessen the chances of a future pregnancy.
The Beauty of Sexy Me Time
Masturbation’s a normal part of your sexual wellness. But some are still too embarrassed about it. Wait… You don't have to shout it out everywhere you go. This is more like an invitation to get to know your body better.
See how it responds to different types of stimulation. Discover your intimate preferences. Knowing your body well. It's gonna reward you with comfort and confidence about the things you like.
No universal technique or timing. Just you and your body being like best friends who know each other well. So let's take the awkwardness out of the conversation. And treat masturbation as a part of your self-care routine. Have a hot and happy “me time”!
Special Thanks:
Jennifer Chesak and Gabrielle Kassel - Healthline
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