Get ready to turn your fingers into your favorite toy by trying these positions to help you hit the right spot. Everytime.

We all know that our fingers are like built-in multitools, and that says more when it comes to pleasure and goodness.

They’re always on hand (like, literally), fully customizable, and way more versatile than most people give them credit for.

So, whether you’re doing it alone or doing it together with your partner, the right position will always make the difference, and who knows, you might mutter, “Oh wow, let's do that again.”

Next, let’s break down the best fingering positions that will bring you comfort and are actually fine to try, with no contortions required.

What are the Best Positions for Fingering That’ll Give You Better Access?

Get ready to sneak a peek at these positions to make things much juicier and, of course, tasty.

Cowgirl Makes It Deep

This classic will never be boring. This position is an awesome choice if the receiver loves getting deep penetration and finger-banging at the same time.

All the giver has to do is lie on their back on a soft surface, and the receiver can straddle them next, and they can choose to face their partner or away from them.

The pair could also do penile penetration anally or vaginally, and the cowgirl is also one of the best positions to do if they want to add G-spot stimulation during their fingering session.

And once the receiver places themselves on top, the giver can play with their clit, or finger them anally or vaginally as they thrust. Or better yet, the giver can use a finger vibrator like Rosey for more precise clit targeting.

The Versatile Superstar

If you’re home alone and you start feeling a bit hyped up, the superstar is a position that you can do at any spot of the house.

Just make sure you kneel on a much softer surface, then keep your body upright while supporting yourself using one arm, and as you maintain the position, you can put your other hand inside you and experiment with the angles, playing with your clit, or putting a finger or three.

And because both of your arms are busy delighting and assisting your whole body, you can add nipple massagers to keep your rack busy.

The Leg Shaver for Full Vulva Access

The leg shaver works great if you’re in a hurry and you don’t have a lot of time, because you can play and bathe at the same time.

All you have to do is stand in the shower and place one foot on the tub or seat, so you can open your legs comfortably and access your vulva. Then, use the showerhead to tease yourself a bit and gradually insert your fingers, or you can also add some toys, but make sure you’re using the waterproof ones to save you from any issues.

Another piece of advice: never use the showerhead itself for penetration, because it can likely cause problems like getting yeast infections or bacterial vaginosis as it messes up your microbiome down there, according to Women’s Health; just use it to play with your clit, and you’re good to go.

Legs Up for a Closer Contact

Having a challenging time fingering someone when doing a missionary? Then putting the receiver’s legs up might have been the answer all along.

To start, the receiver can lie on their back, while the giver puts themselves in the front of their partner so they can face each other; then the giver can either finger the bottom partner or insert their shaft for penetration.

This position is also awesome if the lying partner is super into anal play, or if the giver wants to give their schlong a rest. They can try inserting an anal toy in the stink, while their fingers are playing in the pink.

Doggy Style for an Open Anal Fingering

Another one of the best anal fingering positions on the list and a classic, the doggy style might be the easiest one to do, if the giver wants to give fingers on both ways.

The receiver has to get down on all fours, and the giver can position themselves at the back of their partner so they can use their fingers or cock to penetrate the other. The position also lets the muscles of the anus relax, so the receiver can reach an orgasm in a much easier way.

The giver can also use a cock ring to make the experience much more intense, or the receiver can go for double penetration if they’re comfortable; just make sure to chat about everything first and ask approval every step of the way, and as told by McMaster University, other than setting boundaries, asking for consent will also help us make better choices, keep the sessions personalized, and even fight the rape culture.

The Solo Snake for Some Extra Naughtiness

If penetrating yourself using your fingers isn’t enough, then this next position can give you enough access and grinding, because it gives a lot of freedom for your body to move.

The solo snake can be one of the most playful and versatile positions on the list, because you can personalize it so much, and it also lets you use positioning pillows to find the best angles you crave.

You might also want to take advantage of gravity and use the weight of your body to put more friction on your clit, by doing some grinding back-and-forth, while your fingers are also doing the work.

The Throne for More Opening

The throne position is a great fingering position to do if you like to be seen, because you can just let your partner watch and worship you while you do your thing, which is truly ideal for a queen.

To do this one, all you need is an armless chair (so you have more space to move) and sit on it with your legs wide open, and then you can just start fingering yourself, whether you’re alone or with a partner.

Another awesome tip is doing it in front of the mirror so you can watch yourself, find better angles, and make yourself as your own fantasy.

Seesaw Position to Burn More Calories

You can imagine this next position as a combination of the lotus and cowgirl, because of the straddling, crossed legs, and movement together.

To begin, the giving partner can sit on a comfy surface with legs open and arms supporting their body, while the receiver can straddle them next, with their legs adjusting to the giver's torso and hips and their arms supporting their body as well.

Why is it good for fingering? Because it offers a lot of challenge. The giver can use one of their arms to give the receiver some fingers, while the receiver can use their other arm too, to give the giver handjobs.

Spooning If You Both Feel Lazy

If you’re having one of those lazy weekend mornings when you just want to stay in bed, this position lets you get intimate without having to do much. And still gives your partner easy access to finger you.

And to do this, both partners can just lie on the bed, while facing the same direction, but the receiving partner should position themselves in front of the giver.

While the receiving partner relaxes, the giver can scoot a bit so their fingers can reach the clit or the vulva. They can also go for double penetration, if they’re into it, or even get some wearable vibes for that electrifying penetration, vibing, and fingering combo.

Need More Fingering Position Sex Tips to Fingerband Like a Champ?

If you consider yourself the receiver and want to finger your partner with a vulva, or even anally, then you might want to take a peek at these tips first to keep you always ready.

Please Clean Those Mitts

Fingering your partner can feel really good, at least for them, but keeping your hands clean will also make your partner safe and free from any infections; no person will like it if you touch their bits using your dirty hands, so wash them with soap and water, and don’t forget to trim your nails and file the rough edges, so they will allow you to do it again.

Grab That Lube

Every vulva owner is different. Some may get wet a lot and instantly, while others don’t, and that’s completely normal. So you’d better always have that lube ready, and whenever the opportunity strikes, you won’t scramble around, and you won’t give your partner that painful friction.

Don’t Just Dive in Like a Neanderthal

Take that lovely time to caress the clit and labia, and you can also ask your partner if they’re ready, and if they are, then you can proceed, fingering them using slow and gentle motions first, or you can also ask your partner what they like and how they prefer to do things.

FAQs

Is fingering supposed to hurt?

Nope, but any mild pressure or having that feeling of fullness is normal, but if you feel any sharp, burning, or pinching pain, then that’s a different story, and are signs that you need to stop; the pain can happen because there’s not enough lubrication, the receiver feels tense, or your talons are too sharp.

How many fingers should I use?

There’s no magic number; one finger may be enough for one person, while another may prefer two or more, so start with one and only add another if the receiver wants more and feels comfortable, and the receiver should be able to tell you when to continue, pause, or stop. More fingers don’t automatically mean more pleasure.

Is fingering safe during my period?

For most people, fingering during their period is totally fine as long as it feels comfortable. Menstrual blood can provide some natural lubrication, but you can still use lube or lay down a towel if you want to make cleanup easier. Just skip internal play if you’re dealing with unexplained pain, unusual discharge, sores, or an infection. And since you’re more likely to come into contact with blood, make sure your hands are clean before and after.

Fingers, Positions, and a Whole Lot of Fun

Fingering positions don’t have to be that really complicated, acrobatic, or something out of a circus act, because sometimes, all you need is the right angle, some lube, and a partner who’s willing to listen and explore with you.

Whether you want things slow and sensual or a bit more wild, there’s a place that can help you find out what feels best. Take your time, explore what feels good, and communicate openly if you’re trying it with a partner.

And when you’re ready to add a little extra buzz, check out BeYourLover’s collection of finger vibrators. Find your favorite way to play and let your fingers do the talking.

Special Thanks:

Rachel Varina and Gigi Engle - Writers - Women’s Health

Sherin Kalathil - Educator and Writer - McMaster University

Craving much wilder nights? Then you might want to check these featured positions next, to add more adventure and mischief in the bedroom: The Best Anal Sex Positions (With Tips), The T-Bone Sex Position, and The Lotus Sex Position.