Let’s break it down so you can try the full nelson sex position safely, comfortably, and connected, with no awkward guessing!
Feeling like your sexy time’s getting boring? And you need something new to give that feeling of rush back?
Then, let’s talk about the full nelson sex position, and yes, it’s safe as long as you’re doing it right and both of you communicate.
We’ll walk you through how this position works, some safety tips, and even suggest easier variations for newbies like you.
So, you’d better read on to try the full nelson sex position with confidence!
What is a Full Nelson Sex Position?
Let’s get real here: some sex positions are challenging enough to give you those abs and even need great communication skills to do it successfully. The full nelson is one of those positions because it’s like a wrestling move (where it was named from), so a person with a martial arts background can have an advantage.
Don’t just do it blindly, because it can be risky, but the fun thing here is some people with vulva enjoy this position, especially if they just went from reverse cowgirl.
Another thing is, you should do this in a short time, because it can drain your energy, even if you consider yourself a pro.
And please, if you’re still new to this, be sure you’re aware of the risks, or it might cause difficulty in breathing for the receiver, or worse, even a neck injury.
So, How Does the Full Nelson Sex Position Work?
Usually, for this position, it’s done by penis-in-vagina sex, but anal sex can work too, and for some people, they can also use a wearable liquid silicone dildo.
To get into the full nelson from the reverse cowgirl, all the topping partner has to do is lie back and lift their legs. The bottom partner can also hold their partner’s legs to support their balance, as they support themselves using their elbows or lock their hands at the top’s nape.
What are the Things You Should Consider First Before Doing the Full Nelson Sex Position?
For the full nelson sex position, you should consider the height difference, sense of balance, and flexibility of both partners first.
Consider Talking About It
Before you fully try the position, you can practice doing it first, even if you’re still in your clothes. Have a good chat about it first, then try to maintain the position before doing the penetration and all.
Always Keep the Possible Risks in Mind
Please be mindful of the dangers this position can bring before jumping in:
It Can Potentially Injure the Penis
It may not create a problem when it comes to the angle, but balancing yourselves wrongly, especially when the receiving partner wobbles sideways, can cause the penis to break.
It Can Also Cause Neck Injuries
This might be the scariest thing here, because the receiving partner can snap their neck if the giver doesn’t do it right, so the giving partner should be fully aware of the moment to keep the receiver in a stable position and safe.
And are you aware that the full nelson wrestling move is banned in amateur and Olympic wrestling, according to The Sportster, and only pros can do it? That’s how big a deal it is.
Having a Pulled Muscle isn’t Pretty
So, if you decided to try this position with your partner, warming up and stretching your muscles is necessary, especially for the person on the top.
Breath Suppression is Another
And because the giver bears all the weight of the receiver on top of them, it can be a bit challenging to breathe, while it’s the blocked airway of the neck positioning for the receiver.
How to Do the Full Nelson Sex Position Safely? Here’s a More Detailed Breakdown
The full nelson sex position can be a super intense thing to do, but also immensely hot, only if you do things right.
Prepare Your Bodies and Your Scene
First, look for the best spot in the house, like a bed or a matted floor, to give you safety and enough support, and you might also wanna add a couple’s positioning pillow to help support the giver’s back when maintaining the position.
Don’t forget about consent, safe words, and talking about your comfort as you go.
The Giving Partner Starts to Position Themselves
The giving partner’s job is crucial here, and they will serve as the base to fully maintain the position, so they need to tighten their core as much as possible.
They should lie flat and bend their knees, and use their core as they maintain the position. They can also practice this move even if they’re alone or if their partner isn’t around.
Start Everything in Reverse Cowgirl Position
During reverse cowgirl, the receiver straddles the other while facing them away, so all they have to do is lie on their back, and next up, they can align their genitals and do the penetration using careful moves and lots of lube.
It's alright if you miss a hole or do it shallow, as long as everyone's safe, and you can jump into a much more intense move once you're both comfortable.
Support the Receiver’s Legs
After the receiver leans back, they should be comfortable enough to press their back against the giver’s chest; then the giver can use their hands to hold the receiver’s legs to keep them in place.
It’s also best to check both of their breathing, and if the receiver needs more stimulation, they can opt for wearable nipple vibes like BeYourLover Camera Alberta or Jecca, for that hands-free yummy addition.
They Can Do the “Neck Locking”
This one’s optional and not a required move for the full nelson sex position, and if you’re still new to this, you might wanna skip this extreme move for now.
But once you and your partner consent to do this, the giving partner can wrap their arms around the receiver’s legs and put their hands at the back of their neck to do the locking.
For givers, just make sure not to do this super tight to prevent strangling anyone.
To prevent asphyxiation, the only thing you can do is be cautious, but if you notice your partner has lost consciousness or has a hard time breathing, give them CPR and call the emergency hotline fast, as per the Cleveland Clinic.
Do Some Adjustments and Don’t Forget to Check Each Other
While doing this position, you can still adjust your hips to hit your spots better, or the receiver can rock their waist or squeeze their hole for that tighter feel.
Check on each other if you still feel comfortable, and do your sessions for 5 to 10 minutes, and after you finish, you and your partner can sit slowly once the giver releases the other partner’s legs.
Do You Know That the Full Nelson Sex Position Has Safer Variations?
The classic full nelson sex position can feel restraining, but the thing is, there are easier variations you can do that other couples find more practical.
The Legs Together for Better Control
This small twist from the classic can make the position way easier to control for the giver, so it’s more stable.
And instead of spreading the receiver’s legs, they can position them in the middle, pressing together, while the giver holds both of their thighs.
The couple can also add a wearable clitoral vibrator, just like this BeYourLover Talia, to keep the receiver’s clit happy during the action.
Put Those Feet Down for More Comfort
Other than being more comfortable, this variation can also make the penetration much better. Slipping penis? That won’t happen anymore.
Since the receiver’s legs are planted on the surface, it’s also much easier for them to thrust their hips, and a better position to play with their clit.
This position can let the receiver play with their clitoris using a handheld wand like Orthus, or this Noir for the giver to use, if they want to play with the receiver’s breasts.
Keep the Legs Crossed for a Tighter Squeeze
The crossed leg creates a much tighter feel, either in the vagina or anus, so it feels more delicious for both partners.
Need more intensity? The receiving partner can also squeeze their pelvic muscles, or the giver can use a cock ring like this Redmii Rosalia to target those sensitive pleasure spots.
All the receiver has to do for this variation is to cross their legs, while the giver can comfortably lie down; it’s also more balanced than the classic variation because the receiver can support their weight using their arms.
The Arched Back for More Power
Doing this next variation can require some strength and flexibility, because they need to stay arched for minutes.
And yet, this gives enough space for the giver to thrust wildly, so you can expect a harder, deeper, and faster penetration, which means a more satisfying orgasm.
And since it has more space beneath, if the receiver wants, they can also add Azul, an anal toy as aesthetic as this position. Imagine getting fully penetrated on the front and back at the same time; just how good that feels?
FAQs
I’m a total beginner with sex positions, but can I do the full nelson?
Yes, but proper communication is key here, and you and your partner should be vocal about your comfort and needs; if you find the classic overwhelming, you might wanna stick to the easier variations for now.
What are the red flags telling us that we need to stop?
Once you or your partner experiences slight neck pain, dizziness, pins-and-needles, or trouble breathing, lower the receiver gently on the surface and check on each other.
Can people with spine or neck issues do this position?
For people with neck, spine, or other medical issues, it’s best to get some advice from your doctor first.
Is it okay to use the easier variation of the full nelson sex position during pregnancy?
Not recommended unless you get it cleared with your healthcare provider.
What warm-up stretches can I do before doing this position?
You can gently give your neck some rolls, stretch your hip flexors, and do some light cardio before the deed.
You Can Always Nail the Move!
The full nelson sex position doesn’t have to be this scary, acrobatic position that gives you dread.
And once you master this sex position, it can be raunchy, deep, and feel super connected, making you explode. It’s totally worth the hype! Just remember to do it slowly, feel a variation that’s good for you, and if something feels off, pause, adjust, and do it again.
And remember, pleasure should always feel fun, and it shouldn't be like a wrestling championship. But if you’re ready to make the full nelson sex position more lit, then you better head over to BeYourLover and check our list of toys and other goodies!
They’re sure to make your new positions a lot smoother, hotter, and more fun, and your next move (or your next toy) is just a click away.
Special Thanks:
Christian Maldonato - Writer - The Sportster
But if you still consider yourself a newbie and need more ideas about different positions you can try, then you can check Different Blowjob Positions, Best Position for People With Back Pain, and Eiffel Tower Threesome Sex Position.
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