Mindblowing sex. It involves much more than your inches down there.
The Tape Doesn’t Always Tell the Whole Story
You're probably asking yourself right now. Am I large or small? Or sitting somewhere in the just right/average section? Don't worry, you're not alone. Penis size gets talked about. A lot. But the internet’s kinda bizarre sometimes.
Talking about penis size as if every woman’s walking with a measuring tape. With a 5-point scoring system in their heads. But real life’s not that obsessive. Women have different bodies, experiences and preferences.
Different ideas about what feels good for them. Some care about size. Others barely think about it. And to many of ‘em, the person matters more. More than the measurement of a certain organ.
Now, let's talk about size without turnin’ it into a math exam.
What's the Average Penis Size?
Based on clinically measured penises, average size is about 5 to 5. 5 inches in length. Most common is 5.2. Totally different from your assumption that every penis owner has a 6-incher. When they get hard.
Where did the wrong measurement come from? Porn. Forums. Jokes. And so on… Remember this though. The average informs you about the population. It doesn't inform you about what women prefer.
What if you're outside that range? Still not a solid basis. Not always the deciding factor. If a woman would like to sleep with you or not. We’re more complex than our measurements.
So What's the Ideal Size for Women?
Here's the thing, there's no one ideal size across the board for all women. Not a great idea to generalize. That'd be like flattening the colors of our rich tapestry.
But based on a study (with 75 female participants using 3D models), most of them chose above the average measurement. 6.3 to 64 inches. So what does it mean? Do they discard all partners who don't measure up? No.
Should you avoid women at all costs? No. Because it doesn't tell the whole story. It's a preference. So yeah. Even with a small number of participants, personalities still differ. Some might discard you automatically for not meeting the 6.3 minimum.
But some are willing to compromise and still enjoy the average. As long as you make up for it in other areas (as a partner). In a perfect world, they want a bigger than average penis. But we can't really reduce sex to a 1 and 0 thing all the time.
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How Many Inches Women Actually Want, Based on Science
What Feels Better for Them, Length or Width?
Another area where individual preference still rules. Some enjoy the length more. Others love the full feeling from a wide/thick one. Others like both length and width. Some of them care more about what the penis owner does.
More than the measurements. Again, so hard to generalize. Your partner might not even care at all as they prefer oral. Instead of coital stimulation. Among other things. What even is the good news here?
You're not trying to satisfy this mysterious, universal committee of women. Your goal is - to learn what your partner really enjoys. So this is not quite a one size fits all type of situation.
Are You Doomed If You're Too Small?
To size queens, uhm… very likely. You can play the funeral march for intimacy with them. But to others who don't share their preference, is it the end? Nope. You're not doomed at all. So what's this anxiety about penis size that drives folks crazy anyway?
The usual culprits. Porn. Online discussions that dismiss the smaller ones. Body shaming jokes. Comparisons. Is it healthy to assume that your smaller size would disqualify you from a woman's affection and her willingness to get intimate?
No. Because beyond your dick, there are other interesting stuff you could do during sex. Touching, kissing, oral, fingering, sex toys. the list goes on… So think like this.Some call it compensating. Or call it consolation.
But hold up. When did intimacy become a contest/race anyway? Your personhood doesn't disappear. Just because your body part went out of the average fence.. You're not walking into your bedroom with a broken toolkit.
You're walking with a smaller, unique part of the toolkit. Even with an average or big one, you're not gonna be everyone's cup of tea. Because pleasure can sometimes go deeper than the physical side of intimacy.
Genetic stuff is a thing. That's true. But a smaller size doesn't reduce your worth, your dignity as a person. So are you doomed with a smaller penis? Nah. You just find your way around it. By working on your willingness to please + your confidence first.
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What If You're Too Large?
Ahhh… The other side of the spectrum. Most would assume that you won the genetic lottery. If you have a big penis. Like hitting the jackpot. Can someone be too large for fun, comfortable sex. Sometimes. But are you doomed? Absolutely not.
Like penis size, vaginas also vary. Some are deeper than others. Some are tighter. Some are outies or innies etc. So what are the usual struggles of the bigger penises? Comfort of partners. Expectations. Performance anxiety. Feeling objectified (like having big boobies).
Maybe your physical approach would be a lil’ different compared to your smaller peers. But the goal is the same. Learn and enjoy what you and your partner likes. Compatibility and preferences. Be mindful of ‘em.
Yes. You'd surely get some compliments from women. But does that mean all of them wanted to be rammed fiercely by large meat? Not all the time at least. It depends on the woman you're getting intimate with. Found an excuse to be lazy? No. Doomed? Also, no.
A healthy partner understands this. We're all imperfect. Variations exist. If huge size makes you arrogant. If small size makes you attack yourself. Maybe you'll get this one result: Spoiling the fun element of sex.
Sometimes, the most considerate you can do is to not make your size the main event.
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What Matters More Than Penis Size?
Getting to the good stuff. If you wanna improve your sex life, obsessing about size… Probably not the best use of your time and energy. Let's dive into what matters more.
Arousal
Comfort + pleasure. Those two would be easier if you and your partner are aroused. And engaged. Please don't treat your arousal as a videogame loading screen. As if it's something you have to rush. Before you get into more intense action.
Communication
You can’t step into your bedroom and go: Here's my dick then everything is automatically awesome. Doesn't work that way. Ask what your partner likes. Pay attention to her answer. Adjust.It sounds simple. Almost ridiculous.
But knowing what feels better? More useful than just guessing. Or attempting to pull off a porn actor’s trick.
Touch
Your hands. They’re not decorative accessories. Different kinds of touch create different sensations. Exploring what your partner enjoys. That can take away the immense pressure on your dick (and its size).
Pace
Faster is not always automatically better. Slowing down. Changing your rhythm. Giving your partner time to respond. Those can make your naughty moments more pleasurable than clueless humping.
Comfort
Seriously. Comfort is sexy. If something hurts, feels awkward, doesn’t quite work… Nothing heroic about pushing through it. Adjust what you’re doing. Make room for comfort. A sexier approach that your ladylove would appreciate
Confidence without ego
Confidence, the genuine one, is attractive. Arrogance is not. Constantly needing reassurance about your size isn't too charming either. Here’s the sweet spot - Being comfortable with your body. Without making your partner responsible for validating it.
How Can You Make Sex Better Whatever Your Size?
Average. Above it. Or considerably below it. You can still make sex better without changing a single centimeter.
- Find out what she really likes - Don’t assume that what worked for someone you once knew would work with your present partner.
- Don’t make penetration the main event - The world of intimacy is enormous. Lots of stuff happening before, around and beyond penetration.
- Use a nice lubricant if needed - Less friction, more comfort = a more enjoyable time in erotic paradise. For both of you.
- Pay attention to feedback - Your partner’s breathing, movements, words, reactions. They give you useful info. But direct communication’s much better.
- Take your time - Rushing ‘cause you’re worried about the performance aspect. That’s gonna take you out of the intimacy of the moment. Slow down.
- Stop comparing yourself - It’s still absurd that sex has turned into some kind of comparison game. Block out the unhealthy claims of others. Focus on your partner’s pleasure instead.
Most importantly, remember that great sex is something you create together. Not an experience your anatomy would accomplish all by itself.
Views on Penis Size FAQs
Do women generally prefer bigger penises?
Some do. Some don’t. The preference for larger than average exists. But there’s no universal ideal.
Is girth more important than length?
It still depends on the woman. Some enjoy both. Some prefer girth over length and vice versa. Others don’t even care that much about penetration.
Does a smaller penis mean less satisfying sex?
No. Penis size is only one part of sex. Satisfying sex can still happen with a small one. By involving many forms of intimate contact.
Can a penis be too large?
To some women, yes. Certain activities can feel uncomfortable for a partner. If they’re being penetrated by a large penis.
Do women care about penis size in long-term relationships?
It varies. It still depends on the preferences and priorities of each woman. Generalizing an entire population is like dismissing how diverse people are.
Should I ask my partner about my size?
You can. But ask yourself first, what are you going to accomplish by asking that? A better conversation is about what feels good, what doesn’t, what your partner likes more or less of.
What if I’m constantly worried about my size?
If it affects your life in a major way, seek help. Sometimes, the distress you experience regarding your size is a more serious issue than your penis.
Size Is Part of the Picture, Not the Whole Picture
Your penis can affect this. The physical aspect of your sexual encounters. But your size shouldn’t carry the entire weight of pleasure. Here are things that make sex more fun, more memorable.
Combo of attraction, attention, comfort, curiosity, communication. Learnin’ how to enjoy the person you’re with. Letting them enjoy you too. Large, small, average, hoping you’d stop treating your measuring tape like a scary final boss.
More sexy stuff for you to work with than a number.
Special Thanks:
Adrienne Santos-Longhurst - Healthline
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