A small, often ignored spot on your body. Lean in and unlock deeper feelings of relaxation and pleasure.
What is the Perineum?
Hi there, hoping things are going well. Do you feel like there’s a secret button in your body? A part that no one explained to you. There is an area in your wonderful vessel that often gets overlooked.
Ignored in sexual conversations. But it can play a big role in your intimate life. What is the perineum? It is a small patch of skin between your genitals and anus. It’s not really flashy. Hence not getting much attention.
Underneath that unassuming surface? There is a network of nerves and muscles that connect to your pelvic floor. Maybe some kind of intersection. Intersection that links your arousal, relaxation and physical control.
If you’re wondering why we have it in the first place, you can watch Dr. Milhouse’s video about it: Perineum - What is it and why do we have it? You can also check this anatomical breakdown of the perineum from Teach Me Anatomy.
The perineum is present in all bodies. Regardless of anatomy. And because it’s close to your major nerve pathways, a gentle touch might give you a surprisingly intense or soothing sensation.
Maybe this one’s making you blush. But please don’t feel weird or embarrassed. Knowing what or where your perineum is, is also a part of your body awareness process. Let’s walk through it together.
Where The Perineum Is?
Finding your perineum doesn’t ask you to bring out an anatomy chart. Or feel awkward in front of your mirror. You can locate it in a simple way. Start at your genitals.
Move a little backwards. Before reaching your anus, you’ll find a stretch of skin. That’s your perineum. Your commonly overlooked erogenous zone. No ceremonies required.
If you are relaxed, unhurried, you’ll notice that your perineum feels different from the surrounding areas. Usually more sensitive. Sometimes, slightly firm.
Don’t be alarmed though. It’s normal.
Why Stimulating Your Perineum Feels Good?
Perineum is rich in nerve endings
Your perineum is connected to internal structures and nerve clusters. Those nerves respond strongly when you touch. Or apply a good amount of pressure.
Stimulating this part enhances your overall arousal. It’s going to feel subtle at first. But you know, pleasure can build up quietly before it becomes obvious for you.
Supports your pelvic floor health
A gentle stimulation of your perineum lets you experience awareness. And relaxation of your pelvic floor muscles. These muscles? They play a role in intensifying your orgasms.
Stimulation, great for bladder control and your body’s overall comfort. When they’re tense, you won’t feel too much sensation. But when relaxed, they flow more easily.
Can deepen your orgasms
By stimulating your perineum, you will have a deeper, fuller kind of climax. Not louder. Not a quick explosion. But a more grounded and whole-body type of release. Imagine a wave rather than fireworks.
Encourages mind-body connection
When you touch this area, you will need a couple of things. Slowness and presence. Can’t rush it. When you’re fully present and approaching gently, things will shift. From being goal-oriented to genuinely pleasurable.
How to Stimulate Your Perineum
Here’s the interesting part. Don’t pressure yourself to get it perfectly. All you need is to listen to your body.
Start slow
Like most sex acts, you can’t really rush things up. Your warm hands matter. A relaxed environment too. A nice shower beforehand, perfect. Steps that help you loosen up. Feel more receptive.
Use your fingers. Maybe a soft, body-safe toy as well for stimulation. You wonder what toy can pull that off. While stimulating other areas too. Here’s an awesome one for you.
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Use lubrication
Your skin here is sensitive. Pick a water-based, body-safe lube to things smoother for you and your perineum. More comfortable. Too much friction and dry pressure can distract you from the sensuality of your experience.
Try light pressure first
Instead of poking or pressing too hard, start with gentle circles, soft strokes. Light and steady pressure. You start to feel good, keep going. Otherwise, try easing up a bit. Please don’t rush to feel amazing right away.
Breathe
Sounds obvious you think. But some folks would hold their breath. Without realizing it. Slow breathing will help in relaxing your pelvic floor. Improving your sensitivity. Also your comfort in the process. Make your exhales longer. To help your body soften and ease up.
Pair it with other touch
You’re going to get the best of perineum stimulation when it’s part of a bigger picture. Not the only focus here. You can combine it with a few things.
Something like external genital touch. A slow massage maybe. Relaxed solo time. Other bonding acts with your partner. Let BeYourLover Rosetacle join the fun! No need to isolate. Unless you want to.
Common Perineum Myths/Misconceptions
- It’s only for advanced, experienced people - Nah. That’s not the case at all. Your perineum responds best to gentleness. Not expertise.
- It should feel intense (right away) Another myth. You can expect it to be subtle at first. Like you know, gentle background music that sets your sexual mood.
- Touching it is weird - It’s a part of your body. Your curiosity is not weird. Ignoring your own anatomy is not a requirement here.
Why isn't this talked about enough?
A lot of pleasure education will put the focus on obvious zones in your body. Ignoring the areas that do require some patience. Yeah, your perineum doesn’t fit into those fast, flashy explosive sex narratives.
Here’s the thing. Perineum stimulation will reward slowness, curiosity and respect. Maybe not making catchy headlines. Still important in your intimate life though.
For many people, discovering this spot is like finding a missing piece. A missing piece of an erotic puzzle. Not loud. Not extreme. Just deeper.
Perineum Safety Tips
Your awareness, that goes a long way. Here are some tips for your perineal adventure.
- Clean your hands and toys - Your perineum is close to sensitive tissues. Hygiene will always matter.
- Avoid aggressive pressure - More force doesn’t always lead to more pleasure. If you feel some kind of sharpness or numbness, step on those brakes. Stop.
- Listen to your body - The discomfort you’re feeling? That’s your body telling you important info. It’s not something you ignore or just push through.
- Use body safe products - Pick lubricants and toys designed for intimate skin contact. So you can avoid tearing and irritation.
- Take breaks - Overstimulating your perineal area can lead to temporary soreness. Remember, rest is a part of care. No matter how sexual it gets.
- Never numb the area - Avoid the use of numbing creams/substances. Sensation is your guide here. So please don’t silence it.
If you’re starting to feel pain or discomfort there, take it seriously. Give this Baptist Health article a read when you feel like you’re gonna need some medical attention. Your safety is not negotiable.
A Gentle Reminder
Please don’t look at exploring your body as a performance. You’re not being asked here to prove anything or reach a specific outcome. Learn how you feel. What relaxes you or what brings you closer to yourself.
Perineum stimulation is not some sexual party trick you perform to impress anyone. It’s an invitation for you. To slow down, listen and treat your body with curiosity and respect. Not giving in to pressure.
If you try it and love it, that’s awesome and dope. If you see it from a neutral camp, that’s fine as well. No right response. Just an honest one. Be gentle. Be patient. Your body, not an issue to fix.
It’s a gentle place you get to live in. A wonderful vessel. If you want to explore/learn, act like a good friend to it. With warmth, with respect and no rush at all.
Special Thanks:
- Baptist Health
- Dr. Milhouse
- Teach Me Anatomy
