Sexual stimulation using fingers can be a satisfying thing for women, isn't it?
Some women would even say, "I like intense fondling using fingers!" While others would state, "The more extreme, the better”!
However, until you become more aware of what your partner likes, for men, I’d recommend that you should give her gentle strokes and movement first–that won’t damage or hurt her vaginal walls.
There are also many techniques available to satisfy your partner, but I’ll still recommend the standard movements. Remember, the simpler and leaner the movement, the better the sex–and more sober.
I think that's what many people feel, in my opinion. Even slow movements can be good once you use the right technique on the correct spot.
Most women would say, "I don't like being stimulated by using my partner’s hands," or "I've never experienced reaching orgasm just by fingering”.
Yet, if you’re a man reading this who never had a good response from a woman, this is a good opportunity to learn the basics–so you can satisfy her using your hands.
We’ll explain the best way to do it and some simple tips–to make everything feel good and mind-blowing.
Of course, it would be nice if women could also learn these techniques for themselves. Because once they do, they'll understand more things about their bodies–for a more pleasurable experience.
As a couple, the following tips can promote more pleasurable sex for both of you, compared with the previous ones you had without foreplay.
As a woman, you can also try these techniques using your fingers, because sex with yourself can be an insanely pleasurable feeling. Trust me, using fingers to achieve an orgasm feels way better than it seems!
Learn more tips in this guide about genital fondling–whether you’re a man or a woman.
What is Fingering and How Can It Make A Woman Feel Good?
Fingering is a sexual act, and as the name implies, it’s the stimulation of the genitalia using the hands. To be precise, it makes a woman feel good by touching her genitals using your or her fingers.
Most of you may not have any experience in what I’m talking about. However, here are some simple steps and why you should add to your love-making sessions.
Use Gentle Foreplay First By Using Your Fingers
It’s not always a good idea to suddenly insert a finger into a woman's opening. Because if you do that, it can cause her pain or discomfort, which doesn't feel good.
You don’t have to be in a hurry and prepare your or your partner's body first. After putting lubricant on your finger and her genitals, gently touch the clitoris using the tip of your finger. Next, you can stroke it lightly, as if tracing the surface.
Continue doing this by stroking your finger vertically or in circles–using a steady speed.
Put a Finger Inside and Explore the G-Spot
Next, gently insert your middle finger into the vaginal opening. Once you insert it up to the second joint, look for the G-spot that you can find around the first joint.
However, it can vary from person to person, so find it well by gently touching or pressing it using the tip of your finger–and see how your partner reacts.
Gently Press Your Finger
Once you’ve found the G-spot, press the center of your finger against it. Don't move your finger, for now, just keep pressing it.
If you’ve found it by using correct finger placement, she will instantly feel good–even just from being pressed. You don't need to put a lot of pressure on it, all you have to do is press it gently and see how she feels things or how she reacts.
Stimulate the Clitoris
While gently pressing on the G-spot that makes her feel good, you can gently stimulate the clitoris using your other free finger.
You do not need to put any force or move your finger in a vigorous motion. Doing gentle strokes is enough to make her come pleasantly, so give it a try first.
Some men may find it surprisingly too simple and not enough–but it is enough.
Just using gentle, correct fingering of the pressure points is all you need to satisfy a woman.
Some men would even say, "Manual penetration seems difficult," but they should consider that they can always achieve it by using the proper techniques.
What Kind of Fingering Does a Woman Dislike?
Most beginners–especially for men–don’t usually understand proper fingering. Let's check the following to see if you’re doing something that women won't approve of.
- Inserting a finger without foreplay
- Inserting a finger and using a quick jerk
- Fingering so hard that it causes tendonitis
- Touching or pressing the clitoris too hard
- Using different speeds when moving your fingers
The reason why a woman can’t feel good is because her partner is doing things the wrong way. If you continue doing the act without checking her reaction and only using the knowledge you learned from somewhere, you won’t make her feel good.
Once you touch her or insert your digits, remember to watch the woman's reaction little by little to find the spots where she feels good. If she looks sore or anxious, it’s a good time to hold back and analyze the situation first.
Likewise, holding back and just waiting for the action to end will never make both of you feel good.
A good fingering can make a girl squirt and climax, so if you are not getting a good response, you may want to rethink your approach.
Sounds Easy? But How To Do It Better?
If you think you’re not good enough at fingering–or if you are having trouble making your girlfriend feel good–take a moment to review your methods.
Make Sure Your Nails and Hands are Neatly Trimmed and Clean
Long nails can damage a woman's delicate skin inside. Dirty hands and fingers can also cause bacteria to stick to mucous membranes.
Women look at men's fingers and hands more than you might think, so just looking clean can likely increase a woman’s arousal. Always keep your hands and fingers clean so they’ll sexually imagine, "If these fingers touch my pussy..."
During foreplay, gently touch the woman's skin, nipples, and neck with your fingers–to imprint a pleasant sensation on her body. If she subconsciously learns that it feels good when being touched by your fingers, she’ll surely feel the same sensation once you insert your fingers into her vagina.
Use Gentle Motions When Stroking Her
Touch her as if she’s something fragile, using the fleshy part of your finger in a steady rhythm to make her feel comfortable.
Some women like intense touch, but it’s a lot safer to start gently and get used to it after a few times–and see how it goes.
At least for women who are having sex for the first time, you should just touch them gently and make them feel comfortable, little by little, before proceeding to manual penetration.
Use Lube
If you’ll finger a woman who is not a fan of pain or has difficulty getting wet, be sure to have some lube ready.
Just by using any lubricant, the feeling will change and insertion will go more smoothly. If you put a lot of lube on your finger and gently stroke her delicate parts, you can make her feel good even without using any technique!
The Final Touch
If you have taught yourself how to do fingering through watching random videos, please take this opportunity to learn how to do it correctly.
If you make good use of lubricant and proper techniques, sex with her will become much more pleasurable.
Let's make your sex more fulfilling as a couple by using pleasant and satisfying fingering techniques and tips!
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FAQs
How often should I stimulate her using my fingers?
It’s best to do it by considering each other's feelings and timing.
What are the things that I should always consider?
It’s important to do the stimulation while observing your partner's reaction at the same time.
What is the ideal environment?
A quiet place where the couple can have privacy.
What should I keep in mind before performing a manual penetration?
It is important to prepare her in a relaxing environment, where you can use foreplay as the initial step.
