You like being seen while you’re getting sexual. Let’s look at how and where you can enjoy exhibitionism safely and respectfully.
What is Exhibitionism?
Do you get that erotic rush of excitement when you think about doing naughty deeds with the idea of getting seen or caught? You’re probably a fan of a certain kink or fetish.
Usually tied to the idea of public sex or public play, it’s called exhibitionism. At its core, exhibitionism is about mixing your arousal and your visibility. With a good dose of risk.
Pretty much the counterpart of voyeurism. Exhibitionist, the performer. Voyeur, the viewer or audience. If you enjoy putting on a show, exhibitionistic elements might turn you on.
Here’s the thing though. It’s not about forcing folks around you in a setting they didn’t sign up for.So don’t let the misconception about this kink get you in trouble. You know, the scandalous, illegal type of situation.
In your sex community, your kinks should involve consent and shared excitement. Imagine yourself prancing around in a sexual way. Your audience wants to see you put on a show. Like they got tickets (consent) for that.
Not a surprise performance for the unsuspecting alright. Can’t just inconvenience people who are just going about their lives. Exhibitionism can range from you wearing provocative clothing or maybe doing some subtle sexual flirting in a visible space.
You can also participate in exhibitionism by going to clubs or parties where nudity and different sex acts are allowed. You can’t just do erotic stuff anywhere. Be mindful of the laws that exist okay?
Exhibitionism is about you expressing yourself in a sexual, risky, visible manner. Like there’s an element of showmanship and thrill seeking there. But of course, without getting any boundaries violated.
How to Explore Exhibitionism Safely?
So you’re very excited to heat things up with exhibitionism. But to make it a safe, sustainable kink for you and everyone, here are some things you’re gonna have to keep in mind.
Know the laws where you live
You’re probably aware of this. In most public spaces, getting sexual where non-consenting folks could witness you is illegal. The consequences for you can get harsh. Fines, arrest, getting labeled as a public offender.
Those aren’t things you’d really want in exchange for that sexual thrill right? Before you do risky stuff in parks, buses, trains or beaches, consider this. If others aren’t willing to see you doing sex acts, it’s not safe.
What’s the safer choice though? Go to spaces built for this kind of play. Private, swinger parties or join a kink club. No, you’re not limiting yourself. You’re just expressing your sexuality in safer, consenting environments.
Start small
You don’t have to go straight into the spotlight to enjoy exhibitionism. Where a crowd cheers you on right away. Find a way to ease into it. Starting small helps you test your comfort level. Or help you build your confidence.
Check what kind of exposure excites you the most. Wear something ultra sexy under your regular outfit. An exciting secret you and your partner only know. Wink. Wink. Share some spicy photos with them.
Keep your curtains slightly open. While making sure you’re not bothering any of your unsuspecting neighbors. Experiment with toys to make you feel daring.
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Have a plan
Being spontaneous is pretty sexy isn’t it? But when it comes to exhibitionism, you can’t just go commando anywhere. Some planning will help you keep the thrill without turning it into panic.
Before playing, ask yourself. What’s your exit strategy when you start to get uncomfortable? What signals or safe words can you use with your partner or participant?
Are you aware of the rules in the space you’re in? At home, check how visible or exposed you’re willing to be. Without getting a complaint. In a club?
Know where the safe zones or play spaces are. Don’t let a plan kill your mood. Use it to make your experience an awesome one.
Having plans will actually help you relax. Knowing that you’re safe and covered when things get a lil too intense.
Keep communication open
In Exhibitionism, your communication with your partner or fellow participant is very important. Think of it as your safety net. Before you get into some risky business, please talk about these crucial things.
Ask yourself and your partner about the things that excite you about being watched or exposed. Keep boundaries or limits in mind. For example, you like being watched but touching is a no no.
Use signals and safe words if you want to stop or pause. What if you’re exploring this kink on your own? It would be about your self-awareness. Checking in with your body and your comfort level.
Stage fright can happen to you once in a while. Even if you’re a veteran in the kink scene, you are still allowed to have your nervous moments too. When this happens, you can shift to something milder.
Like wearing something less revealing or shifting to watching. Instead of being watched. Know the difference between your excitement and anxiety.
That would save you from getting overwhelmed. Or facing unwanted consequences. If minimal exposure scares you, maybe you should explore another fetish or kink.
Where to Explore/Practice Exhibitionism Without Trouble?
There are spaces where you can indulge in exhibitionism. Without you worrying about legal and social trouble. Don’t put on a surprise performance to a clueless audience.
Here are a few spots where you can explore safely.
- Kink Clubs and Dungeons - You can participate during exhibitionist/voyeur nights where you’ll be encouraged to put on a show.
- Swinger Clubs or Lifestyle Parties - Perfect for someone like you who enjoys the feeling of watching or being watched.
- Festivals and Events - Burning Man, Folsom Street Fair have areas for consensual exhibitionism.
- Private Parties - An event organized by your friends or acquaintances where everyone knows what they signed up for.
- Cam Sites - You can also express yourself online. You’re allowed to schedule your sex show and get paid too!
These spaces allow you to explore your fantasies openly. You can participate in nights for exhibitionists and voyeurs. Being watched there as you do sexual stuff is part of the fun. The folks know what’s up.
That means consent is already in the environment you’re entering. But there are rules as well when it comes to taking photos or touching. To keep things respectful and safe for you and others too.
If you’re new, you can start with observing first. Easing your way into it. So you can gauge the atmosphere and your comfort level. Ready to take exhibitionism up a notch?
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Mindfulness: Consent and Respect in Exhibitionism
Exhibitionism works best for you when everyone is aware of what’s going on. And being comfortable about it. That means you don’t drag unsuspecting strangers to a naughty act.
If they don’t consent to what you’re doing, yikes. You’re pretty much crossing the line of harassment. Please keep the rules in mind when you’re attending events.
When they say no touching or cameras? Follow them, period. But what if you’re allowed to touch, film or join in? Ask first. Consent, respect make your experiences sexy.
Your goal here is not to shock the people around you. It’s about you sharing the thrill with willing participants. Find that sweet spot between being seen and being safe.
By finding that, you can feel empowered. That’s why mindfulness matters. When you and everyone respect boundaries, exhibitionism will give you a great time.
Is Exhibitionism Really for You?
You love the idea of being seen while you know, doing naughty things. But you might end up feeling too anxious when it happens for real. No need to feel bad about it ‘cause it’s pretty normal.
How will you know if this kink is your cup of tea? Start gradually. Pour your feelings into a journal after trying some small exhibitionistic things. You can talk to your partner as well.
Those simple things will help you figure out if exhibitionism is kinky stuff that excites you. Or you’re getting the opposite effect from it.
What Should You Bring to an Exhibition-friendly Event?
Depending on the venue of the event you’re attending, consider bringing some of these things. Let’s start with a change of clothes. So you can feel comfortable after you finish a sexual, exhibitionistic act.
Don’t forget about protection. Condoms and gloves will keep you and your fellow participants safe and at peace. Bring some wipes or towels that you can use. Clean things up after putting on a show.
Make your sexy show more exciting by bringing your favorite sex toys! Lastly, always carry a sense of respect for the event’s rules and respect for the people around you. So everyone can have a wonderful, erotic time.
Before You Start the Show
Exhibitionism helps you get that unique thrill of being seen. Sometimes, being almost seen. It’s going to work well for you when these important things are present. Consent. Safety. Respect for everyone around you.
What if you’re starting to have second thoughts about it? You can start small. Make a plan. Find the kink-friendly spaces that accommodate your naughty fantasies. Without getting yourself into harmful situations or legal trouble.
Ready to start your erotic show? Enjoy every second of it. Let your audience cheer you on!
