What is Scissoring?
First things first. What is scissoring? It’s a sexual act or position where you and a partner would interlock your legs. In an angle where your legs somehow resemble scissor blades. Hence the name.
You’re going to use the power of friction on this one. Your bodies create warmth and pleasure by making your genitals rub with your partner’s. With the rise of pop and internet culture, you can encounter some misconceptions about it.
Maybe you’re curious. Or a little unsure. Don’t worry though. Because you’re not alone here. We can try to clear some of those misconceptions up about scissoring. Let’s start shall we?
What People Get Wrong About Scissoring?
1. Climax is the only goal in scissoring
Maybe you’ve heard conversations about scissoring that it’s all about finishing. You and your partner are speaking in ecstasy. Climax is a good thing alright. Nothing wrong with that. But there’s so much more.
More than your orgasms, scissoring also helps you get closer, more intimate with your partner. Sharing your energy with them. This act or position should make you enjoy each moment.
The pressure you feel to perform, reach climax can sometimes be daunting. Taking away from your enjoyment. Scissoring can simply be about you exploring your wonderful bodies.
Connect with gentle touches and movements. Enjoy your connection without the weight of producing orgasmic results all the time.
2. Scissoring is the only way to enjoy queer sex
Hmmm. Maybe a very confining idea you’re going to hear about sex. Makes you think that scissoring is the only tree that bears the sweet fruits of same-sex intimacy. Of course it’s a great act/position you can enjoy.
But hold on. The problem with this thinking is it traps you in a box. There are plenty of sex acts you can make your queer sex moments delightful. 69, facesitting are just a couple of other positions you can also try to maximize your pleasure.
Maximizing pleasure? Don’t forget about how toys can help you out in your scissor adventures. While you’re enjoying the friction, make toys a welcome presence in your bedroom. Ready to get raunchy and hit those hot, sexy spots?
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3. Scissoring only happens in porn
You’ve probably seen some porn scenes where scissoring was done. You take a curious look at it. Then you wonder. Is this position done for dramatic effect or visual appeal in those sex clips you watch?
Porn is kind of guilty of exaggerating their scenes to feed sexual fantasies. It’s normal that you feel a little skeptical about scissoring. In your real life, scissoring can be a super nice, intimate way for you to connect.
If scissoring is a pleasurable, valid option for you to experience intimacy, please don’t let naysayers tell you bum you out. Remember, it’s not a porno-exclusive way to enjoy sex.
4. Scissoring is very complicated
Nope. You don’t have to be a superhero, extremely flexible sex athlete to enjoy scissoring. So yeah, a gold medal won’t be a requirement here. Even if your body is not the most flexible, you can still have loads of fun with this one.
Maybe the scissoring you’ve seen in porno flicks made you feel unsure. Makes you think it’s going to be too complicated for you. But set your worries aside. You’re free to make a few tweaks to get pleasure from scissoring.
With some angle adjustments that make you comfortable, you’re gonna be grand. Please don’t assume that you’re required to be some kind of an acrobat. Sex is not a performance dear ones. It's a connection.
5. Scissoring doesn’t feel that good
Couples won’t do scissoring if it doesn't pleasure them. So it’s up to your comfort level and preferences if scissoring’s gonna feel good for you. Our bodies respond to different kinds of stimulation.
You’re probably enjoying a lot of friction, skin to skin contact during sex. Or maybe you love a gentler, less intense approach. Since our awesome bodies are different, scissoring is not automatically a winner or a flop.
That’s why communicating with your partner won’t hurt, you know. Communication, a nice thing to have when you are trying different sex positions. With it, you can experiment and explore without getting bummed out by worry.
But hey, don’t count scissoring out just because other folks dismissed it. Who knows, it could be your go-to position every time you want to have your itching for wild, naughty moments.
6. Scissoring is always spontaneous
You love the unscripted, natural flow of sex. And sometimes, you just do these spur of the moment stuff while doing the deed. That can happen with scissoring as well. But, not all the time.
So please don’t feel guilty if you need some time to adjust before you do this position. Find the right, comfortable angle for you. Giggle and laugh with your partner as you go along. It’s endearing and still sexy.
Remember, this is not a performance. No scorecard or something like that. Your flow can sometimes get a little rough but hey, it’s alright. Just be present and connect with another warm, amazing soul. That’s what matters.
7. You don’t need to communicate
It’s a fun and exciting thing to try. But don’t assume that communication goes out the window. Ask your partner if the angle you’re trying is comfortable. Offer a pillow for some extra weight support.
Check if you’re both ready to get into the scissoring position. Check in on them while you’re at it. Take a few breaks in between. Once you’re both satisfied, ask them if they’re doing alright. Go and cuddle too.
Yes, our bodies communicate well. But with the help of your signals and words, sexy time would be safer and more pleasurable.
8. Protection is not important/necessary
Just because you’re giving and receiving pleasure externally (no penetration), it doesn’t mean you’re gonna set protection aside. Latex-free sheets, dental dams will be pretty good when you’re enjoying skin-to-skin contact.
Don’t let protection become an obstacle here. It's actually a sign of respect to everyone’s health and safety. You can have an absolute blast with scissoring and still be safe. A win-win situation.
9. It is exclusive to a certain body type
Oof. Another myth. Our bodies differ in shapes and sizes. But don’t let differences ruin your fun. Or confine you. It’s somewhat uncool to just limit ourselves don’t you think?
Sure, some conditions can make scissoring challenging for you or your partner. But with the power of your openness and creativity, you can also experience the joys of scissoring.
Come, taste the sweet fruits of intimacy. Without limiting yourself to fit a certain image. Try tweaking things a little where your bodies are going to be comfortable and receptive to some scissoring action.
10. It’s supposed to look a certain way
Scissoring got its name from how your legs resemble scissor blades. Pop culture and countless porno clips tried to make it look like one specific way. Perfect lighting, synchronized movements.
But of course, real intimacy can also include some awkward breaks, readjusting, laughter and other goofy moments. Don’t concern yourself with the aesthetics of it all.
You can try to emulate the depictions you see. But you can make minor changes too. As long as you're both feeling good, comfortable, connected, you’re doing the right thing.
A Few Scissoring Tips
- Find your comfortable angle - You’re not going to be in a one-size-fits-all scenario here. Because of how different our bodies are. Experiment with different angles. Do it sideways. Use pillows that will support or elevate you. Put one leg over your partner’s hip. Adjust and you can turn okay into wow.
- Don’t underestimate lube - Even if scissoring doesn’t require you to have penetrative sex, lube can still help you out. There’s still friction in scissoring. Some lubrication can make the rubbing of your sexy bits feel smoother. Stay connected without discomfort with the almighty lube.
- Bring toys into the mix - Level up the fun by bringing hot, naughty playthings to your scissor session. Spice everything up with clamps or suction toys. Have a blast with your playful, creative, sensual sides.
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Wrapping it Up
You can look at scissoring as a drop in your overflowing fountain of sexuality. An abundant world is waiting for you to taste. To explore. You’re gonna have some playful, clumsy moments. But there’d be a lot of mind-blowing moments too!
The whole idea of getting it perfect cannot stop you from trying. That it should be this or that. To the letter. Pretty confining if you see it through a super strict perspective. Think about your comfort and pleasure.
Scissoring can be your effective language to connect intimately. Your version might be a little different from the usual depictions. But you know, sex is not a performance or competition.
Enjoy your own sensual way of scissoring.
Don’t let misconceptions cut you off from warmth. From the magical pleasures you’re getting from this vast world of sexuality. See ya!
