What I didn’t realize is that this one act can change how sex feels for both of us
Ok, so you’ve gone down on your partner and later wondered if there’s any sense in doing it. Well, you know that they might enjoy going down on you and you’re just returning the favor, right? But is that all the reason you should go down on her?
If you’re gonna ask me, it’s a must-have in your bedroom routine, not because I like my own partner doing it for me, but because it actually makes sense more than you think. It’s not just about returning the favor, but there’s science behind it.
After reading this guide, you will know why it should be a part of your sex routine.
Why Eating Your Partner’s Pussy Deserves a Place at the Center of Your Sex Life?
Many men hate going down on their partners. Thank God, my Nick isn’t one of them. But do you know it actually has tons of benefits? Not because I have a vulva, but because it’s a proven fact.
Here are the benefits of actually eating your partner’s pussy.
Significantly Higher Probability of Orgasm
Most men focus on penetration and getting “there.” But most women’s bodies respond to clitoral stimulation. That’s why it’s no wonder that tons of women don’t achieve orgasm or just fake it because their partners are just focused on the penetration, not on stimulating their partners’ clit.
The clitoris is rich in nerve endings, wrapping around the vaginal canal. That’s why it’s no wonder that direct stimulation of it tips a woman over into orgasm, and penetration alone frequently does not.
In an Australian study analyzing sexual practices and outcomes, adding cunnilingus to vaginal intercourse increased women’s orgasm rates from about 50 percent to 73 percent.
In other words, when you include oral stimulation, you are not just being nice or reciprocating your partner going down on you, it also increases her chance of finishing.
Sexual Assertiveness and Personal Gratification
There is another layer here on what it means for her to ask for oral sex, or feel comfortable receiving it.
A study published in the Journal of Sex Research found that women who are more sexually assertive (including initiating or requesting for her pussy to be eaten) report higher levels of personal gratification and tend to have more partners who perform it.
Yup, because let’s be real. A lot of women are taught to just be quiet about what they really want in bed, so they just learn to perform and fake it until the partner makes it. It doesn’t matter if they themselves make it or not.
But what they don’t know is that their partners, who really care for them, are happy to help them orgasm. In fact, many of them feel good or even cocky (no pun intended) if they have made their partners satisfied in bed.
Protection Against Endometritis and PID
Most people think of oral sex as purely recreational. The research suggests something more, and in some cases, it can support the reproductive health of those with a vulva.
One theory is called "pharyngeal immune priming," which refers to a condition in which the partner’s body is exposed to the partner-specific antigens. These antigens are like the unique proteins in your saliva and bodily fluids that can be transferred via oral-genital contact.
And because of this, your partner’s immune system may become more familiar with that partner. This can shape how her genital tract responds later.
The PEACH study, a major investigation into Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, looked at women with suspected PID and examined who developed endometritis, or the inflammation of the uterine lining that can affect fertility.
Women who reported engaging in oral sex had a reduced risk of getting endometritis, with an adjusted odds ratio of 0.5 (0.3–0.8).
An odds ratio of 0.5 means their risk was about half that of women who did not report oral sex, even after adjusting for other factors. Correlation does not prove causation, but the pattern is compelling: oral-genital exposure may be part of a protective immune story for some women.
Reduced Risk of Preeclampsia and Miscarriage
Eating your partner’s pussy also helps them tolerate a fetus that carries half of their partner’s genetic material. The more familiar her body is with her partner’s antigens before and around conception, the smoother this adjustment can be.
Several studies suggest that oral sex, specifically with a long-term partner, may play a role here:
Published on PubMed Central, a Dutch study of 97 women with recurrent miscarriages found that oral sex appeared as a protective factor, likely because exposure to partner antigens helped modulate the immune response during early embryo implantation.
In the same study, it also reveals that oral sex with a partner was associated with reduced incidence of preeclampsia, a dangerous pregnancy complication linked to abnormal immune tolerance.
So if you’re planning to have a baby, better give your partner oral sex. However, it doesn’t mean your partner will be 100% protected from miscarriage, but it helps.
Satisfaction in Long-Term Marriages
There is a myth that oral sex is something most couples grow out of once the honeymoon phase ends. But research says that there’s a link between cunnilingus and long-term relationship satisfaction.
According to Psychology Today, a 2018 study of 884 couples aged 57 to 85 found that husbands who often go down on their wives reported higher relationship satisfaction.
These partners are long-term partners using oral sex as part of their bedroom routine, and a must-have in bed, not just to spice things up. It’s because it creates an environment where it is safe for a person with a vulva to experience affection, vulnerability, and sexual satisfaction.
The Reciprocity Loop
When you eat your partner’s pussy and show them that you’re really into it, it’s more likely that they’ll do the same with you.
The same study of older couples found that frequent cunnilingus was associated with higher reciprocity in oral sex, meaning partners were more likely to go down on each other regularly.
Are There Any Risks in Cunnilingus?
None in this world is 100% safe, and that includes all kinds of oral sex, even cunnilingus. However, you’ll only be unsafe if your partner has an STI or even trichomoniasis. So, before you go down on each other, make sure that both of you are free from any STIs and parasitic infections.
Here is a video of a Family Nurse Practitioner, Clarissa Guerrero, who talks about the risks of oral sex:
What If I Don’t Want to Eat Her Pussy or She Doesn’t Want It Either
The short answer is, it’s okay. Though eating your partner’s pussy can have tons of benefits, let’s face the reality that not everyone is down for it, even those with a vulva.
However, there’s a way to work around it and get almost the same results, and it’s by using a good sex toy.
There are different kinds of sex toys you can choose from in sexual wellness shops nowadays. And if you want to give your partner pussy-eating–like pleasure, you can pick something like the Devil Tongue.
What’s good with this toy is that it provides multiple stimulations, and will really send your partner to nirvana.
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