Have you ever had sex with your partner where you were chest-to-chest, faces just inches apart, feeling the heat of each other’s breath, and gazing into each other’s eyes? As you breathe, your body moves together in sync, feeling each other’s rhythm.
The emotion and connection are there, strengthening your bond.
When was the last time you had this kind of sex with your partner? Or have you ever had this kind of sex where lovemaking is more than just physical, but also emotional?
If your typical sex position feels mechanical and less emotionally engaging, you need to add something more to your bedroom routines. One option is adding the close-breathing sex position to your bedroom checklist.
What Is the Close-Breathing Sex Position?
The close-breathing sex position is different from most of those that you see in Kama Sutra books or vids. Unlike the others, this doesn’t require you to contort into a pretzel. Well, you can say that the element of fun and pleasure is also there, but that is not the main purpose of it.
Close-breathing is more about mindful intimacy and building a deep connection, literally and emotionally.
How is it so intimate? Imagine your bodies pressing together and attuning to each other’s breaths and movements. This is more of a fun meditation than a performance for pleasure.
This sex position is almost comparable to missionary and coital alignment positions, as these are also intimate, but the difference is the positioning and the focus.
So, although the genitals are involved, the nervous system is as well.
6 Emotional and Physical Benefits
Aside from a mind-blowing orgasm, this sex position also provides the following benefits:
Deeper Emotional Connection
According to PsychCentral:
“Somatic-based practices (such as lovemaking in the close-breathing sex position), we can rekindle emotional connection and support the emotional expressions of our partners with full-bodied attention, whole-hearted awareness, and compassion.”
Therefore, if you want to become more intimate with your partner through sex, try the close-breathing technique.
Better Physical Awareness and Wellness
Just like any other sex position or physical activity, close breathing can also improve body circulation, especially in the pelvic area.
And because you’re essentially meditating and being mindful, it also helps heighten your senses and body awareness. It also supports pelvic floor health.
Healthier Mind
Sex in general has a lot of benefits. Among them is that it reduces stress and anxiety. It also releases happy hormones that will make you and your partner feel good, not just during the climax, but also after sex.
Excellent Sex Position for All Genders
It doesn’t matter if you have a vulva or a penis. This sex position is for all genders because it can be penetrative or non-penetrative, depending on your mood or what you feel at the moment.
What’s important in this sex position is the focus, which is not just the climax, but also breathing and feeling each other’s bodies.
Great for Reverse Power Play
Like the cowgirl, the one in control in this sex position is the receiver, as they are the one on top. Although they are the ones getting penetrated, they control the rhythm and pace. Meanwhile, the bottom, or the penetrating partner, often just sits and lets the top do the work.
Pregnancy-Safe
Just a short disclaimer: If you’re pregnant, always check with your doctor before you do anything in bed.
The close-breathing sex position is generally safe for pregnant people, but our bodies and health conditions are different from each other. That’s why it is best to visit your doctor and know the best positions or times you can have sex with your partner.
How to Be a Pro in the Close-Breathing Sex Position?
One of the best things about this sex position is that it is both simple and magical. It is simple because you don’t have to put yourself into an awkward position just to do it. It’s magical because, with just the power of synchronized movements and breathing, you can strengthen your bond with your partner.
But to make sure that nothing goes wrong in your most intimate moment and you end with a smile on your face, here’s what you need to do:
Set the Mood
Before your lovemaking, make sure the room or the setting in your place turns you on. Clean your room, get rid of cluttered clothes and trash, use scented candles, or dim the lights. We want the setting to be sexy and exciting.
Engage in Foreplay
Even though the close-breathing position is already sexy and intimate, you’ll turn the heat up even more if you engage in foreplay. Start with gentle touches, stare into each other’s eyes, and feel each other’s skin.
Get Into the Position
You don’t need to perform acrobatics to be in a comfortable, close-breathing sex position. No matter your level of flexibility, you can do this. You only need one thing: a chair.
The penetrating partner sits on a chair like normal, with their feet planted on the floor. Then the receiving partner straddles them with their legs wrapped around their partner’s hips or waist, allowing deep, intimate penetration. And voila! You are already in the position.
To do this correctly, just make sure that you are in contact with each other skin-to-skin, like pressing your chests together and looking deeply into each other’s eyes.
Be Mindful of Your Breaths and Movements
This is an intimate sex position, so fast thrusting is not ideal for this sex position. Remember that in close-breathing, you are being mindful. You feel each other’s movements and breaths, so the thrusting is rhythmic and slow.
Stay Connected After Climax
Make the most out of your intimate moment by cuddling or feeling each other’s skin after you climax. Stay connected for a few minutes and feel each other’s bodies and breaths.
Common Concerns With Close-Breathing Sex Position
Although there are no major downsides to making love in this sex position, we have to be honest that some people have the following concerns:
Lightheadedness
Being aware of your body and breaths may cause you or your partner to feel light-headed along the way. If this happens, just take a break. Pause for a while and breathe normally. Don’t push it if you don’t feel comfortable.
Awkward Eye Contact
Let’s face it, some people feel uncomfortable looking into other people’s eyes. As a neurodivergent, I can understand how it feels. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Although it’s best to gaze at each other’s eyes when you make love in this position, you can choose not to.
Instead, just focus on other areas like feeling each other’s breath and the touch of your partner’s skin.
3 Close-Breathing Sex Position Variations
If you’ve grown tired of the close-breathing position but still want to experience something as intimate and passionate, you can try the following variations:
Cowgirl on the Chair
Remember the cowgirl sex position you use on the bed? It’s the same with this one, except that you do it in a chair. Like in the close-breathing position, the receiving partner straddles the sitting partner with their legs curled up on each side of the partner’s thigh.
If the chair is wide, the receiving partner’s shins can rest on the chair beside the partner’s thighs. If there’s no room for the shins to rest, the receiving partner can rest their shins or feet on their partner’s thighs for support.
The penetrating partner then holds the partner’s waist or hips, helping the receiving partner thrust up and down.
Oasis
The Oasis sex position may need a little flexibility, but it is as intimate as the close-breathing position. To do this, the penetrating partner sits cross-legged on a flat surface.
Then, the receiving partner sits on the partner’s legs with the former’s legs on top of their partner’s shoulders and their thighs resting on their partner’s chest.
This is also an intimate position as it allows deep penetration, and the partners are facing each other, allowing them to kiss and gaze into each other’s eyes.
Bowstring
This sex position is also known as “the Archer.” Like close-breathing, this is an intimate position that allows eye contact and skin-to-skin contact.
To do this, the receiving partner reclines in a chair with one leg on their partner’s shoulder. The penetrating partner kneels in front of the receiving partner. The penetrating partner holds the receiving partner’s raised thigh for support as they penetrate them.
How to Make the Experience Even Better
You can enhance your experience with the cross-breathing sex position by doing the following:
Engage in Foreplay
You can set your partner’s mood or enhance their arousal with foreplay. Kissing, eye contact, or even an intimate massage can unleash your partner’s inner sex demon.
Use Lubes and Oils
Because there will be lots of skin-to-skin contact, it’s best to spread some oil on each other’s skin. This also ensures there’ll be less friction and no injuries during the session.
Use Toys and Accessories
You can make the close-breathing sex position kinky by depriving some of your partner’s senses with a blindfold or restraints. BeYourLover’s bondage kit is complete with all the essentials to make your bedroom sessions hotter.
You can also enhance your experience with multi-Clockpurpose vibrators and suction toys, like the Naughty Clock. The Abe Rose cock ring is also a nice addition to the fun as it is remote controlled and pleasures partners with a penis and a vagina.
Is Close-Breathing for Everyone?
Close-breathing is generally safe, so everyone can include this sex position in their bedroom bucket list. However, if you have conditions like respiratory, back, or joint issues, it’s best to consult your doctor first or make some alterations for a better experience.
It’s best to listen to your body. After all, sex should be fun and comfortable for both partners.
How to Bring It Up With Your Partner?
I understand that bringing this up with your partner can be embarrassing or feel uncomfortable sometimes, but it doesn’t have to be this way. You can start your conversation with something like, “I read about this new sex position that’s supposed to be really good for connection. Wanna try it?”
Encourage your partner to communicate with you. Listen to their questions, concerns, and preferences.
Intimacy vs Performance
Sex is an art, and it’s magical. It has the power to build and enhance connection and intimacy between both partners. Different sex positions can bring different types of pleasure, sensation, and intimacy to both partners.
In the end, the choice is yours. Depending on your goal for having sex, choose the best sex position that will help you reach that goal. For better intimacy and connection with your partner, the close-breathing sex position is one of the best choices.
You can even level up your experience by using accessories and sex toys. Find the one that’s best for your relationship at BeYourLovers.
