You’ve heard whispers about hands-free orgasms, and now you’re wondering, “Is it possible?”
Maybe you don’t want to tire out your hands during solo sessions anymore, you’ve had an accident, or you’re simply looking to explore new experiences with your partner. No matter your reason for wanting a hands-free orgasm, it’s valid.
In this article, you’ll learn everything you need to know about hands-free orgasms, and yes, you might even enjoy the journey.
Is It Possible to Have a Hands-Free Orgasm?
The short answer is yes. You can have a hands-free orgasm whether you have a penis or a vagina. According to the Pelvic Health & Rehabilitation Center, the pelvic floor plays a crucial role in achieving a hands-free orgasm.
The pelvic floor is a network of muscles that support various pelvic organs.
When aroused, these muscles play a significant role in creating pleasurable sensations. You can trigger these sensations either through manual or hands-free stimulation.
“Located from the pubic bone to the tailbone and rim of the pelvis to the tailbone (respectively), these muscles (Pubococcygeus and Iliococcygeus Muscles) are key players in orgasmic bliss. As arousal intensifies, these muscles contract rhythmically during orgasm, adding depth and intensity to the experience.” - Pelvic Health & Rehabilitation Center
What Is a Hands-Free Orgasm?
A hands-free orgasm refers to stimulation without the use of your hands. It can happen through an activity, oral sex, or even imagination. You can have a hands-free sexual experience with or without a partner.
Note that hands-free is not the same as touch-free. The latter relies solely on imagination and breathing techniques. No hands involved; just your mouth, toys, or probably even a cucumber, or a donut if you’re into them (no judgment here).
9 Tried-and-Tested Ways to Have a Hands-Free Orgasm
I didn’t include those techniques you wouldn’t intentionally do just for the big O, like riding in a car just to get that feel-good vibration. We’re not here to waste gas or energy chasing orgasms that hard.
So, here are the techniques for achieving a hands-free orgasm that you can do on purpose.
1. Arouse Yourself
A hands-free orgasm is possible when you're aroused, and even possible completely touch-free.
Identify what turns you on. Use your imagination by fantasizing, watching erotic visuals like porn, reading NSFW magazines, listening to erotic audio, or talking dirty with your partner.
2. Work Out
Yes, you read that right. You can orgasm while you work out.
According to a study published in 2012, orgasms that occur during physical exercise have been documented, particularly during core workouts and weightlifting. This doesn't usually involve sexual fantasies (although that’s possible too, just less common).
It’s not that surprising, though. The brain has more than one way to arouse you. Whether physical touch is involved or not, it’s always ready to deliver sexual pleasure.
3. Water Play
Spraying with a showerhead can work wonders, too. You can have your session while taking a bath, either alone or with a partner.
If you have a vagina, note that you shouldn’t spray water directly inside, as it can cause infection by disrupting the pH balance.
4. Penetrative Sex / Scissoring / Frotting
Penetrative sex and scissoring don’t require you to be handsy. All you need is a partner—and your genitals.
Don’t skip foreplay, though. You don’t need your hands for that, either. Use your mouth, sex toys, or even everyday objects around you (as long as they’re clean, of course).
5. Humping
Humping refers to grinding your genitals and stimulating them through friction, whether it’s against a pillow, blanket, or your partner’s thigh.
6. Kegel
Kegels are exercises that focus on strengthening the pelvic floor muscles, originally intended to improve control over things like accidental gas, poop, or pee.
While their main goal is functional, they come with a bonus benefit: a stronger pelvic floor can boost your orgasm, including hands-free orgasm.
7. Hands-Free Sex Toy
Even sex toys like the BeYourLover’s Eria can be used hands-free just by grinding on it.
If you want a truly hands-free experience, there are plenty on the market. Wearable toys like the Talia and Usagi come with remotes, so you (or your partner) can take control without lifting a finger.
8. Lucid and Wet Dreaming
Lucid dreaming happens when you become aware that you’re dreaming, allowing you to interact with dream characters, including sexually. For some people, it feels as real as waking-life sex.
In dreams, you can be as grabby or touchy as you like, without doing a thing IRL. And even without lucid dreaming, a wet dream can still happen.
If you’re not a lucid dreamer but want to increase your chances of having a wet dream, it’s possible, though not 100% guaranteed. Try stimulating your genitals by placing a pillow between your legs, pressing your pelvis into the bed, or lying on your stomach while falling asleep.
9. Orgasmic Breathing
Yes, you’re already breathing 24/7, but orgasmic breathing is intentional. Think deep, abdominal breaths where your awareness stays rooted in your body.
With focused breathing and body awareness, you can direct erotic energy throughout your system, leading to arousal and sometimes, a hands-free orgasm.
Want to know how to get started? Check out Helena Nista’s video on “How to Have a Hands-Free Orgasm.”
Is It Safe? What Experts Want You to Know?
Hands-free sex is generally safe. The main things to keep in mind, aside from standard safe sex practices, are hygiene and cleanliness. Make sure your space is clean and prepped for lovemaking, and that any sex toys or other paraphernalia are properly sanitized.
Why It’s Okay If It Doesn’t Happen Right Away?
Everyone’s different. Some people can reach the big O on their first try, and some don’t. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.
Like the cliche says, “Practice makes perfect,” so keep practicing. Think of your journey to the big O as an adventure, not a test. The buildup is what makes an orgasm so fun and exciting. Because, let’s be honest, after that, you’re pretty much spent (unless you're blessed with multiple Os).
The key to a hands-free orgasm is understanding your body. Identify what arouses you. That helps you pick the technique that works best for you.
And if you're doing it with a partner, don’t skip the conversation. Share your fantasies and establish boundaries. You want to be turned on, not turned off by a surprise kink you’re not into.
Of course, a hands-free orgasm is even more achievable with the right sex toy. Visit Beourlover now, and find the perfect match for your pleasure.
Special Thanks To:
Helena Nista, a certified sex therapist
