Women with sexy, curvy bodies who want to try the cowgirl position, I know you’re hesitant to try it with your partner. I’ve been there. Like you, I used to feel insecure and uncomfortable in this position.
But there’s no need to worry. Lesson learned!
I’ve realized that by knowing the right techniques, we, plus-sized ladies can also rock the cowgirl position. Like the others, we can also blow our partners’ minds and achieve the utmost pleasure. If you’re ready to learn how to lasso your partner for the best ride of your life, read on.
Can Plus-Sized Ladies Really Do Cowgirl Position?
If you've just heard about this position somewhere. Here’s a quick brush-up. The regular cowgirl position involves the receiver, the one with the vagina, being on top of the giver, who has a penis or a strap-on.
The receiver straddles the giver’s genitals like a cowgirl while the latter lies down, hence the name.
If you’re a plus-sized like me, I know your hesitation. You’re probably already imagining your partner’s reaction if you’re “rodeoing” on top of them. But you know what? According to Giddy, it’s actually an ideal position for plus-sized partners.
The cowgirl position empowers us to embrace our own beauty and feel confident.
Since you’re the top, you can control the rhythm to avoid fatigue and discomfort. Most of all, orgasm is within reach.
But let’s be honest. Cowgirl can put a lot of strain on the knees, and some variations can be tiring for us curvy women. But don’t worry! After reading this article, you’ll be a cowgirl position expert, ready to rock your world and your partner’s.
The Common Concerns and How to Address Them
There isn’t much of a problem for plus-sized women being in the cowgirl position, except that you need to hold your weight. But other than that, as mentioned, it can strain the knees and get tiring. It can also make you feel vulnerable because you’re in your partner’s full view.
But you don’t have to deal with all of that, and here’s how:
Knee Strain
Being plus-sized, our weight can already put much pressure on the knees, and the cowgirl position can make it worse. You can use cushions and pillows or adjust your angles to support your weight.
You can also ask your partner to hold your waist or support under your legs to help with the balance.
Fatigue
This one’s easy. If it starts to feel tiring, simply ask your partner to thrust. Bustle suggests asking your partner to bend their legs, plant their feet on the ground, and take over the work.
Insecurity About Appearance
I get you might feel insecure. Being in the cowgirl position puts you on display for your partner. But believe me, your partner sees you as sexy, or else they wouldn’t be in bed with you in the first place.
So, embrace your curves! Focus on the pleasure and experience.
If your partner asks you to change positions because they don’t like how you look, don’t change the position, change your partner. (Just kidding…kinda)
5 Plus-Size-Friendly Cowgirl Variations to Try
Now here’s the fun part. Like ice cream flavors, sexy time with your partner is more enjoyable when you try different variations. Here are some cowgirl positions to try for plus-sized ladies.
1. Reverse Cowgirl
The reverse cowgirl is almost the same as the regular one, except you’re facing away from your partner. To reduce strain, ask your partner to use a pillow to elevate their hips.
2. Lazy Woman
If you want to be more intimate, kissy, and touchy, try the horizontal cowgirl. Your partner stays in the usual lying position while you straddle and lean forward to lie on top.
You can use a pillow under your knees for added comfort. It’s also the best position when you’re getting tired. It allows your partner to take over.
3. Asian Cowgirl
The Asian is the best cowgirl position for anal play and teasing. It gives you more control over speed and angle. But this is also the most straining and tiring cowgirl variation, especially for us on the bigger side.
Instead of kneeling, you’ll squat with your feet planted on the ground and your knees bent. To last in this position, put pillows under your bum for support and let your partner do most of the work.
4. Sitting Cowgirl
Switch things up by taking it to the chair. Straddle your partner while seated facing each other. Use a wide and sturdy chair for comfort. Also, have a table nearby for added support.
5. Reverse Chair
This one’s like giving your partner a lap dance. You’ll still be straddling a seated partner but facing away. Keep your feet on the ground for balance and support.
But if you want to place your feet on the seat, use a wider chair and place a pillow under your knees to reduce fatigue.
6 Tips to Enhance Your Cowgirl Experience
Now that you know the different cowgirl positions, it’s time to learn how to make the most of the experience so that it’s enjoyable for both you and your partner.
1. Pick the Right Surface
Choose a mattress or surface where your partner can comfortably lie back and where you can ride with stability. You don’t want a super soft mattress that turns your cowgirl ride into a bumpy experience.
For chair positions, choose a wide seat with back support and keep a table nearby for extra balance.
2. Use Cushions and Pillows
Cushions and pillows work wonders in preventing fatigue and reducing strains. Placing them in the areas mentioned earlier, helps you stay in the cowgirl position longer. They also reduce pressure on your knees and support your weight.
3. Grind Instead of Bounce
As much as you want the experience to be pleasurable, consider your partner’s well-being too. Bouncing makes your partner prone to penile injury. With our weight, the risk is higher.
So instead of bouncing up and down, just grind. It’s just as pleasurable. You can make this a more enjoyable experience by widening or narrowing your knees or adjusting your angles.
4. Lean on Your Partner
When it gets tiring, ask your partner to support you by holding your hips or legs. You can also lean back to reduce pressure on your thighs and try different angles. You can also lean forward to stimulate your G-spot more.
5. Use Toys and Accessories
While you can easily reach orgasm in a cowgirl position, who says you can’t enhance your experience? Toys and accessories can add variety and excitement.
I personally love the Alberta from BeYourLover. It is flexible and adjusts to any angle no matter which cowgirl position I do.
6. Keep Communication Sexy and Open
Be open with your partner. Discuss boundaries, preferred angles, and comfort levels. This will not only make your intimate time more enjoyable, but it will also build trust between the two of you.
Final Takeaway for Plus-Sized Ladies
We may not fit the “magazine cover” beauty standards, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t sexy as hell.
Remember, your partner wants to do cowgirl with you because they find you beautiful. So own it, celebrate it, and as Lady Gaga says, embrace that you are beautiful in your own way and “on the right track.”
