“Are there any techniques to captivate him with the cowgirl position?”
“He’s always the one in control, so how can I surprise him?”
Online posts, comments, and questions are all pointing to an undeniable fact: the Cowgirl Position is becoming more popular than ever! And with that increase in popularity, there has also been an increase in women asking questions about special techniques, tips, and tricks to perform it.
In this guide, we’ll go over what the Cowgirl Position is and how you can use it to take control of your partner’s pleasure!
If you’re a woman and you want your boyfriend to go absolutely crazy over you, make sure you read until the end!
What is the “cowgirl position?”
The “Cowgirl Position” is a sexual position in which a male partner lies on their back while their female partner “rides” him from above. To do this, the woman must place one leg on either side of their partner’s waist or upper thighs and lower herself until her partner’s penis penetrates her from below.
As you may have guessed, the Cowgirl Position gets its name from the fact that, while performing it, the woman looks like she’s riding a horse, bouncing up and down as it gallops.
Many women find “Cowgirl” appealing because it allows them to move however they want, taking control, bouncing up and down, and thrusting wildly like riding a bronco.
“Regular Cowgirl” vs “Reverse Cowgirl”
When it comes down to performing the Cowgirl Position, there are two general ways it can be done.
The “Regular Cowgirl Position” is when you “ride” your partner from the front, facing his head.
The “Reverse Cowgirl Position” is when you “ride” your partner from the back, while facing his legs.
It’s important to note that, in both styles, you’re being penetrated vaginally, not anally.
Because the reverse Cowgirl Position is a bit more advanced when it comes to movements and techniques, we recommend starting with the Regular Cowgirl Position first!
Why is the Cowgirl Position so Popular?
The Cowgirl Position is popular for many reasons: it’s relatively easy compared to other sexual positions, it’s incredibly enjoyable for both parties, it’s fun and dynamic, it gives the female partner more control, among other reasons.
Most people stick to a form of the Missionary Position, which means that one partner lays on top of the other. Usually, this is the man, as it’s easier to thrust down than it is up. Because of this, when most people have sex the woman lies down, pinned and unable to move much, while the man lies on top of her and has a wider range of motion and more control over the rhythm, frequency, and strength of the penetration.
The Cowgirl Position flips the script. With it, the woman is in control. She’s in command of the intercourse with her thrusts and motion. It’s the perfect way to break out of a rut in your sex life, by giving up the reins (if you’re the man) and taking charge (if you’re the woman).
Men also rave about the Cowgirl Position, as they don’t have to thrust continuously and get to sit back and experience a wide, new range of motion and pleasure.
Techniques to Make Your Boyfriend Addicted to You with the Cowgirl Position
Let’s go over some popular techniques that, once employed, will make your boyfriend addicted to you!
- While you’re on top, rock your hips back and forth slowly
- Move in a circular motion, moving his penis as it’s inside you
- Move your hips up and down for piston-style, straight up and down penetration
- Lean your upper body back like you’re on a swing
- Hold your partner’s hands as you move to increase the intimacy
- Move your butt up and down, jiggling and sitting lightly on his lap to increase the stimulation
- Use your hands to grab at his chest, face, and hair
- Move your hips during Reverse Cowgirl
Let’s go over the tips in more detail so you really become a Cowgirl Expert!
While you’re on top, rock your hips back and forth slowly
First, start things off by rocking your hips back and forth slowly, starting things off with small movements and then building up to bigger motions.
Because the Cowgirl Position emulates a woman sitting on a horse, you might think that you should actually sit on top of your boyfriend. But don’t actually do this. Sitting on him too hard will most likely cause some discomfort so, while employing the Cowgirl Position, you should keep your hips slightly lifting above him, using your knees on either side of him as support.
Take your time. Patience is key. Draw movements out to allow his male organ to become accustomed to your vagina, and to tease the delicate skin of his shaft.
If you want to entice him visually, try touching your own breasts or sexual organ as you move your hips.
If you find it difficult to keep your hips lifted up while on your knees, try a crouching posture, with your feet flat on the bed and your knees bent up. You may find this more comfortable and may find moving easier. This also puts less strain on your knees. Imagine sitting in a “P.E. style” position by bringing your knees together a bit. This actually exercises and improves your vaginal tightness.
Move in a Circular Motion
After rocking your hips slowly, try moving your hips in a circular motion.
The trick is to grind your hips back and forth in a circular way, but don’t rotate your hips in too wide of an arch! If you do, his sexual organ might become hurt or slip out! So be careful not to make your movements too wild!
Move Your Hips Up and Down for Piston-Style Cowgirl
Once the both of you are aroused, shift into a piston-style Cowgirl Position by moving your hips up and down.
We recommend placing your hands around his waist or rib cage, as this will provide more support as you thrust up and down.
Don’t slam down on him! Instead, move up and down slowly, observing his reactions, and looking for the point where you’re up so high that his sexual organ almost slips out, but don’t let it! Also, instead of bouncing your entire body, imagine only your hips moving up and down.
Free style a bit, try opening and closing your legs and watch his reactions. Experiment with different movements, at different speeds!
An M-shaped, open-leg position is recommended because it hits deeper and feels better!
Lean Your Upper Body Back While Moving
When you lean back as your thrust, your partner will be able to see more of your body, increasing intimacy and excitement.
Place your hands around his thighs to stabilize yourself as you move.
Try to snap your hips up as if you’re giving your butt a little lift.
Don’t lean too far back or move too high up! You don’t want his male organ to get hurt or slip out, so keep movements small and safe.
Hold Hands As You Move
Doing the cowgirl position while holding hands shows your affection for him, which is highly recommended.
Holding hands with your partner is great, isn’t it? It’s a great way to show affection and increase intimacy. Now imagine holding hands while doing the Cowgirl Position!
When you’re trying out new sexual positions, like Cowgirl, you might overthink things, focusing only on the new movements and positions, but don’t forget to show affection!
Take the lead, move your hips vigorously, and hold his hands as you put yourself in the center of your passion, and he will fall head over heels for you.
Go Close-Contact and Move Your Butt Up and Down
Employing a close-contact approach to the Cowgirl Position means you can still enjoy skin-on-skin contact with your partner, even while not fully sitting on him.
Stay connected at the midsection with penetration, and focus on moving only your butt up and down. Bring your butt down on his upper thighs and near his scrotum. If you can, employ affection and stimulation techniques like kissing his hands, playing with his nipples, caressing, etc.
With increased skin contact, you’ll be much more intimate and attuned to things like body heat, heart rate, and experience heightened pleasure and connection!
Reaching an orgasm while in a close-contact Cowgirl Position feels like melting into each other. Don’t just take our word for it, try it out for yourself!
Use a Reverse Cowgirl Position and Move Your Hips
Once you’re used to the cowgirl position, it’s recommended to try reverse cowgirl, where you face away from him.
Once you’re used to employing the Cowgirl Position, you can then move onto Reverse Cowgirl.
Remember, here you’ll be facing your partner’s feet, with your back to him. By changing the angle of the insertion, the areas stimulated will be slightly different, giving you new sensations!
Because this position is similar to the Doggy Style position, many people who enjoy that position will get a big kick out of it!
Summary
In this article, we went over a few techniques to make your boyfriend addicted to you while trying out the Cowgirl Position.
- While you’re on top, rock your hips back and forth slowly
- Move in a circular motion, moving his penis as it’s inside you
- Move your hips up and down for piston-style, straight up and down penetration
- Lean your upper body back like you’re on a swing
- Hold your partner’s hands as you move to increase the intimacy
- Move your butt up and down, jiggling and sitting lightly on his lap to increase the stimulation
- Use your hands to grab at his chest, face, and hair
- Move your hips during Reverse Cowgirl
If you’re a woman who usually takes a passive role but wants to “surprise him for a change” or feels that “things have become a bit routine,” try surprising him with the Cowgirl Position!
The Cowgirl Position doesn’t just revitalize your sex life together, but it also puts the woman in control, allowing you to find your own pleasure points and improve your confidence!
By all means, use this article as a reference and spend an incredible night together.
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Frequently Asked Questions:
Q: Are there any benefits unique to the Cowgirl Position?
A: Yes! Many! But one of the best is that, because a woman has more control of her movement, she can stimulate her G-spot or cervix. She can subtly guide her partner to the spots where she feels pleasure through movement, without having to communicate verbally, especially during the Missionary Position.
Q: Do men get more excited in the Cowgirl Position?
A: Men can get excited with many sexual positions, but the unique charm about the Cowgirl Position is that it changes the dynamic. It gives the woman control and puts men in a different dynamic, which is often exciting and refreshing. So if your sex has become stale and your partner doesn’t seem as excited as they used to be, give it a try!
Q: My partner feels pain in the Cowgirl Position. Is there a good way to fix that?
A: When the angle of penetration in the Cowgirl Position is wrong, it can be painful for the male partner. To fix things, try arching your back and lifting your hips to find the right position. Don’t make too many sudden, harsh movements, as these are painful and also cause the penis to slip out. So don’t rush. Enjoy the moment and savor the sensations!
Q: I feel apprehensive about doing the Cowgirl Position right away
A: Like most new sexual positions, the Cowgirl Position can be a little challenging at first, and maybe even intimidating. So take things slow. Start off by straddling him while you cuddle. Kiss him. Lick his nipples, and slowly bring your sexual organ and his together. If you want to improve and feel more comfortable with the movements, you can practice with a cushion or pillow before trying it out on your partner!
Q: I want to enjoy the Cowgirl Position, but his stamina is…
A: If your partner’s stamina is lower than you’d like, using a vibrating cock ring can be a huge help. Cock rings not only improve a man’s stamina by delaying release, but also please a woman’s clitoris by vibrating against it, pleasing both partners at once. Most vibrating cock rings also allow the user to modify the vibration strength and frequency, making the Cowgirl Position more enjoyable and more dynamic.
Q: I’m not good at making circular motions with my hips in the Cowgirl Position
A: If you’re having trouble rotating your hips while on your knees, opening your legs in an M-shape makes moving your hips in this way much easier. Don’t just move in circles, but also move in figure-eight motions, which make the connected area easier to see, and drive men wild with plenty of eye candy.
Q: I’m bad at sexual positions, should I learn how to do the Cowgirl Position anyway?
A: If you don’t have a lot of sexual experience, the Cowgirl Position might be a bit tricky at first. But we promise that, after a few tries, you’ll get much better at it. If you’re a woman who doesn’t usually take the lead during intercourse, the Cowgirl Position is great at building your confidence, increasing your understanding of sexual pleasure, and giving you more experience. If you’re still having trouble, there’s no need to push yourself. It takes two to tango, after all, so ask your partner to cooperate!
Q: Is it true you can lose weight with the Cowgirl Position?
A: The Cowgirl Position isn’t guaranteed to help you lose weight but, while doing it, you do work out the muscles around your hips, thighs, and butt, so it’s definitely a form of exercise. It’s also said that, if you build lower-body strength, your metabolism may speed up, which makes it easier to lose weight. So if you like the Cowgirl Position, it could help you lose weight.
Q: I don’t feel confident while employing the Cowgirl Position. Can it still drive him wild?
A: If your confidence isn’t growing, experiment with different angles, movements, the position of your hips, and the depth of the insertion to find his pleasure points. Even without specific techniques or movements, many men are satisfied just by seeing their girlfriend or partner in sensual motion and enjoying herself.
Q: The regular Cowgirl Position is starting to feel unsatisfying, what can I do?
A: If the Cowgirl Position has become part of your routine and is starting to feel ordinary, try moving your hips while stimulating erogenous zones like his nipples or testicles. Touching your breasts or stimulating your clitoris can also heat things up for the both of you.
Q: I want to experience the Cowgirl Position when I masturbate, how can I do it?
A: You can employ the Cowgirl Position while using a vibrator. If you have a vibrator or dildo with a strong suction cup base, you can stick it to a smooth surface like the floor, a chair, or counter, and ride it for a realistic Cowgirl experience. Dildos or vibrators with a soft, skin-like texture feel more realistic.
Q: During the Cowgirl Position, what part of his girlfriend does a man look at?
A: Many guys look up at their partner’s breasts, but many also focus on the face, enjoying the look of pleasure on a woman’s face. But you can also enjoy the view! Look down at your partner’s eyes, and you’ll increase the intimacy between you.
Q: What if I’m scared of mounting him and inserting it myself?
A: Everyone feels nervous when they’re about to try any sexual position for the first time, including the Cowgirl. But if you slowly insert your partner’s penis yourself without putting too much strain on it, you’ll be fine. Using lube can help make the insertion smoother, so don’t worry about this too much!
Conclusion
We hope that this guide was of great help! Now you know much more about the Cowgirl Position, and you can go ahead and give it a try with your partner, but only before talking to them about it first! Remember, never try a new sex position with your partner without first getting their consent, and making sure they understand everything it will entail!
So talk to your partner first, then enjoy the fun and the new dynamic of being the one in control of your own pleasure!
