Are you tired of doing the same old sex positions with your partner again and again?
If you want something intimate, enjoyable for both partners, and doesn't require a yoga certificate, you might want to try the butterfly sex position during your next session. It’s one of the best sex positions to help you feel more confident and closer to your partner.
Do you want to learn more about it? Read on.
What Is the Butterfly Sex Position?
The butterfly sex position involves the receiving partner lying on their back, either on a table or a bed, with their hips slightly raised at the edge. Then, the penetrating partner kneels or stands in front of and between the partner’s legs.
In this position, the penetrating partner does most of the work, while the receiving partner is mostly passive.
According to WebMD, this sex position is also known as the Blossoming Position, based on the Kama Sutra.
This sex position is the best choice if you want to deepen your connection with your partner, because it allows for eye contact, and the penetration is deeper.
How to Do the Butterfly Sex Position
One of the best things about the butterfly sex position is that it requires no pretzel poses. Being in this position is easy.
Step 1: Find a firm and stable surface, such as a bed, massage table, or bench. After all, you don’t want any accidents. A broken bone is never hot.
Step 2: The receiving partner should lie on their back and place their hips at the edge of the bed or surface.
Step 3: The receiving partner should raise their legs and spread them upward (resembling a butterfly), which they can rest on their partner’s shoulders.
Step 4: The penetrating partner stands or kneels between their partner’s legs.
Step 5: The penetrating partner can raise their partner’s hips or use a cushion to elevate their partner’s hips for a better angle.
5 Pro Tips to Make the Butterfly Sex Position Even Better
Although the butterfly sex position is already great by itself, you can still enhance your experience. Here’s how:
Use a Pillow
Raising the partner’s hips can be a bit too tiring, so you can use a cushion or a pillow instead, and free up your hands to place elsewhere, such as for stimulating your partner more. A pillow is also the penetrating partner’s best friend to avoid soreness if they choose to kneel instead of stand.
Communicate With Your Partner
We can say that the butterfly is one of the simplest sex positions you can try. However, it is still best if both partners know what’s in store for them.
Also, with communication, both partners can work together to find the best angle or position that feels comfortable and enjoyable for both of them.
Experiment With the Angle
You can also find the best angle that’s enjoyable for both you and your partner by adjusting the height of the surface or trying this sex position on different surfaces. The penetrating partner can try both standing and kneeling to find the best position that works for them.
Add Stimulation
One of the perks of this position is that both partners’ hands are free to explore, as long as the receiving partner’s hipSuitcases are cushioned. You are free to use toys, such as BeYourLover’s Magic Suitcase, for clitoral stimulation.
You can also try the Abe, which stimulates both the penis and the vagina, as it is a cock ring with a rose vibrator.
Enhance the Sensory Experience
Enhance the mood by turning on some music, dimming the light, or using mirrors. You may also warm yourselves up with some erotica or by talking dirty with each other.
Why This Position Deserves a Spot in Your Regular Rotation
Aside from the fact that this is one of the most intimate sex positions you can try, here are a few more reasons:
It Stimulates Both the G-Spot and the Prostate
According to researchers from the Indiana University School of Medicine and OMGYES, 87.5% of women experience more pleasure by adjusting the angle during sex.
As you know, orgasm is elusive for most people with a vagina during penetrative sex. Since it’s one of the sex positions where the receiving partner’s hips or pelvis are raised, the chance of orgasm is higher.
It Is Built For Comfort
Since it is a sex position that doesn’t require a yoga certification or contortion skills, you won’t get tired easily. The receiving partner is mostly passive; all they have to do is lie on the surface.
Although the penetrating partner does all the work, they won’t be in a compromising position, as they only need to kneel or stand.
It Is Versatile
The butterfly sex position works for everyone. It doesn’t matter what your gender, size, age, or mobility level is.
Who’s Going to Enjoy the Butterfly Sex Position?
The short answer? Everyone. But it’s an especially great choice for the following couples:
Those Who Are Tired
If one or both of you are tired, the butterfly can be one of your go-to sex positions. No flexibility or extra energy is needed; just prepare some cushions and a flat, elevated surface.
Those With Height or Strength Differences
All you need to do is find the best angle. The penetrating partner can choose to kneel or stand, depending on what works best for them.
Those Who Love Intimacy
The butterfly sex position allows deep penetration. Aside from that, both partners can gaze into each other’s eyes or explore the receiver’s body with their hands.
Those Who Are Adventurous
The butterfly is also one of the best ways for partners to explore new techniques that target the G-spot or prostate.
Those With Pregnant Partners
With a little modification or additional leg or pelvis support, the butterfly sex position might work for a pregnant receiver (in the first trimester). However, always consult your doctor first.
4 Similar Sex Positions to Try
If you think the butterfly is getting boring but are looking for something similar, you can spice things up with the following variations:
The Anvil
In this sex position, the receiver’s legs are lifted higher toward the chest or shoulders. It is also more intimate, as the partners are closer together. It also allows deeper penetration but requires a bit of flexibility from the receiving partner.
Legs on Shoulders
In the legs-on-shoulders sex position, the receiver’s legs are resting on or around the standing partner’s shoulders. Again, this allows deep penetration, but this one is more intense and requires more energy.
The Praying Mantis
The receiver is on the bottom, and the penetrating partner is on top. The receiver lies on their back with their legs slightly spread, with one leg over the penetrating partner’s shoulder and the other at their side. This sex position also requires flexibility, but maximizes the angle and pressure.
The Deep Impact
The deep impact is one of the closest to the butterfly position. To do this position, the receiving partner should lie on their back with their legs pointed upward, resting on the penetrating partner’s shoulders. The penetrating partner kneels in front of the receiving partner.
4 Common Misconceptions About the Butterfly Position Busted
Although the butterfly is just a sex position, some people still have misconceptions about it. Let’s debunk them.
“It’s just missionary with a leg lift.”
Nope. The butterfly sex position actually uses gravity and angle, two things not present in the missionary position.
“It’s boring!”
Possibly true… if you let it be. With a bit of creativity, you can make this position exciting. Add toys, explore different variations, or switch up the pace.
“You need to be flexible.”
The butterfly is actually one of the most body-friendly sex positions out there.
“It’s only good for heterosexual couples.”
It doesn’t matter what your gender is, everyone can enjoy this sex position. If both of you have vaginas, either of you can use a strap-on.
Final Thoughts
The butterfly sex position is truly one of the simplest sex positions that people with a vagina or penis can enjoy. It’s easy to do and doesn’t require any bone-breaking skills.
Try it your way and experiment with the pace, incorporate toys, or play with different variations and angles. If you want to discover new ways to enhance your intimate experience, visit BeYourLovers.
