June is Pride Month, and it’s right around the corner!
To celebrate, we want to go through the absolute best sex positions for gay men or any two partners with penises.
With 20 positions, each one focused on pleasing both partners at once, you’ll have more than enough to try throughout the month because, trust us, you’ll want to try each one more than once!
First things First
We know that you want to get to the good stuff, but let’s get a few disclaimers out of the way first.
Consent Goes Before Pleasure. Always.
Before trying any of the positions on this list, it’s important to remember that sex is a two way street. It involves two people, and it always requires the consent of both partners.
Communication is Part of Consent
In order to get consent from someone, you have to communicate with them first. This is especially true when you’re trying out a new sex toy, a new sex position, or a new kind of sex (oral, anal, etc).
Sex isn’t about surprising someone with something new, it’s about listening to your partner and respecting their wishes, boundaries, and limits. The more you communicate, the better you’ll be at pleasing each other, and the better your sex will be.
So remember, before trying anything on this list, please explain it to your partner first and ask them if you’re comfortable with trying it out. And if they say no, it means no.
Always Use Lube!
Because the anus doesn’t self-lubricate in the way a vagina does, penetrative anal sex should be performed while using lube. We recommend using water-based lube, as it can be easier on sensitive areas.
With that out of the way, let’s get one last important distinction out of the way:
Top or Bottom?
Most relationships that involve two people with penises are familiar with the terms “top” and “bottom,” but because our blogs are meant both for pros and newcomers, let’s get the definitions clear:
The terms “top” and “bottom” are most associated with the dynamics of anal sex between two gay partners. The “top” is the partner doing the penetrating during anal sex, while the “bottom” is the partner being penetrated.
In wider popular culture, “top” and “bottom” have other associations, like that the “top” is always the more dominant partner, and the “bottom” more submissive, but this isn’t always the case. These roles aren’t permanent or indicative of the relationship as a whole, and partners can and do switch, being “top” in one moment and then “bottom” the next.
It is also possible for one person to identify more as one or the other because of their preference, and not want to change or “switch” roles. Some people might prefer to always be the one being penetrated, and others might not enjoy being penetrated at all.
So, when it comes to you and your partner, think about these terms a bit before this list. Try to imagine yourself and your partner in the place of the “top” and “bottom” roles in the positions on this list.
Would you like to try being both? Or do you think your roles would be more fixed? Of course, you should talk about it to your partner first.
Now with that out of the way, let’s dive in to the 20 Best Gay Sex Positions to Try During Pride Month!
20. “Gay Missionary”
For couples where one person has a vagina and another a penis, the Missionary Position involves the partner with the vagina to lie on their back while the partner with the penis penetrates them vaginally from above. It’s without a doubt the easiest and most common sexual position, and also the most popular.
So you might be thinking, how does this work with two partners with penises?
Here, the “bottom” partner lies on their back with their legs spread apart and lifted up with their knees bent.
The “top” partner will then lie on top of them so that their head is parallel to their partner. The “bottom” partner’s penis and scrotum will be at the “top” partner’s lower stomach, so the “top” should support their own weight with their hands and knees on the bed, so as to not put all their weight on their partner’s genitals. The top then penetrates the bottom anally by thrusting forward.
This position allows for kissing, and face-to-face proximity, and also guarantees that both the top and bottom can move about and exert some control. The bottom can move around and thrust too, which can really heat things up!
Among gay couples, it’s one of the most popular sex positions, and is a perfect position if you and your partner enjoy kissing.
19. Cowboy
We’re switching things up with #2!
Here, it’s the “bottom” who is actually “on top.”
In the Cowboy Position, the partner being penetrated sits on top of the “top” partner, supporting their weight with their legs on either side of their partner’s hips.
The penetrating partner lies beneath them.
While the penetrating partner can thrust up and down, this position gives the partner being penetrated much more control. They can move up and down and penetrate themselves on their partner’s penis, bucking and hopping like a cowboy riding a bronco.
This is the perfect position if you want to give the bottom much more control!
18. Reverse Cowboy
The “Reverse Cowboy” position is very similar to the Cowboy Position, except the “bottom” (who is actually sitting on top) faces away from their partner instead of toward them.
This control dynamic is actually a bit different because of this, because the partner lying on their back can grab their partner by the hips, thighs, or stomach to manipulate their position a bit. This is especially helpful if the partner on their back is more experienced, as they can guide and correct their posture or the frequency, speed, and intensity of their bounces up and down.
17. Doggy Style
The Doggy Style position is actually the same for all kinds of couples!
The bottom partner lies on their hands and knees while the top partner kneels behind them and thrusts to penetrate them anally.
This position is versatile and allows for both partners to buck and bounce and thrust against each other, controlling the rate and intensity of the penetration with their hips.
16. “Spooning” or “Side by Side”
If you’re a fan of regular, non-sexual spooning and have incorporated it into your nightly routine, this is a great sexual position to try!
Here, the “bottom” partner lies on their side with their back to the “top” partner who is also lying on their side behind them.
The “top” partner then penetrates them anally from behind. Here, both partners can thrust back and forth on their sides, and the “top” can hug and snuggle their partner from behind.
15. The “Looking Glass” or Mirror
This position is a bit more advanced than the others, as it requires both partners to be on their thrusting A game but, if you’re up for it, you’re in for a one-of-a-king experience!
In this position, both partners sit in a crab position with their hands behind their backs on the bed and their feet flat against the bed, facing each other and raising their legs, knees bent, and spreading them apart.
Here, both partners are “top” and “bottom,” penetrating and being penetrated at the same time!
14. Cliff Diver
This position comes with a disclaimer: the “bottom” will need a bit of upper body strength and flexibility.
Here, the bottom gets on all fours while their top stands behind them. The bottom will then raise their legs back, allowing their thighs to wrap around their partner’s waist.
The top will then grab their partner’s legs and penetrate them anally.
This position can be a little challenging, but it allows the bottom partner to put their whole body into each thrust forward and back, allowing for deeper penetration and more extreme pleasure!
13. The Rocking Chair
This is another position where the “top” is on the bottom and the “bottom” is on top.
Here, the top lies on their back, with their legs up and their knees bent toward their chest.
The “bottom” will then sit down, resting between their partner’s legs and using their legs and thighs for support, while penetrating themselves with their partner’s penis.
This position gets its name from the fact that the bottom can rock back and forth, like a rocking chair, enjoying its movement during penetration!
12. The Hinge
In this position, the bottom is on the ground on their elbows and knees, while the top is on their knees behind them, with their hands splayed out behind their back.
Here, both partners can thrust back and forth, moving like a hinge, connecting two people with lots of pleasure for both!
11. Leaping Frog
For this position, the “top” partner kneels on the ground while the “bottom” crouches in front of them, with their feet flat on the ground, legs bent and leaning forward, in a posture resembling a frog about to leap forward.
The bottom will move back and forth while the top thrusts forward.
10. The Bodyguard
One of the great things about sex is that it doesn’t have to be confined to a bed. You can do it standing up!
In this position, the bottom stands with their back to the top. The top penetrates them from behind while hugging them or grabbing their hips.
The great thing about standing positions like this is that both partners have a wider range of movement and control. Standing positions are also perfect for the shower!
9. Leaning
This position can start out as the Bodyguard, but in front of a wall or even a tall piece of furniture.
The bottom must lean forward while keeping their legs straight, using the wall or furniture as support.
As the top thrusts forward to penetrate them deeply, the bottom can use the wall or furniture for support, and even push back, thrusting backward to make the penetration even deeper and more intense!
8. Superman
For this position, the top must kneel on the bed, while the bottom starts off on their elbows and knees.
When both partners are ready for penetration, the top lifts the bottom’s legs so that their partner’s thighs rests on theirs.
As the top penetrates, the bottom will support their weight with their elbows, in a position that resembles flying.
This position is great because it allows for strong thrusts for both partners, deep penetration, and plenty of pleasure for both. You’ll really feel like you’re flying!
7. Knees Up
If not done correctly, this position might be a bit hard on the bottom’s upper back, shoulders, and neck, so it’s best left to partners with more experience!
To start, the top should stand on the floor while the bottom lies on their back, propping themselves up with their elbows.
The bottom will then raise their legs up, and the top will grab them by the ankles.
The top will then start penetrating the bottom. With each thrust, the bottom can rock back and forth. This position allows for deep thrusting, dynamic movement, and intense stimulation for both parties!
6. Bumper Cars
Like its namesake, this position is a lot of fun!
Here, both partners lie face down, with the top on top and the bottom on the bottom, but facing the opposite direction, each partner’s ankles on their partner’s wrists.
The top will penetrate the bottom by thrusting up and down, and the bottom can thrust up and down to increase the stimulation and the depth and frequency of each thrust.
This is a dynamic position that can really spice things up!
5. Love Train
For this position to work, you and your partner need a dildo or vibrator with a suction cup base!
Stick the sex toy on a flat surface. Both partners must start on their knees, but with the top on their hands and knees.
The top is behind with the bottom in front.
The top will penetrate themselves on the sex toy stuck on the wall, while penetrating the bottom in front of them.
The bottom supports their weight with their hands and knees and moves back and forth with each thrust, bucking their hips! With this position, you get two penetrations at once!
4. The Magic Mountain
This position requires the use of pillows or cushions. Their presence doesn’t just make the position more comfortable, but it also adjusts the angle of penetration.
To start, pile three or four pillows or cushions on the bed or floor. The bottom must get on their knees and lean on the pillows or cushions.
The top then gets on their knees and penetrates them from behind.
The pillows or cushions will soften the blow of each thrust, so feel free to thrust very hard up and down!
3. Lap Dance
If you’ve ever enjoyed a lap dance from a stripper, this position takes things to the next level!
The top sits on a bed or couch, near the edge, with their feet flat on the ground for increased support. The bottom can then sit on their lap and penetrate themselves anally. This position allows for a lot of creativity and fun. The bottom can dance, grind, and roleplay as a stripper as part of foreplay and then, during the penetration, they can continue grinding as the top thrusts up and down.
This is one of the most interactive and engaging positions on this list, and a must try if you want the bottom to have more control!
2. Easy 69
For the last two positions, we’re exploring two variations of a true classic: the 69 position. This position is what makes the number 69 particularly famous, and it gets its name because, while doing it, each person fits together like the 6 and the 9, each one facing an opposite direction.
Unlike the other positions on this list, the 69 position isn’t about anal penetration, it’s actually an oral sex position, but that doesn’t make it any less pleasurable!
In the “easy” 69 position, both partners must lie on their side, each partner facing the other’s groin area.
For a fun foreplay opportunity, both partners can use their hands or their mouths to get each other erect, then the 69 can begin.
Both partners will give each other a blowjob. In the traditional 69 position, one partner lies on top of the other, with one having to support the other’s weight. This variation can be considered “easy” because both partners are supporting their own weight on their side.
This position allows both partners to perform fellatio at the same time, which is a great way to promote intimacy, exploration, and oral stimulation if you’ve never experienced it before!
Beginners can enjoy this position without much prior experience, but that can’t be said for the number one position in this blog.
1.“Extreme” or Standing 69
This position isn’t for the faint of heart but it’s definitely one of the most inventive and most extreme positions you can try this Pride Month.
The idea behind the “Extreme” 69 is to take the ordinary 69 sex position, and perform it while standing.
Of course, this position isn’t for everyone. Just by looking at it, it’s easy to see that one of the partners will have to lift the other, holding their entire weight on their legs, arms, and back.
Because of this, this position comes with a disclaimer: if you or your partner experience back, leg, knee, hip, neck, or shoulder pain, you shouldn’t perform this position. You also shouldn’t perform this position if you’re not confident about either you or your partner holding weight in some way. You should also know that this position is usually only done for 1 or 2 minutes at a time, as it can be very tiring. However, the thrill of receiving a blowjob while also giving one to your partner while also being upside down is a rush you won’t soon forget!
We recommend doing this position so that the person who is upside down is hanging over a bed so that, if they fall, they’ll fall on a soft surface.
To do this position, the person who will be standing up should be lying on the edge of a bed on their back, with their feet flat on the ground and their knees bent. Their partner, who will be upside down, can climb on top of them so that their head is near their partner’s groin.
Both partners must make sure that they have a good grip on each other. Then, slowly, the partner lying on the bed must stand up. Once the partner is fully standing, both partners can start giving each other blowjobs, but we recommend that the partner who is standing turn around slowly so that the person who is upside down is hanging over the bed. This way, if one partner loses their grip, the person who is upside down can land on their back on the bed.
Frequently Asked Questions
Are these positions only for gay men?
Nope! Like we said at the start, these positions can be for any two partners with penises but, even beyond that, many of them could be enjoyed by people without penises by using a strap-on.
Feel free to try them out, even if you and your partner don’t identify as gay men.
Is lube necessary for anal sex?
Lube is very recommended for anal sex. The anus may lubricate itself to a small extent, but it doesn’t self-lubricate in the same way the vagina does. Many people report discomfort and pain while experiencing unlubricated anal sex, and doing it this way could increase the risk of injuries caused by friction. The good news is that many people online report that lube makes anal sex smoother, easier, and more enjoyable.
What is the easiest position on this list?
The Gay Missionary position is often listed as the easiest gay sex position. In fact, many gay men report that it’s the position they found naturally, without looking it up online. This is also true of the hetero version of the missionary position, which is often regarded as the most “vanilla” or simplest, easiest sex position.
Still, what’s easy or difficult is different for each person and also each couple, so you shouldn’t look at this list as a list going from easy to hard, but rather 20 positions you can try out. Maybe you’ll find a position easy that another couple finds difficult, or vice versa.
Is it safe to have anal sex without a condom?
No. Like most kinds of intercourse, anal sex involves the exchanging of body fluids, which could lead to the spreading and contraction of sexually transmitted illnesses (STIs), including the most infamous ones: herpes and HIV. For this reason, anal sex isn’t recommended without the use of a condom.
Will there always be a Top or Bottom during gay sex?
Yes. While these terms may have grown in popular culture to include aspects that aren’t always true (like tops being more dominant and bottoms being more submissive), by their very definition, there will always be a top and a bottom during most kinds of gay sex.
Remember, the top is the person doing the penetration and the bottom is the person being penetrated.
This can also apply to oral sex, with the top being the person who is being pleased orally, and the bottom being the person being the one giving the oral sex, though using the terms in this way isn’t as common. “Top” and “bottom” are terms most commonly used when talking about anal sex.
What is a switch?
Like we mentioned previously, in popular culture, the terms “top” and “bottom” have started to take on different connotations and meanings.
One of these new connotations is the idea that “top” and “bottom” are terms that apply to the relationship as a whole, not just during sex, with “tops” being the dominant ones in the relationship as a whole, and “bottoms” being more submissive. Another idea is that a “top” is always a “top,” and a “bottom” is always a “bottom” unless the person is a “switch:” a person who can change their role from being more dominant to being more submissive.
This is, in fact, not true for all couples. Many gay couples online state that their relationship can’t be easily defined in two roles: dominant and submissive. These couples report that the idea that there’s a partner who is always dominant in all aspects of their relationship, and one who is always submissive, is simply not true.
Most healthy relationships aren’t about one person being in power and another being submissive to that person, they’re about a partnership, with both partners bringing aspects of themselves to the table and fulfilling roles that are much wider than “I’m always dominant” or “I’m always submissive.”
What has been reported by gay couples, however, is that some people do prefer always being penetrated (being a bottom) or always being the one doing the penetration (being a top). There are also people who state that being a “switch” during sex is also true: being a person who doesn’t have a set preference and enjoys being penetrated and doing the penetration during sexual encounters. These are just preferences during sex, however, not unmovable, unchanging roles within relationships or labels on a person’s identity that extend beyond sex, like that tops are always dominant in all aspects of life, that they’re more masculine presenting, or more “alpha.”
You can read more about this or ask questions in the r/askgaybros or the r/asklgbt subreddits on Reddit.
Conclusion
Pride Month is a time for celebrating gender, identity, sexual preferences, and love in all its forms.
If you and your partner have penises (or strapons) and identify as members of the LGBT community, or are simply allies who want to experiment, we hope this list gives you plenty of things to try, experience, and enjoy!
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Happy Pride!
