Every relationship faces challenges, and one that’s becoming increasingly common is the risk of your sex life becoming stale. Humans are creatures of comfort and routine. Once we find a method that “works,” we just keep doing it that way. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it, right?
Wrong. That kind of attitude is exactly why sex can become stale and, according to many sex therapists online, a stale and boring sex life can start to damage your relationship as a whole.
But how can we prevent this?
In an article in the HuffPost, Lawrence Siegel, sexologist and sex educator, stated, “Eroticism needs a bit of an edge, an unknown; even some degree of risk. Risk can also come just from trying something new and not knowing how it’s gonna turn out.”
Most people have never tried incorporating ball-sucking into their sex lives but, in this blog, you’ll discover why it could be exactly what you need to make things exciting in the bedroom again.
What is Ball-Sucking?
Oral sex is very common and incredibly popular among both men and women in all kinds of relationships. According to a National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey that examined 2,116 men and 2,140 women in the US, 85.4% men and 83.2% women reported having had oral sex.
But what if there was a way to make oral sex even better?
Ball-sucking is an innovative method that can change the entire oral sex dynamic both for someone with a penis and their partner.
If you have a penis, then you know that the skin of the scrotum is incredibly sensitive. The entire area, usually untouched during oral sex, is a gold mine for stimulation and pleasure.
Ball-sucking is what it sounds like. Known originally as “tea-bagging,” ball-sucking is a method where one partner uses their mouth to please the area of the scrotum and testicles, applying light suction with their mouth and licking and massaging this area with their tongue.
This can be done before oral sex as part of foreplay, or during it as a way to add variety to the process and the sensations.
How to get started
A common trend among all the blog posts on our site is that communication comes first. Before trying anything new in a sexual context, you have to talk to your partner first. Consent is the foundation of every good sexual experience, so be sure to ask your partner about what you intend to do, where you intend to do it, how you want to do it, and how far you’ll go.
While it can sometimes be easy to get carried away during a sex act, you have to remember not to introduce something you haven’t talked about before to the experience. For example, ball-sucking involves suction, which can be painful if done too hard, so you have to ask your partner how hard they’re comfortable with you sucking.
Once you’ve talked to your partner about ball-sucking and have their consent, it’s time to get down to business.
- Shaving
Having body hair isn’t a dealbreaker for ball-sucking, but you might find that licking and sucking an area with thick body hair is difficult or even irritating to your lips and tongue. Talk to your partner about shaving their scrotum safely. For ball-sucking, they don’t have to shave it entirely with a blade-based razor, they can use an electric razor to simply decrease the length and density of their body hair.
This will actually make the ball-sucking better for both of you, as it’ll be easier to lick and suck an area with shorter hair. Some light shaving will also increase sensitivity to the area and allow the lube to reach the skin, which will make things more enjoyable for your partner. It’s a win-win!
- Lubrication
Like most sexual acts, ball-sucking feels better with proper lubrication, and saliva might not be enough to prevent chafing or irritation. However, as this is an act of oral stimulation, you have to be mindful of the kind of lube you use, as you will get it on your tongue and mouth and might even ingest some.
We recommend looking into edible lube, which is water-based and completely safe to ingest, as it doesn’t include dyes, scents, or alcohol.
You can apply the lube to the scrotum area gently in a nice, even layer right before you get started so it doesn’t dry out!
- Start with gentle licking
Remember, the scrotum area is one of the most sensitive areas of a person's body. Most people aren’t used to touching it, even in a safe, enjoyable context.
So start slow. Use your tongue to explore the area, being mindful not to push too hard. Don’t move your head up and down wildly. Instead, move your tongue and trace the sensitive skin with it. Listen to your partner’s reactions and follow their lead.
- Move onto kisses, then apply soft suction
Once you’ve warmed things up with some light, teasing licks, you can move onto the main event.
But don’t just start sucking yet!
Instead, start kissing the area gently and lovingly. Start with closed lips, then gradually start opening them. You can engage in a very soft french kiss, but don’t overdo it. This area is so sensitive that even touching it with the lips in a hard way can cause pain.
Open your mouth and close your lips softly around one area, particularly around one of the testes, and start sucking inwards with your mouth. Think of it like sucking a wide straw, but remember, be slow and don’t use much force. You don’t want to leave a hickey!
Listen to your partner’s reactions and start sucking more of the skin in. You can even try rolling the skin around your mouth as you suck in, caressing the skin with your tongue as you do.
- Use your hands!
It might sound like something contrary to the name, but ball-sucking doesn’t have to be limited to the mouth.
While you’re licking and sucking, you can also use your fingers and palms to massage the scrotum at the same time. Cradle, stroke, and roll your fingers around this area, but don’t apply too much force.
You can also use your hands to give your partner a handjob, while you engage in ball-sucking, which will give them the thrilling experience of getting both a handjob and oral sex at the same time!
Ball-sucking is so effective at producing stimulation and pleasure that you’ll find that it’s entirely possible to make your partner orgasm just with your mouth in that area, without ever touching their penis!
By adding this technique to your oral sex repertoire, you’ll discover a thrilling new pathway to incredible pleasure: a goldmine of sensitive nerves right under the penis!
Conclusion
If you’ve never tried ball-sucking, it will definitely spice up and revitalize your sex life. The scrotum area is a goldmine of pleasure that is often unexplored during oral sex.
So if things are feeling stale, talk to your partner about exploiting this technique to unlock a new level of stimulation that’ll kick things into high gear!
Want to know more?
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Special thanks to sexologist Lawrence Siegel and HuffPost.
