Make connection, creativity and acceptance happen with these comfortable, body positive sex positions for plus-sized folks.
Not Letting a Different Body Size or Shape Hold You Back
Intimacy should make us feel good. But sometimes, our bodies can present some challenges. We’re all built differently than what the media usually presents. You’re probably worried about stamina, balance, comfort and flexibility.
We’ve all been there you know. Getting kinda self-conscious about our own bodies. But hey, intimacy is not about meeting some arbitrary standards alright? It doesn’t require us to be perfect.
We’re humans with our own sets of struggles, conditions. Do not exclude you or anyone who’s rocking a different body shape or size. You’re more than free to find ways that honor and celebrate your body and your partner's.
No need for you to sacrifice your comfort to feel pleasure. Here’s the good news. You can enjoy the magic of intimacy even with a plus-sized, curvier body. Come and try these positions. See what works for you!
Doggy
Doggy makes deep or shallow penetration possible for you. Without you doing lots of lifting or twisting. It takes the pressure off the front of your body. Helping you breathe easier and lets you or your partner control the rhythm and depth.
You can do the doggy on your bed or couch. It’s also an awesome choice if you want easier angle adjustments. With a penis or a strap-on, you can count on the doggy. A classic, accessible position for you and other plus-sized folks.
Doggy Pro Tip
As a receiver, put some pillows under your chest, elbows or knees. The soft surface will reduce strain on your arms and legs. While also lifting your body to a comfortable angle. Let your giving partner stand or kneel comfortably behind.
Cowgirl
If you’re on top, you’re going to be the receiver here as well. You’re going to have control over the rhythm, angle or depth. If you have a larger body, this position can be empowering. You’re allowed to experiment and customize.
Without putting too much pressure on your partner’s movements. Or worrying about the strain on your hips or knees. You can try the reverse version of this as well (facing the other way).
Take it slow so you can be in the moment and enjoy. Cowgirl helps you build confidence and focus on pleasure at your preferred pace or intensity.
Cowgirl Pro Tip
If bouncing feels tiring, try a slow rocking motion instead. Put a pillow under your giving partner’s back. So they can raise their pelvic area. Making the angles easier and less physically demanding for your bodies.
Queening (Face Sitting)
Another empowering position for plus-sized folks out there. Great for some oral stimulation. Sitting over your partner’s face is super intimate and boosts your confidence. It allows you to just relax.
Without having to worry about angles or pressure. If you’re struggling with body image, queening can help you feel appreciated and desired. Don’t worry about putting so much weight on your partner’s face. Here’s a tip.
Queening Pro Tip
Put something firm, comfortable under your thighs for space and balance. Let your partner lie in the middle. So they don’t have to worry about feeling trapped underneath you. The available space makes their head safe.
Check in regularly. Make sure you and your awesome partner are in a comfortable spot. Don’t be afraid to include some super toys here for extra pleasure. Enhance your experience by grabbing those naughty playthings.
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Wedged Missionary
Don’t dismiss this one as basic. Missionary is the most used sex position regardless of weight or size. With a subtle tweak like placing a pillow or wedge under your hips, this classic, body-friendly position will deepen your intimate experience.
Missionary helps you get close to your partner with eye contact and kisses. It reduces strain on your bodies without compromising your closeness.
Missionary Pro Tip
Play around with pillow or wedge placement. Under your hips, upper back for deeper penetration and relaxed closeness. Spread your legs in a natural way instead of stretching too much. A few adjustments will help you enjoy your private moment a lot.
Frotting and Scissoring
If you’re inn a same sex encounter, frotting (male to male) and scissoring (female to female) would be awesome. These positions allow you and your partner to connect intimately without penetration. Yes, including your plus-sized folks!
Doing an angled approach will reduce strain and give you maximum pleasure in your skin to skin contact. Through friction created by your rubbing genitals, you can feel the physical and emotional warmth of each other.
Frotting/Scissoring Pro Tip
Get your pillows and blankets ready. These will help you support your bodies. Find the most comfortable and easy to maintain angle. Toys do come in handy. So if you’re looking for additional, external stimulation…
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Sideways 69
Here’s a sexy oral treat for you. The sideways 69. This position is easier on your body if you’re on the bigger side. You and your sex partner can evenly spread the weight to reduce strain. By doing this, you can have moore room for movement and comfort.
It’s a less demanding position that you can do compared to the traditional top and bottom 69. Make your oral action extremely fun. Go sideways in position, without letting the fun go sideways. Wink, wink!
Sideways 69 Pro Tip
The softness of your pillows can level up your comfort. Place a pillow between your knees to create space for your partner’s head. While enjoying giving and receiving oral pleasure, make your hands work too by caressing or wrapping an arm around your partner’s leg.
Spooning
Spooning is a very relaxed position you can try if you’re plus-sized. Full body contact without strain. It’s gentle and supportive if you’re doing a longer sensual session. This side by side setup keeps your joints relaxed.
While still allowing you to make closeness and intimacy grow. Adjustments would be so easy for you. Shallow or deep thrusts, this position will give you a comfortable way to connect.
Spooning Pro Tip
Whether you’re the giver or receiver, give some kisses and touches to your partner. Make your session hotter and add more stimulation by using toys for added.. Whisper, breathe heavily or moan to make your encounter more intense. Don’t forget to bring those pillows for extra support and comfort.
Turtle
The turtle position would be great for your plus-sized body because you don’t have to do any heavy lifting. It gives you a reassuring feeling. Helping you get rid of anxious feelings about your body image.
The turtle position will give you adjustable angles. With some pillows, you can shift the angle for more or less depth. A very flexible option for larger bodies.
Turtle Pro Tip
Mix things up by giving your partner a gentle massage or kisses on their back if you’re the giver. Check in often to make sure you’re both enjoying this position. Take your time so you can adjust comfortably. Again, get some pillows ready for extra support when you’re adjusting the angles.
A Plus Size Perspective
You’ve probably struggled with body image issues before. But hey, you’re not alone alright? We’ve had those moments. But we shouldn’t let the negative, harsh voices in our heads win.
Getting intimate doesn’t just impact us physically.
There are mental, emotional elements too. How about seeing things from a fellow curvy person’s point of view? Alright, here’s a video of Alexandra Rodriguez where she talks about plus-sized intimacy.
Her experiences and the importance of self-love. Check it out!
Closing Note: Body Positivity in Intimacy
By choosing the aforementioned positions, your intimate moments would give you comfort and ease. Remove the pressure to perform. Your intimate space is no porn movie set. Sure, there are some challenges at first.
But with proper communication with your partner, you’re going to have an absolute blast. Regardless of your bodies’ shapes and sizes. Let your beautiful bodies and souls thrive in intimacy.
Sex is not a contest. Keep that in mind. The real erotic magic happens when you make respect, acceptance and connection the main ingredients in your private playtime. No room for fear or judgement.
Just two (or sometimes more) wonderful people having fun. What are you waiting for? Celebrate your beauty and sexuality with these plus-sized friendly positions. Be confident in your own skin. Cheers!
