So here’s the thing: many are curious about BDSM, but not everyone gets turned on by the harsh, pain-heavy treatment it offers. And that’s okay. It doesn’t mean you’re “no fun.” It just means whips and chains are not your thing. 

But I understand that some people are still looking for the same thrill of being dominated, praised, rewarded, or ‘punished’ without the ouch. 

You’re here because you want to be treated with the softness of romance and the toughness of BDSM. The good news is, there’s a BDSM style that’s exactly for people like you. According to Feeld, pleasure-centred BDSM is about sensual stimulation, emotional safety, and arousal through intentional attention. 

And if this sounds like something your body is humming at, you might be a pleasure sub (or a pleasure dom). 

But this article is all about the receivers, the melters, the subs, the ones who get turned on by attentive, sensory-driven control.

If you want to understand what it means to be a pleasure sub, keep reading. 

What Is a Pleasure Sub?

Before we dive into the juicy part, let’s get clear on the what. 

A pleasure sub, from the term itself, is a submissive whose primary role in the pleasure BDSM dynamic is to receive pleasure, stimulation, and attention under the intimate guidance of the pleasure dom. 

It’s unlike the other BDSM playgrounds where being a sub is about enduring pain, providing service, or being obedient. 

Being a pleasure sub is about surrendering your body and mind to someone who wants to give you pleasure in a controlled way. They enjoy the delicious act of letting someone else take the lead while you melt into the experience. 

The Role of a Pleasure Sub

While it’s true that a pleasure sub enjoys being pleasured and receiving sensual stimulation, erotic teasing, and emotional surrender, it doesn’t mean that all they do is lie passively like a pillow princess and call it a day. 

Being a pleasure sub is still a form of BDSM, which means it’s a lifestyle, a mindset, and a practice, not just a position on the bed.

The Psychology Behind Being a Pleasure Sub

Many pleasure subs share these motivations:

• A desire to surrender control in a safe, encouraging environment.

• A craving to be cared for and sensually stimulated.

• A willingness to be emotionally vulnerable by opening up and putting your whole trust to the pleasure dom. 

In short, a pleasure sub is more than just a receiver; they’re someone who surrenders with intention. 

How the Pleasure D/s Dynamic Works?

If you’ve ever wondered how a pleasure-focused D/s relationship functions, the role is not much different from the typical BDSM dom and sub. The dynamic is built on power exchange, communication, trust, and care. 

The goal centers on achieving the shared goal of giving and receiving pleasure. 

Power Exchange

There is still a power dynamic in the relationship. The dom leads, though it's not about inflicting pain. Instead, the focus is about guiding the experience, anticipating needs, and getting creative in stimulating the sub to achieve pleasure. 

The pleasure sub submits, knowing and trusting that the don’s control is done responsibly and carefully. 

Communication and Negotiation

Open and honest communication is the backbone of any BDSM dynamic, and pleasure-focused relationships are no exception. So before play even begins, the sub and dom should discuss:

• Desires

• Boundaries

• What “pleasure” means to the sub

• Signals or safewords

Check-ins during the scene ensure your safety physically, mentally, and emotionally. It keeps the experience pleasurable. 

Trust and Emotional Safety

A pleasure sub gives up control with the understanding that their dom will care for their pleasure and well-being. There are times that the pleasure sub is bound with restraint, requiring them to put their whole trust and emotional openness into their dom. 

Aftercare

Even pleasure-centered BDSM scenes can leave the sub or dom feeling physically or emotionally drained; this moment is known as “drop.” Doing aftercare helps both the dom and sub process the experience and return to emotional baseline. 

Aftercare commonly includes physical affirmation, cuddling or massage for the sub, and emotional discussion, reassurance, or quiet reflection for both.

Roles Responsibilities

According to BDSM educator Brandon the Dom, a good sub is actively engaged in the dynamic. They participate in ways that show attentiveness, responsiveness, and awareness of their don’s guidance. Some key behaviors include:

• Approaching your dom respectfully.

• Understanding when to communicate versus when to let go.

• Knowing the right moments to challenge or test boundaries constructively. 

Even if your kink is pleasure-focused, these responsibilities ensure the dynamic stays balanced, respectful, safe, and exciting. You can watch Brandon the Dom’s detailed explanation of the 7 Essential Behaviors of a Good Sub to learn more: 

Common Activities in a Pleasure Sub/ Dom Play

Pleasure-focused BDSM scene is about exploring sensation, erotic anticipation, and intimacy that will heighten the sub’s pleasure. It can be playful, sensual, or structured, but the pleasure sub is the center of attention and the receiver of the stimulating and emotionally satisfying experience.

Sensation Play

Sensation play is about body exploration through touch, temperature, and textures. Expect that a pleasure dom can do the following:

• Feathers gliding across the skin.

• Ice cubes or temperature play to stimulate the sub.

• Gentle scratching, tickling, or caressing.

The goal is not to inflict pain but to awaken your senses.

Orgasm Control

If you think that rewards and punishments are not present in the pleasure-focused BDSM scene, you’re wrong. A dom can punish you in ways you can’t imagine, and one of them is by controlling your orgasm in the following ways:

• Edging or bringing you close to orgasm, and then stopping to “put you on the edge.”

• Giving you multiple orgasms or extended stimulation sessions

• Guiding the pacing and intensity

Use of Toys

Toys are another favorite in the BDSM scenes. But in a pleasure-focused dynamic, the toys commonly used are those that will bring the sub to the edge or orgasm. 

Examples are Angela, a dildo with a finger vibrator. It’s best for those with a vagina, and the M2, for a pleasure sub with a penis. What makes toys like these the best choice in a pleasure-focused BDSM scene is that they can be controlled by the dom using an app. 

Though toys are not a requirement, they allow the dom to find different ways to pleasure you. 

Rituals and Protocols

Pleasure-focused rituals are subtle and sensual. The goal is to deepen the dynamic. Unlike the service-based submission, these are less about the chores and more about playful erotic structure. 

They can do this by presenting themselves in a kneeling position, keeping quiet unless asked or when the dom is straying from the goal, and performing other rituals. 

Common Misconceptions and Myths

Pleasure-focused D/s is still BDSM, but often misunderstood. Many people assume it’s “soft” or “easy,” when what it really is requires just as much communication, trust, and intentionality as the other kinks.

Let’s clear up some of the common myths.

Pleasure Doms Are “Soft” or “Weak”

Some people think that a dom who focuses on pleasure is less dominant. This isn’t true. As mentioned, a pleasure dom can create different ways to control, punish, or reward their sub. They also take charge by being in control and responsible for their sub’s pleasure. 

Dominance can be expressed through care as much as through strictness and toughness. 

Pleasure Subs “Just Want Feels”

It’s easy to assume that a pleasure sub is passive or only interested in pleasure without engagement. But submitting to a dom is still a part of a power exchange. A pleasure sub can choose to surrender and communicate their needs. 

There’s No Power Structure

Some think that because it’s about pleasure, there’s no real hierarchy. The truth is, power is very much present, but channeled toward erotic fulfillment rather than inflicting pain. 

It’s Just Vanilla

Because the style is gentler than other BDSM practices, some non-practitioners dismiss it as simple or “vanilla.” But the truth is it still involves negotiation, trust, and protocols, especially if you want to live the lifestyle 24/7. 

If you and your partner agree to take the lifestyle out of the bedroom, then the pleasure sub continues following their dom’s orders or servicing them through chores. 

Benefits and Challenges of Being a Pleasure Sub

Being a pleasure sub can be deeply rewarding, but it comes with both highs and possible downsides. Understanding both sides of the coin can help you decide if you really want to become a pleasure sub. 

Benefits

Pleasure subs often say that their experiences can go beyond the physical. They can touch the emotional, mental, and even spiritual sides of intimacy.

• Deepens closeness and trust with your dom

• Better orgasmic experiences

• Feeling seen and valued

Challenges

No BDSM dynamic is without risks or challenges, and as a pleasure sub, you need to still understand your boundaries. 

• Giving up control can bring up vulnerability or unexpected feelings

• Repeated high-intensity play or orgasms can be draining, sometimes painful

• Doms, especially the new ones, can misunderstand the sub’s limits or signals

• Relying too heavily on the dom for pleasure or emotional validation can create an imbalance

How to Explore This Dynamic Safely

For a successful session, you need to ensure that both you and your dom have a fulfilling, consensual, and pleasurable experience, which you can do by:

Considering Boundaries

Before you jump into it, know your limits and comfort zones. Also, understand your body by knowing what feels good, off, or what might need slow exploration. Clarifying your boundaries helps you stay safe while enjoying the experience.

Finding a Dom

You can meet someone from the BDSM community, but make sure that both of you see eye-to-eye and you’ve had a good talk with each other before the session. Make sure that both of you are into the same kink. Imagine what will happen if a pleasure sub meets a sadist dom.

Have a Clear and Honest Communication

Many BDSM practitioners enter into a contract. State your desires, limits, and turn-ons. Read your contract before you sign up for anything. Additionally, writing a scene plan or subcontract helps clarify expectations, responsibilities, and goals. 

Also, be honest with your dom. If it’s your first time trying this kink, a virgin, or just exploring, tell your dom so that they’ll know how to approach your body.

When This Dynamic Might Not Be for You

According to the Sexual Health Alliance, submission is most rewarding when you really feel the joy of giving up control. 

Being a sub in general means embracing vulnerability, trust, and a willingness to surrender control. If any of these feel uncomfortable or are not aligned with your desires. It’s a sign that being a pleasure sub is not the right fit for you. 

You might want to reconsider being a pleasure sub if:

• You want more control than you’re willing to give.

• You want discipline, punishment, or rigid structure rather than pure pleasure.

• You cannot enjoy yourself without the dom.

Note that the roles in BDSM aren’t one-size-fits-all. It’s completely normal to change, adjust, or renegotiate your role as you discover what fulfills you. 

Are You Ready to Be a Pleasure Sub?

Becoming a pleasure sub means you are willing to give your full trust to your dom, as you receive pleasure given to you. While the focus is pleasure, the power exchange is still there, and it also requires the same level of care, communication, and respect as any D/s relationship.

Do you think you’re ready to be a pleasure sub? Visit BeYourLover.com to find the best toys that will enhance your experience. 

Special Thanks To:

• Brandon the Dom

Syntribation may sound scary and clinical. No, it is not a disease or a doctor’s therapy. It simply refers to a hands-free masturbation practice that uses the thighs or the pelvic muscles. So as serious as it sounds, it can easily become your next favorite self-love routine once you learn how to do it right.

Who knows? This might become your new go-to during solo play or even a spicy addition to your bedroom routine with a partner.

What Is Syntribation?

As mentioned, it is a type of hands-free masturbation that uses your thighs or pelvic muscles for stimulation and arousal. Some people reach orgasm with this technique, while others do not, and that is perfectly normal.

Experts explain that it usually stimulates multiple erogenous zones without direct contact. And let’s be honest, even without looking it up online, you may have already tried something similar—whether when you first discovered how good an orgasm feels or just out of curiosity.

Syntribation is often practiced by those with a vulva, but people with penises can also enjoy it.

How Does Syntribation Work?

Syntribation works differently for everyone, so the best way to know if it is for you is simply to try it.

If you have a vulva, you can do it by squeezing your thighs together to increase blood flow and create friction that stimulates the clitoris, which then leads to arousal.

If you have a penis, syntribation can work for you too. Place your shaft between your thighs and rub the head with the right pressure. This massages the penis and the testicles, while also adding pressure to the perineum.

Want to make it even better? Engage your pelvic floor. Doing kegels while practicing syntribation boosts blood flow in the area and can intensify arousal, sometimes leading to orgasm.

5 Benefits of Syntribation

Syntribation comes with some pretty awesome benefits. Here are a few:

You Can Do It in Almost Any Position

You can try it while lying down or sitting. You can even do it while clothed. If you are bold enough and want a quick release, you can even do it in public while people around you are too busy to notice.

It Lowers the Risk of STIs

Syntribation is still a form of masturbation. The only difference is you use your thighs or pelvic muscles instead of your hands. Because of this, there is no risk of transferring or contracting STIs from another person, unless you include it as part of foreplay with a partner.

It Relieves Sexual Tension

According to Elize Kapaeva, in an article on Wellandgood.com, syntribation can relieve sexual tension and boost confidence. It gives you a safe way to express your sexual desires, while also helping to ease stress.

It’s Practical

You do not need your hands to syntribate. So if for some reason you cannot use them, this is the perfect way to find relief. You also do not need a partner to make it work, although it can definitely become part of your foreplay if you want to share the experience.

Its versatility ensures that you can enjoy sexual release almost anywhere.

Awareness of Your Body

Just like traditional masturbation, syntribation lets you explore what feels good for your body. Think of it as practice for understanding what arouses you. That way, when you are with a partner, you can openly communicate what brings you the most pleasure. 

Are There Any Downsides to Syntribation?

There are no major downsides to syntribation itself. Most of the risks come from how you use sex toys while practicing it. For example, if you do not wash your toys before and after use, they can harbor bacteria and cause infections. This becomes even riskier when toys are shared during partnered sex.

The solution is simple. Choose body-safe toys and practice proper hygiene. If you plan to syntribate with a partner and use a toy, cover it with a condom for extra protection.

Another possible risk is becoming too dependent on toys to reach orgasm. To avoid this, switch things up. Try syntribating with a toy sometimes, and without one at other times.

According to Dr. Prem Munjal, in an article from My Fit Brain, skin irritation can also happen. This usually occurs only if you practice too often or if your clothes or hands are rough. The fix? Wear soft clothing or use pillows around your genitals to reduce friction.

How to Make the Most of Your Experience

Although syntribation may seem simple, you can maximize the pleasure by keeping these tips in mind:

Overcome Physical and Mental Barriers

You will never enjoy the experience if you feel guilty about what you are doing. Remember, there is nothing wrong with masturbation. Create a private, relaxing space and practice self-compassion to ease your worries.

Normalize self-pleasure and allow yourself to be present with your emotions and sensations. One trick is to name the feelings instead of judging them.

Do not overthink the outcome. Focus on enjoying the process. If anxiety and worries continue to get in the way, consider consulting a sex therapist.

Use Appropriate Devices

You can level up your syntribation experience and increase your chances of orgasm by using the right toys. Not all toys are suitable for this method, since it is hands-free. Choose the ones that truly enhance the practice.

The best toys for syntribation are those with multiple features like suction, vibration, and pulsation for maximum arousal.

One example is the  Squeeze Me. It is designed specifically for syntribation. This wearable vibrator offers suction and tapping features, and you can control the intensity by squeezing it with your thighs or through an app.

Another great choice is the Tara X, which combines suction with G-spot vibration. It also comes with a remote, making it perfect for an intense hands-free experience.

Integrate It With Other Sexual Practices

Want to turn up the heat in your sex life? Try incorporating syntribation into your bedroom routine. You can use it as part of foreplay or even explore it in tantric sex to deepen intimacy and pleasure.

FAQs

Will I achieve orgasm through syntribation?

Some say orgasm through syntribation is easier for certain body types, although many people can achieve it. The best way to know is to try it for yourself.

To boost your chances, consider adding a sex toy. It can help you reach orgasm faster and with more intensity.

Do only people with vulvas enjoy syntribation?

No. Even those with penises can practice syntribation. They can press their thighs together or engage their pelvic muscles to stimulate the head of the penis.

Can syntribation break the hymen?

No. Here’s a short explanation from Dr. Sue:

If you want to take your syntribation experience to the next level, visit BeYourLover today to find the best toy for your me-time.

Now, you’ve heard the term “pleasure dom,” and you’re now wondering: Is it really what it sounds like? Could this be your kind of BDSM? 

If you’re someone who wants to be in control of your partner’s pleasure without inflicting pain or imposing rigid rules and discipline, this lifestyle might be right up your alley.

Also, if you’re a submissive who is not into the extreme side of BDSM but still longs for someone to take control of your pleasure, then a pleasure dom might be exactly what you’re looking for. 

But maybe you’ve only heard the term in passing, and you’re not sure what it actually means. What is a pleasure dom? And how do you become one?

The Different Kinds of Dom

Since you’re here, chances are you already know the ‘dom’ and ‘sub’ terms. But did you know that there are actually different kinds of doms? 

Some sex and BDSM educators, like Evie Lupine, believe that labels like these aren’t something you pick for yourself. They’re more like reputations you earn within the community:  

“Usually, those terms don’t get their own new capital letter label. We don’t yet anyways have people going around, saying ‘I’m a medical dom, I’m a flogger dom…’ I would say in the real-life community, people do get reputations for doing certain things like, ‘Oh yeah, that’s the fire play guy, that’s the wedded messy top’ like people do have things they get a reputation for, but that tends to be a label or a descriptor that the community puts on someone because of that on what they seem doing versus a preemptive label that would be used in something like a dating profile.” - Evie Lupine

That said, she also acknowledges that labels can still be helpful, especially when it comes to compatibility. If someone calls themselves a pleasure dom, it gives the other person a clear idea of what they’re into or what they’re not. 

Here are the other dom types you might come across:

• Sadist: Enjoys inflicting pain on a willing partner (usually a masochist who finds pleasure in receiving pain)

• Daddy Dom: Plays like a parental authority. There’s usually affection involved in their relationship with their sub.

• Rigger: Gets satisfaction from tying up their sub in rope bondage, such as in shibari and kinbaku styles.

• Master: Expects total obedience and often establishes strict to their sub, aka their slave.

• Trainer (Owner): Treats a sub like a pet or trainee, often guiding them through different BDSM practices. 

• Brat Tamer: Loves the challenge of a rebellious sub who pushes boundaries and plays mischievous. 

• Primal Dom: Embraces their instinct and animalistic energy (think growing, wrestling, and biting) 

• Service Dom: Gives commands or tasks that can be sexual (like giving oral) or practical (household chores).

• Soft Dom. Gentle but still in control. This dom uses nurture, encouragement, and emotional connection instead of whips and paddles. 

In this article, we’re focusing on one in particular: the pleasure dom. The others are for another story.

What Is a Pleasure Dom?

A pleasure dom shares the core values of any good Dom: communication, consent, and safety. But their main focus is guiding their partner through intense, controlled pleasure. 

Yes, some elements of traditional BDSM might still be involved: bondage, torture, humiliation, and safe words. But the purpose isn’t to punish but to build anticipation, edge pleasure, and strengthen intimacy. 

Is the Pleasure Dom Lifestyle for You

Pleasure doms aren’t what the mainstream BDSM usually shows us, but they’re still very much part of the community. It still includes dominance, submission, bondage, sensory play, and even sadism and masochism sometimes. 

The key difference? Pleasure is the tool of control, not pain, rules, or humiliation. 

This lifestyle is for you if:

• You’re intrigued by BDSM but don’t love the rougher, pain-forward side of it.

• You want to spice things up with a partner without diving into intense kink scenes.

• You enjoy being (or having) someone in control—especially when it comes to pleasure.

And even if you don’t identify as kinky, exploring this dynamic can bring serious benefits to your relationship. According to Very Well Mind, BDSM can:

• Reduce stress

• Improve communication

• Deepen trust

• Improve mental health

What Are the Challenges of Being a Pleasure Dom

Being a pleasure dom comes with its rewards, but let’s be honest. It can be challenging too. Many of the same issues that other BDSM doms face also apply here. So, if you really want to step into this role, here are some of the roadblocks that you might face:

Making Your Partner Open Up

Not everyone is immediately comfortable expressing their desires—especially if they’re new to BDSM. Some people are naturally shy, while others are people-pleasers who go along with whatever their Dom wants, even if it’s not really what they really want.

As a Pleasure Dom, creating space for your sub to open up is important. The better you understand what feels good for them, the more powerful and pleasurable your control becomes.

Emotional Triggers

This is especially important if you're engaging in casual or one-time BDSM scenes. You might not know your partner very well yet, and certain physical or emotional triggers could show up unexpectedly.

Reading your partner’s body language, facial expressions, and energy shifts is key. Always have a safeword and encourage honest feedback before, during, and after play.

Keeping Things Exciting

Here’s the truth, doing the same technique over and over can turn from exciting to... meh. One of the common pitfalls Pleasure Doms face is running out of fresh ideas.

To keep the heat alive, keep learning. Watch videos, read kinky content, and stay curious about what makes your partner achieve the big O.

Challenging the BDSM Stigma

Let’s face it, people have opinions. And when it comes to kink, some of them are loud, judgmental, and uninformed.

There will always be outsiders who don’t “get it.” But remember, your pleasure, safety, and connection matter more than anyone else’s opinion. What happens between you and your partner is yours, and no one else has the right to define it.

How to Become a Pleasure Dom?

So you’ve decided that this is your vibe. But before you grab your flogger and dim the lights, let’s talk about what it takes to be a Pleasure Dom.

Learn the Basics of BDSM

Since being a Pleasure Dom falls under the larger BDSM umbrella, it’s just reasonable to learn the BDSM basics. Many techniques, tools, and safety principles overlap across all Dom labels.

BDSM is more than just sex, it's a lifestyle. You’ll learn how to establish boundaries, create contracts (yes, really), and communicate. Think of this as learning the rules of the playground before you start swinging from the monkey bars.

Know What Makes a Good Pleasure Dom

Being a dom in general is a responsibility. It’s not just you wielding your power however you like.  Without care and consent, you’re not dominating, you’re harming. So here’s what makes a great pleasure dom:

• Empathy: Tune into your partner’s verbal and non-verbal cues.

• Communication skills: Make it easy for your sub to express boundaries and discomfort.

• Knowledge: The more you know, the more confident and creative you can be. 

• Creativity: Keep things spicy, playful, and unexpected.

• Patience: Some people are still figuring out their bodies. Be the guide, not the judge. 

Learn From the Pros

There are so many ways to level up your Dom game. You can watch videos, read guides, and most importantly, pay attention during your own play sessions. What made your partner moan? What made them hesitate?

Joining BDSM forums or online communities can give you insider tips, inspiration, and real-life advice you won’t find in mainstream media.

Make Your Sub Feel Comfortable

Your sub needs to feel safe, seen, and heard. Encourage open conversations about fantasies, kinks, boundaries, and yes, discomforts.

Never yuck someone’s yum. Being a Pleasure Dom means helping your sub reach orgasmic heights, and that starts with emotional security. 

Get to Know Their Body (Even More Than They Do)

A lot of people don’t fully understand their own bodies or what turns them on. That’s where you come in.

Explore together. Tease. Ask questions. Notice patterns. Your goal is to be so in tune with their pleasure that it feels like you’re reading their mind.

Take the Lead

You’re the Dom, own it. Learn how to use techniques that reward, tease, and build tension. You’ll find specific techniques later.

Prepare the Toys

BDSM without toys? It’s missing a huge part of the fun. Invest in a solid bondage kit, masturbators, or vibrators. Just make sure everything is body-safe, sanitized, and most importantly, approved by your sub. 

Don’t Skip the Aftercare

Yes, being a Pleasure Dom is on the softer side of BDSM. But don’t let that fool you. Pleasure can be intense.

Take it from one Reddit user:

“Pleasure doms have a vendetta against their sub's ability to walk. Or at least mine sure does. Make ya cum so many times you forget your name, your birthday, or your social!

The post I saw the other day said they wield pleasure like a weapon. Impact player have floggers and pleasure doms have orgasms.” - BadFrenchToasts

Like BadFrenchToasts, many subs say they’ve been left in a delicious puddle of overstimulation after play.

If that’s the case, check in. Make sure that they feel grounded, safe, hydrated, and cared for. 

Techniques You Can Try As a Pleasure Dom

As BadFrenchToasts said, pleasure doms wield pleasure like a weapon, and that’s the energy you want to go for. Here’s how to use your power:

Spanking

Whether you’re delivering playful taps or something more intense, spanking can build tension and heighten pleasure. Just remember, it’s all about what feels good (and safe) for your sub. Keep communication open and always check in.

Sensory Stimulation 

Blindfolds. Ice cubes. Soft feathers. Candle wax. A silky scarf over their eyes while you whisper what’s coming next. Or nothing but slow, sensual music in the background as you explore every inch of their skin.

The trick? Engage multiple senses while keeping them guessing. Tease. Deny. Surprise.

Edging

This is the game of "not yet." Bring your partner right to the edge of orgasm, then back off. Do it again and again. Until they’re shaking with anticipation.

When you finally give them release? Fireworks. Every. Single. Time.

Orgasm Torture

This one’s for more advanced players. Too many orgasms, or holding one off for too long, can push your partner to the point where pleasure and pain blur beautifully.

As always, communication and consent are non-negotiable. But if done right, you’ll leave them weak in the knees and maybe even unable to walk.

Want to learn more? Check out this must-watch video from BDSM educator Evie Lupine. She breaks it all down with clarity, safety, and real-world tips.

Become Your Partner's Orgasm God

Being a Pleasure Dom may not be about barking orders or laying down strict rules, but still, you have the power to guide, tease, and give your sub pleasure they will never forget. 

It’s about creating scenarios where your sub is dripping with anticipation, breathless at your touch, and begging for release. This power will make you irresistible, and moreover, will improve your bond and relationship.

Ready to explore more? Visit beyourlover.com and discover tools, tips, and toys that’ll help you wield your power. 

Special thanks to: 

• Very Well Mind
• BadFrenchToasts, Reddit user and pleasure sub
• Evie Lupine, sex educator and BDSM expert. 

To help you master the Superman sex position much better, there are also techniques that you can learn to help you do it properly. If you’re ready, then let’s move on to make your fantasies come to life tonight!

What is the Superman Sex Position?

If you’re not yet familiar with this marvelous sex position, then you must know that it will require the right balance, lifting, and strength–so get ready to unleash your superpowers, because things can get challenging.

The Superman, or also called as the Superhero sex position, is done using a rear entry sex position, where a penetrating partner holds the receiving partner up in the air, resembling a flying hero pose. 

Receivers are mainly the ones who like to give up control, while it can be a satisfying feeling for givers to take charge, which makes this a great sex position to apply during sub-dom plays.

It can take a lot of strength to do this, so having a strong core from both partners is necessary. Other than improving the core, cardiovascular and balance exercises also makes sex much better, as stated by Anna Schaefer of Healthline.

Moreover, when doing this position for the first time, it’s best to do it on a soft surface or cushioned flooring to prevent any injuries.

How Can You Master the Superman Sex Position?

Are you ready to become a pro-level master of your own game? Before doing Superman, you need to have a better understanding of the sex position first.

Position Type: Vaginal sex, Anal sex, From behind, Rear entry, Standing

Main Stimulation: G-Spot stimulation

Auxiliary Stimulation: None

Who Takes the Initiative: It can apply to both partners

Position Description: It can feel super rewarding when you’re trying new things, even the most tricky ones. Well, you'll never know how it feels if you don’t give it a shot!

If you’re ready to do the Superman sex position, always remember that you and your partner should be up for a challenge, because this is not for the faint of heart. 

To do this position successfully, first, the receiving partner can lie down on a bed or couch, in a prone position with legs apart, to get themselves ready. Next, the giving partner can position themselves in between the receiving partner’s legs, while slightly bending their knees to get comfy.

Then, the giving partner can give the receiving partner a lift, by holding their waist and lifting their body. The receiving partner will also remain in a horizontal position. Afterward, they can bend their legs to secure themselves by holding onto the giving partner’s back.

The receiving partner can put both of their hands on their partner’s knees for extra support, or let their partner hold their wrists, if they prefer something rougher.

Techniques to Master the Superman Sex Position

• Prepare and Use Foreplay - If you want to build anticipation, foreplay is your good, old friend. Tease your partner by touching, kissing, and massaging to make the penetration easier and prevent hurting them.
• The Right Positioning - You can always experiment by finding the right angles before fully sliding in. By using the right angle, it makes sure that both of the couple’s comfort are always being put into consideration.
• Communicate With Them - Remember to continually check in with each other, so you can stop if one feels uncomfortable or experiencing any resistance. It’s best to tell your partner about the things that pleases you the most. Please don’t forget to ask for their consent and talk about boundaries–to keep things chill.
• Experiment - Like with any sex position, you’re not limited to doing one angle. You can always try different kinds of positioning to guarantee that you and your partner will enjoy the moment.
• Use Pillows or Support - Try to build a safe space by using pillows or soft cushions to provide some extra comfort and stability. It doesn’t only reduce the feeling of physical strain, but also offer you both some protection against a bad fall.

What are the Benefits When Doing the Superman Sex Position?

Do you know that incorporating this position during sex can have some benefits? Some of these are the following:

It Gives a Much Deeper Penetration

The deep penetration the Superman sex position provides to partners can highly increase the sexual satisfaction between them.

It Stimulates the G-Spot

Like any rear entry positions, the Superman sex position helps the giving partner stimulate the G-spot better, while using the help of some gravitational pressure. Because of the continued stimulation, it’s possible for couples to have multiple orgasms for a greater sexual pleasure.

Provides a Great View 

Looking at your partner's exposed buttocks is likely enough to arouse you sexually. This explicit view can improve the visual appeal and arousal of giving partners during the activity. 

A Good Cardio

Since this position requires more strength than usual, it’s perfect to do if you want to burn calories and increase your heartbeat–something you can also get by doing moderate exercises. 

Gives You a Better Sleep

Your body releases a list of hormones after sex, especially if it was a rigorous one. One is called Prolactin–a hormone that helps regulate sleep and gives you the drowsy feeling after sex, according to Nicole Schmidt of WebMD.

This hormone not only makes you sleep a bit faster than usual, but it also supports a more restful shut eye to help you sleep like a baby.

Some Protips to Help You Rock the Superman Sex Position

Now that you already have an idea about doing the Superman sex position more safely and effectively, you can apply these protips on your next sessions for a more satisfying experience.

• Start Supported - If you’re still a beginner for this one, it’s best to use a table, bed, or door frame to help the receiving partner maintain their position and reduce the feeling of strain.
• Use Plenty of Lube - Lubrication can help lower the occurrence of any difficulty when penetrating your partner, and also reduce the friction to prevent the involved part of the skin from chafing. You can choose a water-based or non-greasy product that’s also hypoallergenic, so you can use it for longer hours.
• Start Using a Slower Pace - Try to start at a comfortable speed to help you get familiar with the sensation. Doing sex at a gradual pace also helps build anticipation to keep the boredom away.
• Lean Back Slightly - This may sound simple, but doing this can help you change the center of gravity to help make things feel much easier.
• Always Focus on Safety - Never go beyond your limits, and once the giving or lifting partner gets tired, they should better lower the receiving partner to a bed or cushioned floor before continuing.
• Combine It with Other Positions - You can treat Superman as mid-sex move to give you more excitement. For more comfort, try to switch to positions like missionary or doggy style if you want to achieve an orgasm in a more secure way.
• Use Toys to Enhance the Experience - To give you and your partner more stimulation while maintaining this dynamic pose of yours, you can incorporate cock rings or bondage kit during your play. Choose toys that won't obstruct your movement, and avoid the bulky ones that can affect your stability and balance.

People Who’ll Love Doing the Superman Sex Position

Because of the position’s unique dynamics, it tends to catch the attention of specific groups, like:

Adventurous Couples

These are those who treat this position as an adrenaline booster during mid-sex before trying to switch to a much comfortable position.

Rear Entry Fans

Because the Superman is similar to doggy style, but as an upgraded variant that uses lifting and control, the sex position is great for those who enjoy deep penetration of their G-spot.

Strength-Oriented Partners

The lifting feature of the Superman sex position can also appeal to those who enjoy physical challenges or want to show their physical capabilities during sex.

Dominance and Submission Buffs

By giving full control and surrender, Superman aligns with the dynamics of BDSM. The sex position’s visual can also be enhanced by using the right BDSM tools and sceneries.

The Four Positions Similar to the Superman Sex Position

In this section, you’ll find the best sex positions that are quite similar to Superman. They’re best to do when one of the partners feels tired from defying gravity, or just wants to experience Superman in a similar but more safe way.

Pioneer

Position Type: Vaginal sex, From behind, Rear entry, Standing

Main Stimulation: P-Spot stimulation

Auxiliary Stimulation: None

Who Takes the Initiative: Receiving Partner

Position Description: This position is of great use once the giving partner’s arms starts to get tired from lifting. All the couple need is a soft cushion or fitness ball to support the receiving partner’s body–by lying on their tummy.

The Pioneer sex position works like Superman, but with some extra steps for support.

Low Doggy

Position Type: Vaginal sex, Anal sex, Doggy Style, From behind, Rear entry, Standing, Giving partner on top

Main Stimulation: G-Spot stimulation, A-Spot Stimulation

Auxiliary Stimulation: None

Who Takes the Initiative: Giving Partner

Position Description: The Low Doggy can be similar to Superman sex position because of the use of rear entry. For this position, the receiving partner can lie pronely on a cushion or pillow, while the giving partner positions themself at the top. 

It’s also a great option for couples who want a deeply penetrating position. For an extra edge, the receiving partner can squeeze their legs for extra friction, or allow their penetrating partner to pull their hair for added tension.

Mature Lady

Position Type: Vaginal sex, Anal sex, Doggy Style, From behind, Rear entry, Standing, 

Main Stimulation: G-Spot stimulation, A-Spot Stimulation

Auxiliary Stimulation: Holding and massaging the receiving partner’s buttocks

Who Takes the Initiative: Giving Partner

Position Description: Another rear position that’s similar to Superman is the Mature Lady sex position, where the receiving partner can rest their upper body on the table or any similar surface, while the giving partner penetrates them at the back.

If you’re one of those who treat the Superman as a mid-sex position, you can take advantage of the Mature Lady position as the perfect time to rest. 

Rear End Collision

Position Type: Vaginal sex, Anal sex, Doggy Style, From behind, Rear entry, Reverse

Main Stimulation: P-Spot stimulation, G-Spot Stimulation

Auxiliary Stimulation: Holding and massaging the receiving partner’s buttocks

Who Takes the Initiative: Giving Partner

Position Description: To do this position, the receiving partner can go on their knees, while fully leaning forward. This gives a better view and access for the giving partner, while the receiving partner stays put in the middle of their legs.

The giving partner can also comfortably lay back, with their hands behind them to support their upper body. If they prefer, they can stroke the receiving partner’s buttocks as well.

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Special Thanks To:

• Anna Schaefer, Writer, Healthline
• Nicole Schmidt, Writer, WebMD

FAQs

What if the giving partner doesn’t feel strong enough to do this?

It’s best to avoid the position for now. You can opt for doggy position or standing style if you still want a rear entry position.

Can the Superman sex position work during anal sex?

Yes, but you should give lubrication a priority and enter your partner at a slow pace. Since the angle allows deep penetration, you can damage the delicate anal tissues if you do it forcefully.

Will the Superman sex position work for plus-sized couples?

Yes, it can work, but prioritize your safety first. If you’re the receiver, you can use a sturdy surface like your bed’s headboard for support. For givers, use your leg strength when lifting and not your arms to reduce strain on both partners.

What if the receiving partner got a leg cramp?

Stop the activity immediately and stretch the area. Cramps usually happen because of prolonged tension in the muscles. You can massage the calves and switch to a seated position for now, like the cowgirl position.

But there’s no need to worry. Lesson learned!

I’ve realized that by knowing the right techniques, we, plus-sized ladies can also rock the cowgirl position. Like the others, we can also blow our partners’ minds and achieve the utmost pleasure. If you’re ready to learn how to lasso your partner for the best ride of your life, read on.

Can Plus-Sized Ladies Really Do Cowgirl Position?

If you've just heard about this position somewhere. Here’s a quick brush-up. The regular cowgirl position involves the receiver, the one with the vagina, being on top of the giver, who has a penis or a strap-on. 

The receiver straddles the giver’s genitals like a cowgirl while the latter lies down, hence the name. 

If you’re a plus-sized like me, I know your hesitation. You’re probably already imagining your partner’s reaction if you’re “rodeoing” on top of them. But you know what? According to Giddy, it’s actually an ideal position for plus-sized partners. 

The cowgirl position empowers us to embrace our own beauty and feel confident. 

Since you’re the top, you can control the rhythm to avoid fatigue and discomfort. Most of all, orgasm is within reach. 

But let’s be honest. Cowgirl can put a lot of strain on the knees, and some variations can be tiring for us curvy women. But don’t worry! After reading this article, you’ll be a cowgirl position expert, ready to rock your world and your partner’s.  

The Common Concerns and How to Address Them

There isn’t much of a problem for plus-sized women being in the cowgirl position, except that you need to hold your weight. But other than that, as mentioned, it can strain the knees and get tiring. It can also make you feel vulnerable because you’re in your partner’s full view.

But you don’t have to deal with all of that, and here’s how:

Knee Strain

Being plus-sized, our weight can already put much pressure on the knees, and the cowgirl position can make it worse. You can use cushions and pillows or adjust your angles to support your weight. 

You can also ask your partner to hold your waist or support under your legs to help with the balance. 

Fatigue

This one’s easy. If it starts to feel tiring, simply ask your partner to thrust. Bustle suggests asking your partner to bend their legs, plant their feet on the ground, and take over the work. 

Insecurity About Appearance

I get you might feel insecure. Being in the cowgirl position puts you on display for your partner. But believe me, your partner sees you as sexy, or else they wouldn’t be in bed with you in the first place. 

So, embrace your curves! Focus on the pleasure and experience. 

If your partner asks you to change positions because they don’t like how you look, don’t change the position, change your partner. (Just kidding…kinda)

5 Plus-Size-Friendly Cowgirl Variations to Try

Now here’s the fun part. Like ice cream flavors, sexy time with your partner is more enjoyable when you try different variations. Here are some cowgirl positions to try for plus-sized ladies.

1. Reverse Cowgirl

The reverse cowgirl is almost the same as the regular one, except you’re facing away from your partner. To reduce strain, ask your partner to use a pillow to elevate their hips.  

2. Lazy Woman

If you want to be more intimate, kissy, and touchy, try the horizontal cowgirl. Your partner stays in the usual lying position while you straddle and lean forward to lie on top. 

You can use a pillow under your knees for added comfort. It’s also the best position when you’re getting tired. It allows your partner to take over.

3. Asian Cowgirl

The Asian is the best cowgirl position for anal play and teasing. It gives you more control over speed and angle. But this is also the most straining and tiring cowgirl variation, especially for us on the bigger side. 

Instead of kneeling, you’ll squat with your feet planted on the ground and your knees bent. To last in this position, put pillows under your bum for support and let your partner do most of the work. 

4. Sitting Cowgirl

Switch things up by taking it to the chair. Straddle your partner while seated facing each other. Use a wide and sturdy chair for comfort. Also, have a table nearby for added support. 

5. Reverse Chair

This one’s like giving your partner a lap dance. You’ll still be straddling a seated partner but facing away. Keep your feet on the ground for balance and support. 

But if you want to place your feet on the seat, use a wider chair and place a pillow under your knees to reduce fatigue.  

6 Tips to Enhance Your Cowgirl Experience

Now that you know the different cowgirl positions, it’s time to learn how to make the most of the experience so that it’s enjoyable for both you and your partner. 

1. Pick the Right Surface

Choose a mattress or surface where your partner can comfortably lie back and where you can ride with stability. You don’t want a super soft mattress that turns your cowgirl ride into a bumpy experience. 

For chair positions, choose a wide seat with back support and keep a table nearby for extra balance. 

2. Use Cushions and Pillows

Cushions and pillows work wonders in preventing fatigue and reducing strains. Placing them in the areas mentioned earlier, helps you stay in the cowgirl position longer. They also reduce pressure on your knees and support your weight.

3. Grind Instead of Bounce

As much as you want the experience to be pleasurable, consider your partner’s well-being too. Bouncing makes your partner prone to penile injury. With our weight, the risk is higher. 

So instead of bouncing up and down, just grind. It’s just as pleasurable. You can make this a more enjoyable experience by widening or narrowing your knees or adjusting your angles. 

4. Lean on Your Partner

When it gets tiring, ask your partner to support you by holding your hips or legs. You can also lean back to reduce pressure on your thighs and try different angles. You can also lean forward to stimulate your G-spot more.   

5. Use Toys and Accessories

While you can easily reach orgasm in a cowgirl position, who says you can’t enhance your experience? Toys and accessories can add variety and excitement. 

I personally love the Alberta from BeYourLover. It is flexible and adjusts to any angle no matter which cowgirl position I do.  

6. Keep Communication Sexy and Open

Be open with your partner. Discuss boundaries, preferred angles, and comfort levels. This will not only make your intimate time more enjoyable, but it will also build trust between the two of you.

Final Takeaway for Plus-Sized Ladies

We may not fit the “magazine cover” beauty standards, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t sexy as hell. 

Remember, your partner wants to do cowgirl with you because they find you beautiful. So own it, celebrate it, and as Lady Gaga says, embrace that you are beautiful in your own way and “on the right track.”

It’s not a surprising statistic, though. As consenting adults, you are free to spice up your romance in the bedroom with some kinks. A 2020 study even claims that many people find BDSM activities sexually arousing.

If you are interested in this lifestyle, it’s important to be clear on what it entails.

Knowing the ins and outs of BDSM ensures that your relationship with your partner remains fun and satisfying. It also minimizes risks that could lead to accidents or even legal trouble.

What Is BDSM?

BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism, but not all elements need to be present for an act to be considered BDSM. It’s an umbrella term encompassing bondage and discipline (B/D), dominance and submission (D/s), and sadism and masochism (S/M).

One, two, or all of these aspects can exist in a BDSM relationship.

BDSM is a lifestyle where kinks or unconventional fetishes exist. Control, pain, and restraints may be involved. When done correctly, the result is a satisfying and fun relationship, strengthening the bond between partners. 

Mutual understanding also improves as open communication becomes essential.

There is no right or wrong way to engage in BDSM. Your kink is your kink. Whether you are into scat play or a golden shower, you do you. However, three elements are indispensable:

• Consent
• Safety
• Communication

Without these, it’s not BDSM at all.

What BDSM Is Not? 

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Not everyone is into BDSM, and many people unfamiliar with it have misconceptions about this lifestyle.

If you want to engage in BDSM, it’s important to clear up these misunderstandings to avoid accidents or even lawsuits.

BDSM Is Not an Excuse for Abuse or Assault 

In 2015, a college student was accused of raping a classmate. His alibi was that he was reenacting scenes from “Fifty Shades of Grey.”

It was consensual at first when the classmate willingly stripped her clothes and allowed him to blindfold her. However, things took a dark turn when he struck her with his belt and fists.

When she managed to free one arm and attempted to flee, he restrained her again and raped her.

This incident is one of many cases where perpetrators use BDSM as an excuse to commit crimes and abuse. But BDSM is not rape, abuse, or assault, it is a lifestyle where the word "no" is respected.

BDSM is based on mutual consent and clear agreements between sober adults.

BDSM Is Not a Mental Illness

There was a time when BDSM was considered a mental disorder or a response to psychological distress. If this were true, then 47% of people (as mentioned earlier) would be considered mentally ill.

However, this perception has changed.

According to The Atlantic, in 2010, the American Psychiatric Association (APA) announced that it would revise its diagnostic codes in the 2013 edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5).

This time, consenting adults who engage in non-conventional sexual behaviors (kinks) are no longer deemed as mentally ill. 

BDSM Is Not Just a Sexual Fetish

While BDSM can be a kink or sexual fetish, it’s more than just sex.

As mentioned before, BDSM is a lifestyle.

A couple, friends, or even two consenting adults can engage in BDSM without having sex. You’ll understand this better as we delve into the three main aspects of BDSM.

The 3 Main Aspects of BDSM

BDSM is an umbrella term for kinks and unconventional sexual practices that may involve pain, bondage, and dominant-submissive roleplay.

Here’s a closer look at the three aspects of BDSM:

1. Bondage and Discipline

Bondage refers to the use of physical restraints, such as sex handcuffs, ropes, chains, or fabric, to limit movement. However, restraints don’t always have to be physical. Sometimes, a submissive assumes a restrictive position as instructed by their dominant.

Bondage can be light, such as tying a partner’s hands, or intricate, like the Japanese bondage art of shibari and kinbaku.

The purpose of bondage can be erotic or aesthetic. It can be for sexual pleasure, photography, or showcasing a submissive at BDSM events.

Discipline, on the other hand, refers to mental restraints, where rules and protocols govern behavior.

For example, rules may dictate:

• The submissive’s schedule
• How they behave in certain settings
• How they address the dominant (e.g., “Master” or “Sir”)
• What they wear
• Failure to follow these rules results in punishments, such as kneeling for a certain period, assuming a human furniture position, or receiving a spanking.

While bondage and discipline often go hand in hand, they don’t always have to.

2. Dominance and Submission

Dominance and submission is also known as a D/s relationship. The dominant partner is the one in control and the submissive partner grants this control. 

The dominant player is also known as the dom, master, or top in the relationship. If the dom is female she is also known as the dominatrix or mistress. Throughout this article, we will refer to the dominants as doms. 

Meanwhile, the submissive in the relationship is also known as the sub, bottom, or slave. In this article, we will refer to the submissives as subs. 

Although there seems to be a superior and inferior relationship, it is consensual and beneficial for both of them.

Despite having control, a dom is responsible for their sub’s well-being. They must respect the sub’s limits and needs.

Meanwhile, the sub has more power than people think. They determine how much control the dom is allowed to have.

For an inside look at a D/s relationship, check out this interview with Master Berlin and Slave Angel Blue:

3. Sadism and Masochism

Sadism and masochism is also known as S&M or sadomasochism. Sadism refers to the pleasure of inflicting pain, humiliation, or degradation, whereas masochism refers to the pleasure of receiving pain, suffering or humiliation. 

Contrary to popular belief, S&M is not required in BDSM. Not all doms are sadists, and not all Subs are masochists.

Additionally, pain and humiliation do not excuse abuse or assault. BDSM still follows the principle of consent.

Pain in S&M can be:

• Mental (e.g., being called "slut," "whore," or "cumdump")
• Physical (e.g., spanking, whipping, or cock-and-ball torture [CBT])

Since S&M is intense and potentially dangerous, safety should be more observed. Before engaging in this relationship, both the sadist and the masochist should know their personal limits. 

6 Protips and Techniques for a Successful BDSM Lifestyle

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For a starter, the following tips and techniques are most basic things that you should know to be successful this lifestyle:

1. Always Ask for Consent

You might say that this is a no-brainer rule in BDSM, but some people still use BDSM as an excuse to demand sex without consent. 

Consent may be verbal or non-verbal. The doms need to pick up on a sub's non-verbal cues, especially when the latter is gagged and unable to speak.

2. Be Prepared

Always keep a first-aid kit, scissors, or handcuff keys nearby. You don’t want the sub to end up like Jessie in Gerald’s Game, where her husband died while she was bound and helpless. Being prepared helps prevent accidents like this.

Also, learning CPR is especially useful for doms and sadists.

3. Ensure Clear Communication

“We made a contract. And he collared me and I signed a contract… Yes, we both signed it and it’s a lifetime-and-beyond contract.” - Angel Blue

It's best to create a contract that both of you can sign. This contract can be revisited if you or your partner want to make changes.

In a dom/sub relationship, there’s no room for fear, shyness, or hesitation. You should communicate your desires, wants, and needs with your partner. Set clear boundaries that neither of you should cross.

If you are the sub, be sure to communicate any medical conditions or past traumatic experiences that could be triggered during play.

4. The Sub Is the Dom’s Responsibility

“And because there are no limits, that means I have to exercise my authority responsibly. It’s not like I’m some kind of a little tyrant or who would exercise that authority in an injurious manner. I could, but I won’t” - Berlin

In 2016, John Broadhurst neglected his aftercare duty to his partner after rough sex. He was charged with manslaughter because of this. Although the sex was consensual, things went wrong when he left his partner, Natalie Connolly, bleeding to death.

If you are a dom or a sadist, be attuned to your partner’s needs. What you inflict is your responsibility.

5. Engage With a Sober and Clear Mind

Do engage in play if you are intoxicated. 

Many BDSM scenes and sexual encounters have resulted in lawsuits or fatal accidents because the dom was under the influence. Broadhurst is an example of this.

6. Do Your Research and Training

If you are new to BDSM, it’s important to do your research, especially if you are into sadism and masochism.

Learn how to inflict pain in a way that does not put your partner in danger. Also, start practicing on a plushie or toy before attempting it on a real person.

Final Thoughts

You might be curious about the BDSM lifestyle. However, accept that everyone is not into it, and some may even judge it. This could include old-fashioned or religious individuals in your community. 

What matters is your relationship with your partner. What happens between you does not need to involve others, no matter how hard they judge. 

The bottom line is that your BDSM activities should always revolve around consent, safety, and communication to ensure a successful and fun experience.

If you’re ready to explore this world, consider trying BDSM by browsing our website, our BDSM Kit is perfect for beginners. 

Online posts, comments, and questions are all pointing to an undeniable fact: the Cowgirl Position is becoming more popular than ever! And with that increase in popularity, there has also been an increase in women asking questions about special techniques, tips, and tricks to perform it.

In this guide, we’ll go over what the Cowgirl Position is and how you can use it to take control of your partner’s pleasure!

If you’re a woman and you want your boyfriend to go absolutely crazy over you, make sure you read until the end!

What is the “cowgirl position?”

The “Cowgirl Position” is a sexual position in which a male partner lies on their back while their female partner “rides” him from above. To do this, the woman must place one leg on either side of their partner’s waist or upper thighs and lower herself until her partner’s penis penetrates her from below. 

As you may have guessed, the Cowgirl Position gets its name from the fact that, while performing it, the woman looks like she’s riding a horse, bouncing up and down as it gallops.

Many women find “Cowgirl” appealing because it allows them to move however they want, taking control, bouncing up and down, and thrusting wildly like riding a bronco. 

“Regular Cowgirl” vs “Reverse Cowgirl”

When it comes down to performing the Cowgirl Position, there are two general ways it can be done.

The “Regular Cowgirl Position” is when you “ride” your partner from the front, facing his head.

The “Reverse Cowgirl Position” is when you “ride” your partner from the back, while facing his legs.

It’s important to note that, in both styles, you’re being penetrated vaginally, not anally. 

Because the reverse Cowgirl Position is a bit more advanced when it comes to movements and techniques, we recommend starting with the Regular Cowgirl Position first!

Why is the Cowgirl Position so Popular?

The Cowgirl Position is popular for many reasons: it’s relatively easy compared to other sexual positions, it’s incredibly enjoyable for both parties, it’s fun and dynamic, it gives the female partner more control, among other reasons.

Most people stick to a form of the Missionary Position, which means that one partner lays on top of the other. Usually, this is the man, as it’s easier to thrust down than it is up. Because of this, when most people have sex the woman lies down, pinned and unable to move much, while the man lies on top of her and has a wider range of motion and more control over the rhythm, frequency, and strength of the penetration.

The Cowgirl Position flips the script. With it, the woman is in control. She’s in command of the intercourse with her thrusts and motion. It’s the perfect way to break out of a rut in your sex life, by giving up the reins (if you’re the man) and taking charge (if you’re the woman).

Men also rave about the Cowgirl Position, as they don’t have to thrust continuously and get to sit back and experience a wide, new  range of motion and pleasure.

Techniques to Make Your Boyfriend Addicted to You with the Cowgirl Position

Let’s go over some popular techniques that, once employed, will make your boyfriend addicted to you!

• While you’re on top, rock your hips back and forth slowly 
• Move in a circular motion, moving his penis as it’s inside you
• Move your hips up and down for piston-style, straight up and down penetration
• Lean your upper body back like you’re on a swing
• Hold your partner’s hands as you move to increase the intimacy
• Move your butt up and down, jiggling and sitting lightly on his lap to increase the stimulation
• Use your hands to grab at his chest, face, and hair
• Move your hips during Reverse Cowgirl

Let’s go over the tips in more detail so you really become a Cowgirl Expert!

While you’re on top, rock your hips back and forth slowly 

First, start things off by rocking your hips back and forth slowly, starting things off with small movements and then building up to bigger motions.

Because the Cowgirl Position emulates a woman sitting on a horse, you might think that you should actually sit on top of your boyfriend. But don’t actually do this. Sitting on him too hard will most likely cause some discomfort so, while employing the Cowgirl Position, you should keep your hips slightly lifting above him, using your knees on either side of him as support. 

Take your time. Patience is key. Draw movements out to allow his male organ to become accustomed to your vagina, and to tease the delicate skin of his shaft. 

If you want to entice him visually, try touching your own breasts or sexual organ as you move your hips. 

If you find it difficult to keep your hips lifted up while on your knees, try a crouching posture, with your feet flat on the bed and your knees bent up. You may find this more comfortable and may find moving easier. This also puts less strain on your knees. Imagine sitting in a “P.E. style” position by bringing your knees together a bit. This actually exercises and improves your vaginal tightness.

Move in a Circular Motion

After rocking your hips slowly, try moving your hips in a circular motion.

The trick is to grind your hips back and forth in a circular way, but don’t rotate your hips in too wide of an arch! If you do, his sexual organ might become hurt or slip out! So be careful not to make your movements too wild!

Move Your Hips Up and Down for Piston-Style Cowgirl

Once the both of you are aroused, shift into a piston-style Cowgirl Position by moving your hips up and down.

We recommend placing your hands around his waist or rib cage, as this will provide more support as you thrust up and down. 

Don’t slam down on him! Instead, move up and down slowly, observing his reactions, and looking for the point where you’re up so high that his sexual organ almost slips out, but don’t let it! Also, instead of bouncing your entire body, imagine only your hips moving up and down. 

Free style a bit, try opening and closing your legs and watch his reactions. Experiment with different movements, at different speeds!

An M-shaped, open-leg position is recommended because it hits deeper and feels better!

Lean Your Upper Body Back While Moving

When you lean back as your thrust, your partner will be able to see more of your body, increasing intimacy and excitement. 

Place your hands around his thighs to stabilize yourself as you move. 

Try to snap your hips up as if you’re giving your butt a little lift. 

Don’t lean too far back or move too high up! You don’t want his male organ to get hurt or slip out, so keep movements small and safe. 

Hold Hands As You Move

Doing the cowgirl position while holding hands shows your affection for him, which is highly recommended.

Holding hands with your partner is great, isn’t it? It’s a great way to show affection and increase intimacy. Now imagine holding hands while doing the Cowgirl Position!

When you’re trying out new sexual positions, like Cowgirl, you might overthink things, focusing only on the new movements and positions, but don’t forget to show affection! 

Take the lead, move your hips vigorously, and hold his hands as you put yourself in the center of your passion, and he will fall head over heels for you.

Go Close-Contact and Move Your Butt Up and Down

Employing a close-contact approach to the Cowgirl Position means you can still enjoy skin-on-skin contact with your partner, even while not fully sitting on him.

Stay connected at the midsection with penetration, and focus on moving only your butt up and down. Bring your butt down on his upper thighs and near his scrotum. If you can, employ affection and stimulation techniques like kissing his hands, playing with his nipples, caressing, etc. 

With increased skin contact, you’ll be much more intimate and attuned to things like body heat, heart rate, and experience heightened pleasure and connection!

Reaching an orgasm while in a close-contact Cowgirl Position feels like melting into each other. Don’t just take our word for it, try it out for yourself!

Use a Reverse Cowgirl Position and Move Your Hips

Once you’re used to the cowgirl position, it’s recommended to try reverse cowgirl, where you face away from him.

Once you’re used to employing the Cowgirl Position, you can then move onto Reverse Cowgirl. 

Remember, here you’ll be facing your partner’s feet, with your back to him. By changing the angle of the insertion, the areas stimulated will be slightly different, giving you new sensations! 

Because this position is similar to the Doggy Style position, many people who enjoy that position will get a big kick out of it! 

Summary

In this article, we went over a few techniques to make your boyfriend addicted to you while trying out  the Cowgirl Position.

• While you’re on top, rock your hips back and forth slowly 
• Move in a circular motion, moving his penis as it’s inside you
• Move your hips up and down for piston-style, straight up and down penetration
• Lean your upper body back like you’re on a swing
• Hold your partner’s hands as you move to increase the intimacy
• Move your butt up and down, jiggling and sitting lightly on his lap to increase the stimulation
• Use your hands to grab at his chest, face, and hair
• Move your hips during Reverse Cowgirl

If you’re a woman who usually takes a passive role but wants to “surprise him for a change” or feels that “things have become a bit routine,” try surprising him with the Cowgirl Position!

The Cowgirl Position doesn’t just revitalize your sex life together, but it also puts the woman in control, allowing you to find your own pleasure points and improve your confidence!

By all means, use this article as a reference and spend an incredible night together.

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Frequently Asked Questions:

Q: Are there any benefits unique to the Cowgirl Position?

A: Yes! Many! But one of the best is that, because a woman has more control of her movement, she can stimulate her G-spot or cervix. She can subtly guide her partner to the spots where she feels pleasure through movement, without having to communicate verbally, especially during the Missionary Position.

Q: Do men get more excited in the Cowgirl Position?

A: Men can get excited with many sexual positions, but the unique charm about the Cowgirl Position is that it changes the dynamic. It gives the woman control and puts men in a different dynamic, which is often exciting and refreshing. So if your sex has become stale and your partner doesn’t seem as excited as they used to be, give it a try!

Q: My partner feels pain in the Cowgirl Position. Is there a good way to fix that?

A: When the angle of penetration in the Cowgirl Position is wrong, it can be painful for the male partner. To fix things, try arching your back and lifting your hips to find the right position. Don’t make too many sudden, harsh movements, as these are painful and also cause the penis to slip out. So don’t rush. Enjoy the moment and savor the sensations!

Q: I feel apprehensive about doing the Cowgirl Position right away

A: Like most new sexual positions, the Cowgirl Position can be a little challenging at first, and maybe even intimidating. So take things slow. Start off by straddling him while you cuddle. Kiss him. Lick his nipples, and slowly bring your sexual organ and his together. If you want to improve and feel more comfortable with the movements, you can practice with a cushion or pillow before trying it out on your partner!

Q: I want to enjoy the Cowgirl Position, but his stamina is…

A: If your partner’s stamina is lower than you’d like, using a vibrating cock ring can be a huge help. Cock rings not only improve a man’s stamina by delaying release, but also please a woman’s clitoris by vibrating against it, pleasing both partners at once. Most vibrating cock rings also allow the user to modify the vibration strength and frequency, making the Cowgirl Position more enjoyable and more dynamic.

Q: I’m not good at making circular motions with my hips in the Cowgirl Position

A: If you’re having trouble rotating your hips while on your knees, opening your legs in an M-shape makes moving your hips in this way much easier. Don’t just move in circles, but also move in figure-eight motions, which make the connected area easier to see, and drive men wild with plenty of eye candy.

Q: I’m bad at sexual positions, should I learn how to do the Cowgirl Position anyway?

A: If you don’t have a lot of sexual experience, the Cowgirl Position might be a bit tricky at first. But we promise that, after a few tries, you’ll get much better at it. If you’re a woman who doesn’t usually take the lead during intercourse, the Cowgirl Position is great at building your confidence, increasing your understanding of sexual pleasure, and giving you more experience. If you’re still having trouble, there’s no need to push yourself. It takes two to tango, after all, so ask your partner to cooperate!

Q: Is it true you can lose weight with the Cowgirl Position?

A: The Cowgirl Position isn’t guaranteed to help you lose weight but, while doing it, you do work out the muscles around your hips, thighs, and butt, so it’s definitely a form of exercise. It’s also said that, if you build lower-body strength, your metabolism may speed up, which makes it easier to lose weight. So if you like the Cowgirl Position, it could help you lose weight.

Q: I don’t feel confident while employing the Cowgirl Position. Can it still drive him wild?

A: If your confidence isn’t growing, experiment with different angles, movements, the position of your hips, and the depth of the insertion to find his pleasure points. Even without specific techniques or movements, many men are satisfied just by seeing their girlfriend or partner in sensual motion and enjoying herself.

Q: The regular Cowgirl Position is starting to feel unsatisfying, what can I do?

A: If the Cowgirl Position has become part of your routine and is starting to feel ordinary, try moving your hips while stimulating erogenous zones like his nipples or testicles. Touching your breasts or stimulating your clitoris can also heat things up for the both of you.

Q: I want to experience the Cowgirl Position when I masturbate, how can I do it?

A: You can employ the Cowgirl Position while using a vibrator. If you have a vibrator or dildo with a strong suction cup base, you can stick it to a smooth surface like the floor, a chair, or counter, and ride it for a realistic Cowgirl experience. Dildos or vibrators with a soft, skin-like texture feel more realistic.

Q: During the Cowgirl Position, what part of his girlfriend does a man look at?

A: Many guys look up at their partner’s breasts, but many also focus on the face, enjoying the look of pleasure on a woman’s face. But you can also enjoy the view! Look down at your partner’s eyes, and you’ll increase the intimacy between you.

Q: What if I’m scared of mounting him and inserting it myself?

A: Everyone feels nervous when they’re about to try any sexual position for the first time, including the Cowgirl. But if you slowly insert your partner’s penis yourself without putting too much strain on it, you’ll be fine. Using lube can help make the insertion smoother, so don’t worry about this too much!

Conclusion

We hope that this guide was of great help! Now you know much more about the Cowgirl Position, and you can go ahead and give it a try with your partner, but only before talking to them about it first! Remember, never try a new sex position with your partner without first getting their consent, and making sure they understand everything it will entail!

So talk to your partner first, then enjoy the fun and the new dynamic of being the one in control of your own pleasure!

Most people may have heard of clitoral orgasm, but some lack the information to achieve it.

Clitoral stimulation refers to having an orgasm by touching the clitoris.

We'll discuss everything in this guide, the things you need to know about clitoral orgasm, along with the techniques.

If you want to enjoy and have an orgasm using the clit, while increasing the sensitivity, continue reading this article for more.

What is Clitoral Orgasm?

Clitoral orgasm refers to reaching orgasm by touching or stimulating the clitoris. However, some people still may feel confused about how this body part works.

The clitoris, which is a unique part among women, usually swells and gets bigger when stimulated or subjected to friction. The location of the clitoris can be unique from each person. Moreover, the body typically reacts strongly when the protruding area–just above the urethral opening–is touched. The clitoris is the area where you feel this pleasurable stimulation.

If you have difficulty finding it, we recommend you to try the following steps:

• Locate the entrance to the vagina
• Gradually move your finger upward from the vaginal opening
• Locate the tip of the vaginal lamella
• If there is a lump at the tip of the vaginal opening, you have a clitoris. You can also locate the clitoris inside the turned up vaginal opening

The clitoris, like the glans, is very sensitive and will cause pain once being squeezed too hard.

However, it’s so pleasurable when the stimulation is done correctly.

The clitoris always plays an important role in the enjoyment of sex and self-pleasure, and a great body area to excite for pleasure.

The Sensation of Clitoral Stimulation

Clitoral stimulation is a pleasurable sensation you can feel radiating throughout the whole body.

Many women may have experienced clitoral arousal even if they’ve never heard of the term.

The level sensation of clitoral orgasm can vary, but many women describe the pleasant sensation–as if an electric current was flowing from the clitoris.

Clitoral stimulation is also a great way to reach an orgasm for a short time, and climax can occur as early as three to five minutes.

It’s also important to note that the time it takes to reach clitoral orgasm depends from one person to another, and the feel-good result can slightly vary.

There are various methods of clitoral stimulation–such as stimulating it with fingers or using a love toy. It’s advisable for you to find the stimulation method that suits you best.

How You Can Achieve Clitoral Arousal?

The following methods are recommended to develop clitoral arousal.

Before doing the clitoral stimulation, please make sure to wash your fingers and guarantee that they are clean.

Gently Stimulate the Clit Using Your Fingers

First, gently stimulate the area using your or your partner’s middle finger.

The direct touch could cause too much stimulation, so it’s recommended to stimulate it from the top area while wearing underwear.

By stroking gently, the clitoris will gradually become more and more harder–meaning it’s in a state of erection.

Touch It Gently Using a Circular Motion

When stimulating the clitoris, the key is using a soft touch in circular motion.

Also, since the area that feels good is different for each person, try alternating between clockwise and counterclockwise rotation.

Likewise, it’s best to repeatedly touch those areas that feel more stimulating.

Lightly Pinch the Clit to Stimulate

To further increase the sensitivity, try pinching  the area lightly.

By using your index and middle fingers, gently pinch it up and down, and you’ll feel a stronger sensation of pleasure.

However, make sure that the clitoris is erect before you pinch it.

If the clitoris is not erect, it may cause more discomfort than pleasure, so it’s better to make it erect first before pinching it for stimulation.

Stimulation by Pressing

Next, stimulating the area by pressing it with your fingers can give an even stronger sensation of pleasure.

However, if you press too hard–it can cause pain, so it’s recommended that you get used to the stimulation first, to some extent.

You can try pressing the base or beneath the clitoris using your middle finger to experience the change in stimulation.

Flick It With Your Fingers

There’s also a method to stimulate your clit by lightly flicking it with your fingers. However, it can be difficult to adjust the force, so it’s recommended to try the much gentler and easier techniques first.

Once you’re ready for a stronger sensation, you can now try flicking the sensitive area using your fingers–using a gradual intensity.

The clitoris is very delicate and sensitive even with the slightest stimulation, so try different ways to touch it and find what’s comfortable for you.

Once you’ve found the right tempo and pressure, you’ll be able to reach the climax and cum using only the clitoris.

Tips for Stimulating the Clitoris

Here are some tips you can use to make your clit stimulation successful.

Begin in a Relaxed State

If it’s hard for you to reach an orgasm using the clitoris, try to relax first, and prevent doing the stimulation in a tense state.

If you’re feeling tense, it’s difficult to become highly sensitive.

Using aromas with relaxing scents can also help to naturally calm your mind.

Moreover, soaking in a bathtub and warming up your body is also a good way to relax, so we recommend that you stimulate your clit after a bath.

Start with Gentle Strokes

The key to achieving an orgasm by stimulating the clitoris is to use the right pressure and frequency.

The clitoris is a very sensitive area, and even the lightest stimulation can lead to discomfort. 

Therefore, the right method to touch it is to do it very gently–be slow in the beginning and gradually increase it.

If you find a pleasure point that feels particularly good while experimenting with many touching techniques, you can focus on that area to successfully cum.

Try Different Positions

If you want to have a successful clitoral climax, it’s recommended that you try different positions and touching techniques.

Since each person's clitoris has a different sensation point, the most sensitive spots can differ for everyone.

You can try one of the following positions to find the one that feels best for you.

• Lying on your back
• Standing
• Sitting posture
• Prone position

If you think you have a low sensitivity, try to start with a relaxed position on your back.

After that, you can stimulate your clit in a standing position as well.

Stimulate the Clitoris and Nipples Together

If you’re experiencing trouble getting off from clitoral stimulation alone, you can try stimulating your nipples and clit simultaneously.

If you gently stimulate the nipples in the same way as you touch the clitoris, you’ll get double stimulation (upper and lower areas) to help increase your feeling of sensitivity.

Use Lotion or Lube

If you experience any discomfort when stimulating the clitoris, it’s recommended that you use lotion or lube–to increase moisture and decrease the friction.

If you stimulate the clitoris when it’s dry, the skin may rub roughly against the clit, which will eventually cause you pain rather than pleasure.

If you moisten it with lotion or lube before starting your session, the friction will reduce and make it more sensitive.

Always go for a product that’s suited for sensitive areas like the clitoris.

If you’re prone to dryness, use lotions or lubes with natural and moisturizing ingredients such as aloe or honey.

Love Toys Recommended for Clitoral Stimulation

Here are love toys recommended for clitoral arousal–those easy to use even for beginners–that come with feminine designs.

Remember, try using love goods that match your needs so you’ll enjoy stimulating your clitoris.

BeYourLover Fatima

Fatima is a ‘Dream All-in-One Vibrator’ that you can use not only for clitoral arousal but also for other forms of sexual stimulation.

Since the suction tip and the vibrator tip can be used separately, you can freely combine them whenever you want.

The suction tip and the insertion part can offer its users a warm stimulation, so you can feel a near-realistic pleasure from being sucked by lips.

Another factor is the soft silicone part gives an even more realistic sensation.

If you are not sure which love toy to choose, Fatima is a good choice for beginners.

The Fatima love toy also comes with a remote control feature, which is perfect for couples who are looking for more excitement.

BeYourLover Alberta

The Alberta (app version) is a suction rotor that comes with a really cute camera look.

The pearl white and rose gold color–a combination that stands out for its elegance–makes it easy to add to your collection, while being easy and comfortable to use.

Alberta can also be used in three ways: clitoral, between the stumps, and inside the vagina. 

Furthermore, Alberta gives its users that pleasurable feeling, so anyone can reach an orgasm.

The set also includes a special nipple clamp and vibrating rotor, to allow users a wider range of enjoyment compared with the previous Alberta.

The memory function also stores the last used vibration mode and suction mode, so the next time you start up the device, you’ll be able to enjoy it immediately rather than setting things up once again.

Another amazing feature of this product is that you can link it to an app, and by installing the free “BeYourLover” app, you can remotely control this love toy from a long distance.

If you want to experience a numbing and high-pressure orgasm deep inside your body and are looking for an easy-to-use love toy, you should definitely use Alberta.

Final Thoughts

After we explained how clitoral orgasm works, now, you have an idea how to achieve it by using the mentioned techniques.

The clitoris is a highly-sensitive part of the body, so it’s very easy to reach an orgasm once you learn how to use it efficiently.

If you want to reach a clitoral orgasm, it’s best to start with a gentle touch, and be careful to not suddenly stimulate it in a strong way. 

By starting in a relaxed state, stimulating the clit gently, trying different positions, touching the nipples, and using lotion or lube, you can achieve a pleasurable experience.

If you have trouble with your clitoral stimulation experience, you can always refer and try the tips above for better experience.

Many people may imagine that when squirting, foreplay is something that can only be performed by hand.

However, in fact, you can also squirt by stimulating the clitoris.

The following sections will show you the right techniques to stimulate the clitoris so you or your partner will achieve that amazing feeling.

If you are a clitoral squirter or want to squirt, you can check this guide to squirt successfully.

How to Squirt By Stimulating the Clitoris

The conditions for squirting when touching the clitoris are different when compared with stimulating the G-spot using fingers.

Here’s how to squirt with the clitoris.

First, you can watch naughty videos that show your fantasies to increase your arousal level.

Squirting by stimulating the clitoris can be difficult at first, but if you really want to squirt using only your clitoris, give it a try to know if it’s for you.

In order to squirt with the clitoris, it’s important that you or your partner is relaxed and feeling good.

Before stimulating the clitoris, try not to touch your body first. After you become horny by watching your preferred naughty videos, caress only your nipples and slowly guide your hand towards the lower part of your body.

Always remember to take your time while increasing your arousal level, so you can experience a much deeper orgasm.

In this section, we’ll discuss the right tips and techniques to squirt just by stimulating the clitoris.

Carefully Caress the Area

Take advantage when the excitement level is high to stimulate the clitoris.

First, you can gently touch the area around it.

One of the keys is to not touch the clitoris directly to increase the arousal and anticipation.

Once you feel that desire to touch the clitoris starts to grow, it’s a sign that your sensitivity is also increasing.

When this happens, the increased amount of love juice will also naturally follow, so you’ll squirt much easier.

After all the teasing, you can now touch the clitoris directly.

Try to give a much weaker stimulation first, and when you can no longer hold back, you can switch to much stronger stimulation.

If you’re feeling an urge to pee, this can help you squirt by letting go of your inhibitions.

Just to let you know, squirting is a little different from the feeling of cumming.

When a woman cums, she can feel her vagina contract. However, when she squirts, she squirts spontaneously–the moment the tightness around the entrance is released.

You can imagine the vagina releasing urine, so remembering this sensation will make it easier for you to grasp the feeling of squirting.

Tips to Make It Easier to Squirt

Squirting by stimulating the clitoris can be challenging, but the following tips will help to greatly increase your success rate.

Learn to Squirt Using the G-spot First

To successfully squirt using the clitoris, we recommend that you should learn how to squirt using your G-spot before starting.

Honestly, it’s difficult to squirt using only the clitoris without any prior squirting experience.

Therefore, it’s important to successfully squirt using the G-spot several times to get used to the sensation.

To squirt using your G-spot, you can use these techniques:

• Find the G-spot
• Stimulate the clitoris and other sexual organs to wet the vagina
• Stimulate the G-spot
• Use a love toy

You can find the G-spot by feeling a rough area near the entrance of the vagina.

Once you find it, it can help you squirt by pressing a little harder or by using continuous stimulation using a steady speed.

You may also feel a strong sense of discomfort at first, but once you get used to it, you’ll feel a sensation that’s similar to the urge to urinate.

If you feel the urge to urinate, it’s a sign that you’re ready to squirt, so don’t stop stimulating the G-spot.

If you’re not good at stimulating the G-spot, it’s recommended to use a love toy to help you develop the sensation.

Drink Water or Alcohol Beforehand to Increase Water Content

Another trick for easier squirting is to drink water or alcohol, so you’ll increase your body's water content before developing a squirt.

The liquid being released from squirting is different from urine, but it can be similar in smell and appearance–depending on the amount of water in the body.

However,  drinking coffee, tea, and other beverages containing caffeine are not recommended.

Because by doing so, caffeine can give you a diuretic effect. Therefore, the more you drink, the sooner your liquids will pass as urine.

Furthermore, drinking alcohol before stimulating yourself gives you a much relaxed feeling and atmosphere. If you like alcohol, we recommend that you drink it before your pleasure time.

But keep in mind that drinking too much will also likely decrease your sensitivity, so drink in moderation to avoid getting too drunk before you squirt.

Stimulate Your Clitoris and G-spot Together

If you’re thinking, “I've been stimulating my clitoris for a long time, but I don't feel like I can squirt at all...”

Don’t give up by getting stuck in this thought and persist to caress the G-spot and clitoris at the same time.

Especially if you have experience squirting from touching the G-spot, stimulating both areas simultaneously will allow you to squirt from either.

Even if you’re unable to squirt using your G-spot, by touching both areas, your sensitivity can help improve the chances of you squirting.

The Bottom Line 

Now, we’ve finished discussing the methods and techniques for squirting by stimulating the clitoris.

In order to experience a deep orgasm from clitoral stimulation, it’s important to keep your arousal level high enough.

You can watch a naughty video to make yourself feel as if you are being caressed, so you can gradually increase your sensitivity.

Remember the following tips so you’ll have a successful squirting session.

• Squirt using G-spot before your clitoris
• Drink water or alcohol beforehand to increase the water content in your body
• Stimulate the clitoris and G-spot at the same time to help you squirt

If you find it difficult to develop squirting using only your fingers, you always rely on love toys—so you’ll be more sensitive to squirting.

Squirting using the clitoris alone can be difficult for beginners, but you can always refer to this article to squirt and draw out the self-pleasure you never knew you had.